Okay!
This sucks
There's a girl I know, her mom is really over protective. She loves me, thinks I'm an awesome guy, and I've been bestfriends with her daughter for a while. One night we even cried together (the mom and I) because we just had the deepest talk about life, etc. She's a great woman, she's into spirituality and healing and she's really together. Unfortunately her street smarts are lacking, and on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being Tupac and 1 being Fred Penner (Really bad scale, I don't care, I'm angry and clouded) she's a -5! No exaggeration at all.
Take this situation. Her eldest daughter dated someone who did coke. Her mom found out, went to the police station and pulled up his record, and told everyone at the highschool that he's a coke dealer. She almost got sued for slander, probably put her daughter through psychological hell, and more than likely made a big ass out of herself for blowing this situation out of proportion.
Now I'm not entirely sure if posting one bad example's going to provide the proper background information, but it's a start... her mom, she's told me she thinks I met their family for a good reason, and that she feels I'm really spiritually awake. And although she probably didn't suspect that her daughter and I had feelings manifesting for eachother (I did have a serious gf at the time I met this girl) she acted casual nonetheless.
The girl is really sweet and pure, I've never met anyone like her before. People say that a lot, but I swear the energy that emits from her is so pure, that it's unlike anyone I've ever encountered in my entire life. I felt this way before I had a single feeling for her, and I could not make myself stop admiring her. I think that we have such a healthy relationship, and I feel blessed that she's finally opened up enough to want to take it further. Took her 6 months just to give me a hug, that's how shy she is.
Now finally to the situation as of late. Her mom came downstairs last night to find me in her bed, fully clothed, actually wearing fricken jeans and knowing that I was tired as hell from my flu and cough medicine, and told me to get out because I know better. Understandably I abided by her wishes and didn't argue at all, it was totally understandable. Really sucks that I got caught though. The furthest her and I have gone was cuddling anyways. The real sick part is that she called her dad, whom she divorced, and told him she found us hiding under the covers together really late at night. Putting it in that context really twists the situation around and is going to put any father into a cold shock! Fuck! I have such a good relationship with him too, I respect and revear him. No I'm fucking scared to even think of the guy... all he could say to my friend was that he could take her car away, and he demanded to know why we had to be under the covers together. Jesus fucking Christ.
I want to talk to the mom, but she sort of has a holier than thou sort of ego. Funny thing is, she's a self proclaimed healer, and I'd have to admit she's a damn good one, but sadly and ironically her ego's clouding her view. She takes her daughter for a god damned fool, even though she went off about how her last tarot reading said she has nothing to worry about. She hasn't had a relationship for a while, which I know is going to be a big factor, and she told her daughter that even though I'm a great guy I'm still a "boy". I'm assuming that she associates the word boy with nothing but SEX SEX SEX. If I were in it for that, I wouldn't have bothered waiting on this girl. I haven't had SEX SEX SEX for almost a year, and if I can abstain for this long and perhaps another year (Could very well be the case, no exaggeration) then I'm fully commited to staying with this girl. Even if it takes another damn year before she kisses me with tongue, I don't care.
How do I talk to her? I'll have to eventually. Her daughter's pretty shooken up, she's more gentle than a feather, but strangly enough she's really strong mentally at the same time. But no doubt this is going to be a slap in the face for her, coming from her mother whom she has a wonderful relationship with otherwise. I've never witnessed such a close mother-daughter bond, but her mom's such a fucking hypocrite when it comes to things like this. She's adamant that her sayings are fucking gods word, and this is the only thing I don't like about the woman. Her logic is dangerous not only to the wellbeing and upbringing of her daughters, but to herself! I like the woman a lot, but she's so stubborn.
I brought up the subject about parents sometimes being over protective, and all she did was smile and I could literally see the words I said bounce off of her stupid grin! I can't beleive how she filters out the things she doesn't like. The lady's a complete moron when it comes to some things unfortunately, and I really hate to say it.
Any advice on what I can say to her, not particularly in my defence. When it comes to this situation, all I'm planning on doing is bending over and telling her that whatever we do, ever, will be thought out responsibly and she'll have to respect that. As she's fully aware that I respect her and her daughter as much as I do myself. But down the line, I'd like to let her know that she really can't do this to me or her daughter anymore. Most nights her mom wakes up and screaaaams her name, "KAAARRRLAA, KARRRLAAAAA!!!!! WHERE ARE YOU!!!!" and I've heard it many times before. A couple nights when she never picked up her cell phone, she drove around town past mid night going to all of her friends' houses, waking up all of the parents who work crazy shifts. *ahem* My parents were not pleased to say the least. And even when she has her cell phone on, and ready to take a call at any moment, and not even out past 10pm (Sometimes even at home in her room reading a book!!) her mom thinks it'd be okay to drive around the neighbourhood and go to everyones house looking for her daughter.... my parents again, who both work odd hours and go to school as well did not appreciate the wake up call.
This post is very unclear! Yes! I'm sober, a little jaded, and I have a hard time typing in this tiny box so I just hope I didn't ramble too much. If anyone manages to screen all of the filler/extra junk and decypher this message, I'd love for you to post, or pm me any advice. It'll be considered, and passed on to my friend as well. This is more for her sake than mine. Fuck this bed situation, she'll get over it, I'm just worried about my friends well being. I really don't think her mom she worry this much. She desperately needs a man, or something. I hate to talk so much smack about her but it's all true, she's even worse than how I've described her. Please help
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