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thats_incentive said: Yeah no shit this world is done for as far as I'm concerned. We've saturated it with false values and distractions. We've overfished the lifeblood of the earth, the oceans, meanwhile pouring our black sin back into it.

Sorry guys I just got friend zoned by this girl I mean I know she wasn't right for me I just wanted her to be so badly, I pictured us paddling out tandem on small summer days together, taking the motorbike out to the fields to go picking on cold and rainy fall days, spending the evenings afterward over tea and sweaters, candles and long talks (she's real great for talking to).

You're getting the whole story because I have nobody else to tell it to. And hey actually come to think of it I'd like your perspectives.


So basically she just came on to me super strong. I thought she was cute at work but wanted to play it slow and let things build up nice and natural, you know flirt and get to know her better. I guess she got impatient and asked for my snapchat and then after we did that a while, my number. We went on two dates, the second of which ended in us watching a movie at her place then I kissed her and bam she was on top of me and we were making out then whew the clothes were coming off. Now this girl is very attractive, but for me I need some kind of emotional connection or at least to be very comfortable with the girl so I started feeling weird and well just couldn't get into it. I was feeling pressure and like this was just the I guess obligatory thing people do, idk. It really freaked me out and I just wasn't into it but I was still trying to force things and I just couldn't get it up, nor did I really want to.

Oh yeah right after she climbed on top of me and we had been making out for a minute, when things were still cool (cause I liked that a lot), she asked if she could be my girlfriend which was kinda weird. I shoulda said hold up what why but I just said yes idk what that was about.

Anyway the next day we worked together and things were kinda awkward and afterward I texted her and said maybe we should hold off on the girlfriend thing, that I liked her and only her (obviously duh) and she would be an awesome girlfriend (cause she was really so affectionate, always positive and complementing me), but that it was too soon and we should see what happens. I'm not a labels type of person I'm a feelings type of person and we hadn't even had time to possibly have worked those out.

So she comes right back with "I think we should just be friends" and "I feel like this is all just a lot". After that she's completely cold to me, totally uninterested.

So I said ok and everything, that was a while back.  I should've forgotten it then and there, but I didn't and we hung out a few times (friend zone) and maybe flirted some idek. Now this other guy gots hired around the time I asked her out the first time, and he's a real jerk, I'm not going into it, just trust me. He works his way up to manager pretty quick, and after that the two of them really hit it off, they spend a lot of time together, and ok I'm not discounting that it could totally just be my jealousy but I swear it seems like she likes him.

Catch is he's married so he's like off limits and she can't admit to it, maybe even to herself. Anyway it bothered me enough and was obvious enough that one day I asked her if she liked him and she got pretty defensive and angry at me (rightfully so, perhaps) with things like "heres the thing, some people just resonate well together" and when I say "well if you vibe well with that asshole then we're even less compatible than I thought" her "well he's my boss what do you expect me to do?"

But idk. I swear I see it in her eyes when she talks to him, they get wider, she goes up to him for no reason and says little things, she says goodbye to him and not to me when she leaves. I just can't shake the obvious, but I also can't seem to shake how I feel about her. :cranky:

All this is ok I mean she can do whatever she wants, I just wish she never would've fucked with me in the process :/ It just suxxxxx so much I've been literally 100% alone for like 2 years and happy that way then all the sudden woah thought I was getting a cool little friend but no It's two dates, she realizes she doesn't like me, leads me on for a couple months while suppressing her feelings for this other guy, then bam I'm somehow even lonelier than I was before.


What do you guys think? Honestly I'm just so confused (( 

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I sort of feel like there is no "friend zone" with a chick. Friend zone simply means someone is in her "cock zone" and it just probably isnt you. You know?....

thats_incentive said:

Yes it's a huge problem, one of the many

They make me feel better, and often offer a fresh perspective, but nothing that lasts

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thats_incentive said:

Whatever it doesn't even matter I'm being stupid just wanted to discuss it. Fuckin FORGET IT

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imachavel said:

thats_incentive said:

Whatever it doesn't even matter I'm being stupid just wanted to discuss it. Fuckin FORGET IT

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Could you fuck her just to feel better? This will determine if you are still in the friend zone or not. I know she is married but it is not my fault.

I will share some advice a friend shared with me once. He said "dude I am depressed also, its not like this girl you are droning on about is giving me pussy either." The strange thing about this is it turns out she was giving him pussy. I guess this is a bad example. My main point is you are not depressed alone. Now I am depressed as well.

It is the main reason I get so depressed coming here. Nobody gives it up on this site. Just stories about girls who used to fuck and now don't. Ruins a mans night. Well there see? Now I can say I know how you feel.

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