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Apollyphelion
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Re: Spank? or No Spank? [Re: Prisoner#1]
#8600300 - 07/06/08 10:27 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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You sound like an awesome father, DaddyPris:)
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Duaber
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I say if my kid doesn't learn after a handful of time its beating time. But I wouldn't use an object just due to childhood experiences
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Prisoner#1
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Penguarky Tunguin said: There is the answer.
Keep the kids' room free of anything that will provide them entertainment in the event of a timeout.
the adverse is while they're young they associate it with punishment, trying to convince them it's bedtime becomes a new challenge
that's when you dose them heavily with paregoric and wait
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Prisoner#1
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Apollyphelion said: You sound like an awesome father, DaddyPris:)
I'm a product of my upbringing, my father was a great dad as much as I can remember, he left for the federal pen when I was about 7 my step father was an abusive alcoholic SOB, I remember every detail of the 'lessons' what the bastard was teaching me. he showed me what not to do, my mom was fair but she was firm, she taught me the right things
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Re: Spank? or No Spank? [Re: Prisoner#1]
#8600434 - 07/06/08 11:16 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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consistency.
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MOTH
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I was brutally spanked as a child, over everything. Wiggle too much in church? My dad would pull me out of the sermon into a quiet room and let me have it. Pee my bed as a child? Spank. Etc. My dad would use either a 2 x 4 piece of wood or a belt, and lash me to the point of welts.
My parents could have found a better way of educating me. Because I harbor resentment.
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When I have kids I will use spanking as a last resort.
I'm not gonna lie, I got spankings.
Some parents pop their kids for minor things... Like at my second job I see parents pop their kids all the time for like grabbing candy off the shelves or not doing something fast enough... or even simply asking for candy. I believe that is wrong. Simply saying "No." or "Don't do that." with authority should be ample in those situations. The parents I see doing this are losers anyway, they tell their kids they don't have money for a 10 cent tootsie pop or they don't need the candy... as they buy a $5 pack of cigarettes for themselves.
A lot of people brought up good points, it really depends on the kid. Some kids respond well to time-outs and scoldings, some need a little more. It must be hard to raise two different kids like that, as the one who gets spankings will definitely point out they're getting picked on since the other child doesn't get spanked.
I just want to instill good moral values and respect into my children, and contribute something positive to the future.
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Re: Spank? or No Spank? [Re: Prisoner#1]
#8600619 - 07/06/08 12:30 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Prisoner#1 said:
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Wiccan_Seeker said: where do you people draw the line between an educational correction and child abuse?
at anger, I do not discipline my children when I'm angry, I dont do it to teach them a lesson, if they're not paying attention to what I'm telling them, that's when they get popped on the butt, it's rarely more than one. if they try to push it past that point, it becomes a waiting game, they can sit in their room and wait, there's no toys to play with, no TV or games, it's a boring wait, when they're ready to listen we can continue with discipline. I also do not scream at my kids, I'm a quiet guy, when I have to raise my voice they know I'm about to become much more serious with anything that follows.
spankings dont repair a broken window, that's when it's time to talk about why and how? why did it happen? how can we prevent it in the future? why is dad displeased? how can we keep him from having a coronary?
I always talk to them about consequences of action, why they're being punished and what led up to it, I try t teach them to look ahead of the immediate act and what the outcome may be
Nice post. This is my attitude exactly.
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Re: Spank? or No Spank? [Re: MOTH]
#8600707 - 07/06/08 12:55 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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MOTH said: My dad would use either a 2 x 4 piece of wood or a belt, and lash me to the point of welts.
My step fathers favorite expression before he started was I'll wear this belt out on your ass, one day it took about 20 minutes but he had 2 halves of a belt in his hand, god forbid we get a hot wheels track for christmas and not show some excitement.
back then child abuse wasnt an issue talked about, DUIs were no more than a finger shake, he had 8 before he was sentenced to a weekend in jail and a 90 loss of his license.
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As a child, I got the switch.My older bother got it point of blood one time. Because, he skip school for a week..
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Re: Spank? or No Spank? [Re: Brainiac]
#8600742 - 07/06/08 01:07 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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my stepfather used to whip the shit out of us, "bare but" spankings were a daily thing, dont get me wrong, we were very undisciplined kids until he came into the picture, my older brother the worst, & he used to get the shit beat out of him, there was a week of his life that he was chained to the radiator in the living room, until one day being unlocked to go to the bathroom he escaped, he didnt come back until my mother divorced the guy 2 yrs later, but still we were some fucked up kids, we deserved the what we got to a degree, it was really the only way of teaching us, because we were already a bunch of assholes before he came along, dont get me wrong, I dont hit my kid, but Ive disciplined him in other ways & now hes the best kid ever, but some kids NEED to be spanked
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