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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Asante]
#24558006 - 08/16/17 11:45 AM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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Asante said: In school there was this kid who kept egging me on to spank him. So, it became a thing. Others wanted in on that also so for a while I was like a terminator of spank. 
He always came back for more and wanted it harder than I was comfortable with. I never did of course but he kept going for it.
I don't think it was a gay thing at all, he was straight as a whistle as far as I could tell, its my theory that he got spanked at home and that he developed a taste for it, to get it from a peer who wouldnt take it too far (I was bigger, stronger but super nice). He clearly was exhilarated by it, it wasnt him punishing himself through me or another negative behavior, this was clearly a treat to him.
So thats definitely another undesired effect of spanking: it could potentially turn your kid into a fetishist, a kinkster, who seeks out pain for thrill.
Ya my parents were a whirlwind of drugs. One christmas they found their marijuana grow. I was running around shutting off the lights for the baby plants. Lots of abuse. So I think that shits more or less normal. I dated this trans girl for a bit and she hit me over the head with a log. Pushed me down a flight of stairs from behind. I just laughed it off. That sort of abuse is just normal for me.
I don't know what an actual healthy relationship is. I'll take abuse that hurts my feelings a lot. I spend most of my time alone these days because of it. It's not fair to me or them. Sigh.
Shit the only concussion i've ever had was my ma checking me from behind. Face first straight into a door frame. I woke up about 4 days later. Asked my brother what the fuck just happened?
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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Enjoywho]
#24558417 - 08/16/17 03:04 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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Fuck, four days out cold and no hospital? That tops my entirely unattended 3 days of coma. My mom figured I had committed suicide (I hadn't, accidental drug overdose) and said that I looked so peaceful that she didn't want to intervene.
What can I say? A childhood in the trenches, like you had.
She had a deathwish and figured I had too and that her little Edison had concocted something lethal in the toolshed and took it.
Brutal man, 4 days, I hope you didnt sustain any permanent damage.
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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Asante]
#24558581 - 08/16/17 04:15 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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I have this pain in the same spot that spikes up quite a bit. But I've had that since at least 16 which was 10 years ago.
Ya I guess I went to work did my job came home. Basically did everything I was supposed to do but I can't remember any of it. Just finally waking up and asking my brother what the fuck? Feeling my forehead and I had a knot the size of a baseball.
Very weird experience. I remember talking to father for a bit. After it happened. He just asked me are you drunk? I just said no I don't think so and fell on the pavement. Cracked my head again. Than just emptiness until I woke up.
Nah I didn't go to a doctor what the fuck am I supposed to say. My ma did this to me? I don't go to doctors unless i'm on deaths door.
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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Cyrus19]
#24558586 - 08/16/17 04:19 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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if you want liberal children, here's what you do:
reject the child's plea's for overcompensation, as the mother/father of the child, but then send the child over to the significant other, and have him/her chastise him/her, while following said rebuke the previous parent then gives in, giving the child whatever he/she wants.
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JonBongGroovy said: Completely pointless, physical abuse just made me more angry and misbehave more in school and else where even if I knew I was gonna get it later.
I totally agree, kids who are beaten as children later grow up to be far more likely to be juvenile delinquents, to be alcoholics and drug addicts, and have lots of psychological problems later on down the road. And this is something that has been proven.
For the most part, you don't even need to use physical punishment to get a kid to do something you want to do. Children naturally already want to listen to adults and try hard to make their parents happy.
A lot of people use physical punishments far too quickly without really knowing or learning about child psychology. Like, a huge part of the reason a 1 to 2 year old will have a full-blown tantrum is because they are frustrated from not being able to verbally communicate exactly what they want.
There are so many other tactics to use instead of hitting. Picking them up and hugging them tight stops a tantrum almost immediately. Asking them, "ARE YOU MAD?" and using the same body language, conveying that you are upset just like your kid. This also stops the tantrum, because they have finally found a way to express their frustration and somebody understands them.
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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Enjoywho]
#24558599 - 08/16/17 04:26 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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Nol I meant, your unconsciousness was taken as a given and you were not put under care, but just left out cold until you either came to or didnt.
Thats not how it goes in Mr Rogers' neighborhood.
Neither of us lived there
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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Asante]
#24558904 - 08/16/17 07:02 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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More or less. Another thing swept under the rug.
And I agree Crystal. I'm the oldest of 4. So My responsibility was taking care of the youngins while dad beat ma and etc etc. I'm the only one out of all of them that does any sort of drugs. Shit my brother doesn't even drink pop only water.
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Re: Child Discipline [Re: Enjoywho]
#24563296 - 08/18/17 04:13 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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Carbonated soft drinks are very bad for your health in so many ways. Coke, pepsi etc are all garbage.
Best way to raise a good kid is to provide a good example
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