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Delaying orgasm (for males)
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i'm dating a new girl and suddenly I'm inconsistent with my sexual endurance.  Most of the time I am not able to keep going until she climaxes (and she is able to climax in just a few minutes).

The first time we had sex, I could not keep my erection for some reason.  it was our second date and she was all over me the instant I walked in... i guess she caught me off guard.  It was embarassing to give her that first impression of my sexual prowess, and now I think it's psyching me out. I felt like a bad lover, and I've always been a good lover in the sexual sense.  That had never been a problem for me with other partners (except when i was shitface drunk, which I was not). 

anyway, erections aren't so much the problem anymore, it's that I'm coming too fast.

Before her I had not had sex in nine months or so, with an ex.  I rarely had any problem with premature ejaculation with her and I could continue to her climax very reliably.

Now, I know there are other ways to make her come, I just want to be able to *fuck* like I used to.

Anyway, I am wondering what you (guys) do to delay orgasm when you feel it approaching?  I've heard everything from relax all muscles, to clench your PC muscles, to holding your breath to breathing deeply.  a lot of mixed messages :frown:

I've been experimenting with different things while I masturbate but I haven't had a lot of success yet.

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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There are some good tips in this thread: Orgasming too fast

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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on a kind of a side note:

With my ex (the only one I've had sex with more than a few times) the sex was always awesome and I think part of it was that we almost always had marijuana in our systems when we did it. I know pot has an effect on my, uh, blood flow and I think it was beneficial for not only maintaining an erection but for inhibiting my orgasms a bit

This new girl doesn't smoke pot, and I don't much anymore either. I have thought about being secretly stoned when we get together just to see if it helps but a) it's kind of sneaky, b) it would make me more nervous, and c) I don't want to need a drug to be good

Has anyone noticed similar sexual effects of marijuana?

and BTW I have a healthy diet, in my mid 20s and I exercise

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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I try to think of something that would turn me off right b4 I am about to ejaculate and it works wonders.Just close your eyes and think of something that would make you less aroused .Believe me ,it adds a nice amt of extra time to keep going to make sure you satisfy your partner.:cool:

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: kikacife]
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in the last post in the thread Veritas linked i posted another link to a thread in Philosophy & Spirituality that is pages long and has a giant OP on male sexual longevity

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Yes, pot definitely delays orgasm.

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Viveka]
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If you find something that is a little distracting, let it distract you. Put some music on. When your getting close to a climax, listen to the music. Just put your mind on something else.


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I must not Fear. Fear is the mindkiller . Fear is the little-death that
brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and
through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. ONLY I WILL REMAIN.

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: NIMH]
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NIMH said:
If you find something that is a little distracting, let it distract you.  Put some music on.  When your getting close to a climax, listen to the music.  Just put your mind on something else.


This does help somewhat. I used to have problems with early ejaculation. It was mostly because I was a noobie lover. I used to recite multiplication tables, and examine details on the posters on her walls. This was all only during doggy style tho lol.

Certain positions increase stimulation, so beware of that too. If you have a regular lover, communicate with them, tell them you want to be able to make love longer, and take the steps to make it happen. Foreplay, penetration sex, once you get as close as you can to the point of no return, stop and go back to finger loving, kiss neck, suck breasts while working your fingers.

Also cunnilingus before sex, and bringing her to orgasm will work to your benefit of giving her just desserts.
Sorry if my post is a little scatterbrained, I'm in a bit of a rush now.

Either way, there are also desensitizing condoms you can try. Or just use a condom in general, it will add a few mins to your track record, and some peace of mind.

oh edit* for me pot intesifies the sex, and does not generally delay the orgasm, but it seems most people find the opposite. Also, I've found hunger to  be my greatest orgasm inhibitor. In the mornings when I awake, I'm pretty much always hungry. Sex on an empty stomach has brought me to points of going and going, sometimes not able to ejaculate...not that I mind, I'm in it for the shared love baby :heart:
Sex on a full stomach makes me a little lazier, and I guess my body just wants to bust a nut, so it stops being so active, sleep and digest.

Edited by Green420Thang (05/29/08 11:06 AM)

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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wow quite a high views-to-responses ratio.

That makes me feel better.

I have been doing the PC muscle exercises that veritas mentioned in the other thread, but I am wondering how to apply them during sex.  Some say to clench as orgasm approaches, but when I release, I find my penis is even more sensitive and orgasm-ready.  Do I clench while I continue to thrust or do I clench, stop for a bit, release, and then continue??

:confused:

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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You will probably learn more by utilizing the exercises during masturbation, as you will not have the distraction and/or pressure to perform which may be present during sex. Once you have more information about what works for you, you will know which techniques to apply during intercourse.

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Veritas]
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Try to realise it's all within yourself
no one else can make you change
And to see you're really only very small
and life flows on within you and without you

MUST HAVE MUSIC
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Edited by x2and2makes5 (03/19/09 04:49 PM)

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: x2and2makes5]
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Er, I have little practical experience to offer you, being female and all . . . (and, you know, having the exact bloody opposite problem . . . it takes me all damned day. Wanna trade?) but I've heard from some other males that the Fleshlight is a good stamina training tool. http://www.fleshlight.com (no, I don't own stock or any of that blah blah blah)

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: OwMyHead]
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Tantra works real well. Right as you get to the brink of the orgasm you can prevent yourself from ejaculating through careful discipline. This way you can have multiple orgasms, without ejaculating and you dont even get blueballs! It takes alot of practice, but its well worth it in the end. ITs like right when you think your about to go think about something to turn yourself off a little,distract yourself(I have add so this is easy for me, even during sex I usually get distracted), then you can build up to a full on erection again, this way you can have sex for HOURS.

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: MisterMuscaria]
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Just bust a nut and don't worry about it....who cares.  It's not a big deal, honestly.  I'm not trying to make you look like an ass, but it's not the end of the world if you bust one too fast.  Just wipe it off and keep going.  Now, if you aren't wrapping up then there might be a problem in the conception department.  No need to feel inadequate about anything.  I hope I am helping and not being a jerk.


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Those who would give up Essential Liberty to purchase a little Temporary Safety, deserve neither, and will lose both.      ~ Benjamin Franklin ~

"Let me tell you about a Porcupine's balls.  They're small, and they don't give a SHIT!"  ~Danny~

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Please be careful about this! You can open yourself to serious injury when you interrupt the urge to ejaculate. Delaying or preventing orgasm is one common cause of chronic prostatitis. I developed chronic prostatitis from doing exactly what you're trying to do. Be warned.

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #2]
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I call bullshit.  What is your source for this claim?

http://www.prostatitis.org/causes.html

http://health.yahoo.com/urinary-causes/prostatitis-what-increases-your-risk/healthwise--hw73372.html

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/prostatitis/DS00341/DSECTION=causes

http://www.urologyhealth.org/search/index.cfm?topic=115&search=prostatitis&searchtype=and

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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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well you say you never had the problem before? For me it just took practice. Strange how you adopted PE.


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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Most important thing... is to relax your muscles in that area. Clenching your PC muscles will only make it happen faster, at least in my experience.

Second thing.. is to have an orgasm shortly before you plan to do the deed. Can't always prepare for such an event but it can help.

If you feel it coming and you want to stop it.... stop pumping.

Something that always helps while masturbating.. is to get yourself to the brink of orgasm.. and just stop. That's probably the best practice you can get.


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Re: Delaying orgasm (for males) [Re: Shroomism]
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DXM will keep you goin all night.

If you can get it up, You may not be able to get off.


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