sam420 said:

Guys and girls work differently, guys love to offer practical advice but  really the girl just wants somebody to understand how they feel.  If you really want a two way conversation try talking to her about how she feels as opposed to how you can magically make her problem go away by offering solutions.

Edit: Oh, and NEVER take relationship advice from the Shroomery.

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solid man

future said:

sam420 said:

awesomebastard said:

This is why I find it hard to be in a relationship.

1)Women tend to be for the most part very selfish.

2)They want men to treat them as equals yet demand "special" treatment.

3)They are also very stubborn especially during fights they want you to step down and apologize because they need to feel they are somewhat in control of the relationship.

It all seems to stem from the fact that they are generally physically weaker then men so tend to have a Napoleon complex. ( you will also see this in many short men they act extra tough all the time.) but women don't act tough they exert mental and emotional attacks. If you are married or have a serious GF you know what I mean.

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I have a gf of 6 years and have no idea what you mean.

Maybe you should quit dating crazy bitches

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congrats.. you represent approximately .3% of the population.

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Kamin said:

What's the damned big deal about letting her vent? Everyone needs to do it. Venting is called venting and not discussing for a reason. If you care about her and she requests it, not responding shouldn't be a big deal.

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WhiskeyClone said:

Yes everyone needs to vent sometimes. I think most take it too far. Not every rant is a healthy release as much as it is a self-righteous indulgence. It's too common to dump accumulated frustrations on a friend or partner, under the pretense of healthy venting, while the root of that frustration goes unaddressed.

I had a girlfriend who would rant at me about things others did, constantly, with the same anger and venom she would have liked to unleash on the person who supposedly caused her this frustration. When I told her how it made me feel, she got upset and complained she had nobody to talk to.

I was always available to be talked to, and always willing to offer support, but I am not a receptacle for pent up anger and spite. Venting causes anger to snowball, rather than dissipate, in my experience.

Dawg, some degree of venting is normal. She's just looking for support, not advice. But if these are frequent, angry, indulgent rants I would not put up with it. If she wants support, you are deserving of being approached with respect.

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