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ManianFH
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Relationship Q
#7991981 - 02/07/08 02:33 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Sometimes my girlfriend will get very upset about something and shell start to tell me about it, but she doesnt want me to talk back. Shell say that she just wants me to listen and doesnt want my opinion. I am want to have conversations where there is a give and take to the discussion.
Without adding any more bias to this scenario, is her request reasonable to ask that I not give her any feedback and just listen while she vents, or should I have the right to give her my perspective on her situation? Comments?
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
#7991990 - 02/07/08 02:35 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Do you have the right to respond when she is talking to you?
Yeah, I think the first amendment pretty much gurantees it.
If she wants something she can yell at that won't respond, tell her to get a cactus or a puppy, not a boyfriend.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
#7992009 - 02/07/08 02:43 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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You should just do the same to her.
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ManianFH
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Rebirtha]
#7992080 - 02/07/08 03:00 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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yea that crossed my mind, but I want feedback when I talk to people, otherwise what the hell am I talking to them for? She says this is different because shes a woman. I personally think this is different because she doesn't want to hear that she might be wrong about something.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
#7992244 - 02/07/08 03:25 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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What's the damned big deal about letting her vent? Everyone needs to do it. Venting is called venting and not discussing for a reason. If you care about her and she requests it, not responding shouldn't be a big deal.
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Rebirtha
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Kamin]
#7992274 - 02/07/08 03:30 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Kamin said: What's the damned big deal about letting her vent? Everyone needs to do it. Venting is called venting and not discussing for a reason. If you care about her and she requests it, not responding shouldn't be a big deal.
Unless she is saying something might warrant a response so the guy can defend himself. Sounds like she doesn't want to be wrong and she found her way.
TO the dude who originally posted: did what she say warrant a response or did you feel the need to defend yourself?
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Rebirtha]
#7992282 - 02/07/08 03:32 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I am pretty sure she is fucking your brother at this point
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Dobie]
#7992292 - 02/07/08 03:33 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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dobie said: I am pretty sure she is fucking your brother at this point
either that or check your wallet, it might be empty.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Rebirtha]
#7992464 - 02/07/08 04:15 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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hmm
shit, i think she pulled a double doosie on me
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
#7992532 - 02/07/08 04:30 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Girls don't want solutions to problems. They want you to listen.
Guys and girls work differently, guys love to offer practical advice but really the girl just wants somebody to understand how they feel. If you really want a two way conversation try talking to her about how she feels as opposed to how you can magically make her problem go away by offering solutions.
Edit: Oh, and NEVER take relationship advice from the Shroomery.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Kamin]
#7992559 - 02/07/08 04:36 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Kamin said: What's the damned big deal about letting her vent? Everyone needs to do it. Venting is called venting and not discussing for a reason. If you care about her and she requests it, not responding shouldn't be a big deal.
Exactly!
Many times a woman just needs to talk and have you LISTEN. She doesn't want (or need) your opinion, she just needs to get some stuff off her chest.
Don't try to solve her problems..........unless she asks for your opinion.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: sam420]
#7992565 - 02/07/08 04:37 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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play mind games with her dude
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
#7992589 - 02/07/08 04:42 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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consider yourself lucky. Just smile and nod and throw in some yeas an uh huhs when appropriate.
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every once and a while its a good idea to repeat what they just said but like this: "Mm Hm. so you think that (insert last thing she just said). thats a good way of looking at things."
EDIT: the shroomery has helped me with EVERY problem i 've had in relationships
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: niteowl]
#7992622 - 02/07/08 04:48 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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This is why I find it hard to be in a relationship.
1)Women tend to be for the most part very selfish.
2)They want men to treat them as equals yet demand "special" treatment.
3)They are also very stubborn especially during fights they want you to step down and apologize because they need to feel they are somewhat in control of the relationship.
It all seems to stem from the fact that they are generally physically weaker then men so tend to have a Napoleon complex. ( you will also see this in many short men they act extra tough all the time.) but women don't act tough they exert mental and emotional attacks. If you are married or have a serious GF you know what I mean.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
#7992861 - 02/07/08 05:50 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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mickdawg666 said: Sometimes my girlfriend will get very upset about something and shell start to tell me about it, but she doesnt want me to talk back. Shell say that she just wants me to listen and doesnt want my opinion. I am want to have conversations where there is a give and take to the discussion.
Without adding any more bias to this scenario, is her request reasonable to ask that I not give her any feedback and just listen while she vents, or should I have the right to give her my perspective on her situation? Comments?
LOL due your lucky she'll even tell you what's wrong
most women dont
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awesomebastard said: This is why I find it hard to be in a relationship.
1)Women tend to be for the most part very selfish.
2)They want men to treat them as equals yet demand "special" treatment.
3)They are also very stubborn especially during fights they want you to step down and apologize because they need to feel they are somewhat in control of the relationship.
It all seems to stem from the fact that they are generally physically weaker then men so tend to have a Napoleon complex. ( you will also see this in many short men they act extra tough all the time.) but women don't act tough they exert mental and emotional attacks. If you are married or have a serious GF you know what I mean.
I have a gf of 6 years and have no idea what you mean.
Maybe you should quit dating crazy bitches
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: sam420]
#7992905 - 02/07/08 05:59 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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sam420 said:
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awesomebastard said: This is why I find it hard to be in a relationship.
1)Women tend to be for the most part very selfish.
2)They want men to treat them as equals yet demand "special" treatment.
3)They are also very stubborn especially during fights they want you to step down and apologize because they need to feel they are somewhat in control of the relationship.
It all seems to stem from the fact that they are generally physically weaker then men so tend to have a Napoleon complex. ( you will also see this in many short men they act extra tough all the time.) but women don't act tough they exert mental and emotional attacks. If you are married or have a serious GF you know what I mean.
I have a gf of 6 years and have no idea what you mean.
Maybe you should quit dating crazy bitches
  
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: sam420]
#7992953 - 02/07/08 06:13 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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sam420 said:
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awesomebastard said: This is why I find it hard to be in a relationship.
1)Women tend to be for the most part very selfish.
2)They want men to treat them as equals yet demand "special" treatment.
3)They are also very stubborn especially during fights they want you to step down and apologize because they need to feel they are somewhat in control of the relationship.
It all seems to stem from the fact that they are generally physically weaker then men so tend to have a Napoleon complex. ( you will also see this in many short men they act extra tough all the time.) but women don't act tough they exert mental and emotional attacks. If you are married or have a serious GF you know what I mean.
I have a gf of 6 years and have no idea what you mean.
Maybe you should quit dating crazy bitches
congrats.. you represent approximately .3% of the population.
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: future]
#7993137 - 02/07/08 06:48 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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you have the right to say what you want. That's why it's called a relationship.
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