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OfflineKamin
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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Iron_Hymen]
    #7993163 - 02/07/08 06:51 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

If she is upset with YOU for something, then you should have a problem with not saying anything. If the stuff has nothing to do with anything you did, then just let her talk.


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: sam420]
    #7993437 - 02/07/08 07:36 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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sam420 said:
Guys and girls work differently, guys love to offer practical advice but  really the girl just wants somebody to understand how they feel.  If you really want a two way conversation try talking to her about how she feels as opposed to how you can magically make her problem go away by offering solutions.

Edit: Oh, and NEVER take relationship advice from the Shroomery. :smirk:




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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
    #7993446 - 02/07/08 07:37 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

you can say what you want but it is pretty pointless.

learn to recognize a rant.


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
    #7993466 - 02/07/08 07:40 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Since she doesn't want any feedback, tell her to get a tape recorder so you can listen to it at your leisure.

No, it's not reasonable. Don't put up with this shit.


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: ManianFH]
    #7993516 - 02/07/08 07:47 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Dude my girlfriend does the exact same thing all the time. I just let her vent, because I'm a good listener anyway. Sometimes I do tell her that's enough, I don't want to hear it anymore. Yeah, she gets pissed off, but women like their man to take control and tell them to be quiet every once in a while. Don't tell her to shut the hell up or anything, just let her know that her venting is putting you in a bad mood and you can't listen to her anymore. If she doesn't be quiet after that, then tell her to shut the hell up. LOL


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: future]
    #7995882 - 02/08/08 11:26 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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future said:
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sam420 said:
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awesomebastard said:
This is why I find it hard to be in a relationship.

1)Women tend to be for the most part very selfish.

2)They want men to treat them as equals yet demand "special" treatment.

3)They are also very stubborn especially during fights they want you to step down and apologize because they need to feel they are somewhat in control of the relationship.

It all seems to stem from the fact that they are generally physically weaker then men so tend to have a Napoleon complex. ( you will also see this in many short men they act extra tough all the time.) but women don't act tough they exert mental and emotional attacks. If you are married or have a serious GF you know what I mean.




I have a gf of 6 years and have no idea what you mean.

Maybe you should quit dating crazy bitches




congrats.. you represent approximately .3% of the population.




Well I would count myself in that percentage as well. Are you so sure that it is we who are in the minority?


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Kamin]
    #7996176 - 02/08/08 01:02 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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Kamin said:
What's the damned big deal about letting her vent? Everyone needs to do it. Venting is called venting and not discussing for a reason. If you care about her and she requests it, not responding shouldn't be a big deal.




Yes everyone needs to vent sometimes. I think most take it too far. Not every rant is a healthy release as much as it is a self-righteous indulgence. It's too common to dump accumulated frustrations on a friend or partner, under the pretense of healthy venting, while the root of that frustration goes unaddressed.

I had a girlfriend who would rant at me about things others did, constantly, with the same anger and venom she would have liked to unleash on the person who supposedly caused her this frustration. When I told her how it made me feel, she got upset and complained she had nobody to talk to.

I was always available to be talked to, and always willing to offer support, but I am not a receptacle for pent up anger and spite. Venting causes anger to snowball, rather than dissipate, in my experience.

Dawg, some degree of venting is normal. She's just looking for support, not advice. But if these are frequent, angry, indulgent rants I would not put up with it. If she wants support, you are deserving of being approached with respect.


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: WhiskeyClone]
    #7996212 - 02/08/08 01:14 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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Yes everyone needs to vent sometimes. I think most take it too far. Not every rant is a healthy release as much as it is a self-righteous indulgence. It's too common to dump accumulated frustrations on a friend or partner, under the pretense of healthy venting, while the root of that frustration goes unaddressed.

I had a girlfriend who would rant at me about things others did, constantly, with the same anger and venom she would have liked to unleash on the person who supposedly caused her this frustration. When I told her how it made me feel, she got upset and complained she had nobody to talk to.

I was always available to be talked to, and always willing to offer support, but I am not a receptacle for pent up anger and spite. Venting causes anger to snowball, rather than dissipate, in my experience.

Dawg, some degree of venting is normal. She's just looking for support, not advice. But if these are frequent, angry, indulgent rants I would not put up with it. If she wants support, you are deserving of being approached with respect.




Good point(s).


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Re: Relationship Q [Re: Kamin]
    #7997189 - 02/08/08 05:26 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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