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LayYouIn
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Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back
#7779648 - 12/19/07 09:34 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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my brother has borrowed money from my mom, dad, and gradma, in large amounts and never paid them back. i know he owes my grandma $5000 for a car that he bought and then totaled right after buying it. he wont visit her because he owes this money and i highly doubt he'll ever pay it back.
it makes me jealous because he has so much more stuff than me but he owes money he'll most likely never pay back. it makes me want to borrow money from a bunch of people just to never pay them back. but the only thing is, i couldn't live with myself if i did that. so i guess im just jealous that he can actually go on day by day and not care. he buys weed all the time, always has it, but he never pays these people back.
sorry for my bitching. what do you all think?
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7779694 - 12/19/07 09:46 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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no worries, hes just diggin his own grave.let him have his fun, sooner or later people will see that he is not good with payback and will think less of him or yet not give him anymore money. i pitty people like that, people like that will have a very hard time living on thier own. after all, who wants to live with a self centered douchebag anyway?
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7779703 - 12/19/07 09:48 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Your brother sounds like a stupid asshole. Every post you make about him makes him sounds like even more of a stupid asshole.
Why are you jealous of a stupid asshole who lives in his mommy's house and owes money all over the place?
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7779707 - 12/19/07 09:53 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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i owe an uncle about 750 and feel terrible about it. i owe a good friend 300 and feel terrible about it. when i loan friends or family money, i do it on indefinite terms and frankly don't expect it back. it's just the way i am. i don't want to sweat getting my money back from people who wouldn't ask if they where able to do with out it but i never borrow money without paying it back as soon as i can do so.
the thing about borrowing money is that reasoanble people don't do so unless they need to and people who need money aren't generally the safest investments.
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LayYouIn
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: CherryBom]
#7779739 - 12/19/07 10:02 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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CherryBom said: Your brother sounds like a stupid asshole. Every post you make about him makes him sounds like even more of a stupid asshole.
Why are you jealous of a stupid asshole who lives in his mommy's house and owes money all over the place?
lol, that's the only post i've ever made about him. who said he lives with our mom? he lives with a friend that actually owes him a bunch of money. so i guess, maybe he's waiting for his friend to pay him back so that he can start paying off his debts.
maybe he will eventually pay them off. but what about the us dollar losing value... im going to bed.
good night all.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7779760 - 12/19/07 10:12 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Oh, sorry 'bout that.
I guess it was someone else with a similar name as you who also has a deadbeat brother. My bad.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7779836 - 12/19/07 10:35 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Best thing you can do is forgive the debt and move forward. No sense being upset over something you cannot change.
By letting it go, if he ever pays you back, it will be frosting on the cake; and if he doesn't, you won't have to get an ulcer over it.
Life is too short for grudges.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7779932 - 12/19/07 11:11 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LayYouIn said: it makes me jealous because he has so much more stuff than me but he owes money he'll most likely never pay back. it makes me want to borrow money from a bunch of people just to never pay them back. but the only thing is, i couldn't live with myself if i did that. so i guess im just jealous that he can actually go on day by day and not care. he buys weed all the time, always has it, but he never pays these people back.
My brother owes me probably close to $1000. I mean there is different kinds of borrowing though; the kinds you expect to be payed back and the kinds you don't expect to be payed back.
I know a lot of times parents/grandparents will "lend" the money to individuals within the family with no intention of getting it back and calling it lending only because they don't want to seem unfair in giving to that individual and nobody else. You can't be mad your parents "lend" your brother money because he has to pay them back, but you'd be mad if they were giving him with handouts and not you.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: Diploid]
#7783083 - 12/20/07 07:58 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Diploid said: Best thing you can do is forgive the debt and move forward. No sense being upset over something you cannot change.
By letting it go, if he ever pays you back, it will be frosting on the cake; and if he doesn't, you won't have to get an ulcer over it.
Life is too short for grudges.
lol, he doesn't owe me money.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7783119 - 12/20/07 08:03 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LayYouIn said: what do you all think?
I think I dont care for your brother, if you never pay anyone else, your family should be taken care of, I dont borrow, I do lend, most people pay me back, I loaned $5000 to a mexican on a hand shake. he payed me back. I dont know the financial situation of your family but most people need everything they can get.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7783532 - 12/20/07 09:23 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LayYouIn said: it makes me jealous because he has so much more stuff than me but he owes money he'll most likely never pay back.
So let's see... he has more stuff, but you have integrity and respect. What are you jealous of?
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#7783594 - 12/20/07 09:41 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LayYouIn said: it makes me jealous because he has so much more stuff than me but he owes money he'll most likely never pay back.
So let's see... he has more stuff, but you have integrity and respect. What are you jealous of?
i guess your right. in a lot or areas of my life i get jealous of others for how low they become. i even shoplifted for a while just because my brother use to always steal and have things that i would pay for.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7784821 - 12/21/07 08:35 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I loaned my brother money, even though i know he has problems managing money. If he's ever in a better place in life, ill accept his payback. Just how it is with him.
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7784920 - 12/21/07 09:26 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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interesting. i see things from the other side of the fence, sorta.
this was how i sold my soul for about 50 grand.
my cousin got a lot of money as well. our grandma really wasn't caring if we "paid it back", but she lavished a lot on us after receiving a settlement. my cousin probably got more than i did. so, what happened after it ran out?
my cousin rarely calls and never visits my grandmother. i won't hesitate to call her out on the truth, that she's a spoiled bitch and she doesn't see why that's a problem for anyone else.
i on the other hand feel guilty for even taking it, even though it was given away to me. so now i'm indebted with my soul. even though i know i'd be here for her anyway, now, it's just a requirement. i think i'm the only one who *really* cares about my grandma now that she has alzheimers and needs as much care {if not more} than a baby. it's truly the hardest thing i've ever done and i was never mentally or emotionally prepared for it, but i know that since my grandma loved me so much (and especially much that she would give so much to me) i feel like it's just the work i gotta do. it's one of those thankless jobs where things only get tougher, but i feel fine enough that even when she can't remember my own name, she knows me as "her 'little girl' who always helps her". my cousin? nameless, faceless. no recognition. grandma doesn't have a clue who she is, even if she ever did visit. of course, to some people, that wouldn't even matter. [but people that heartless can go fuck themselves anyway.] my cousin just gets mad at my grandmother for having a disease that makes her forget.
some people take and take and take without ever trying to give back. sometimes people don't even realize they're being like that while tangled in it, but eventually they learn exactly how they are operating and it's becomes a game. i believe karma sorts ALL of them out, in the end. those who stay afloat on the backs of others sink, eventually. or you could just go kick your brother in the nuts right now?
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: LayYouIn]
#7785326 - 12/21/07 11:49 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LayYouIn said: my brother has borrowed money from my mom, dad, and gradma, in large amounts and never paid them back. i know he owes my grandma $5000 for a car that he bought and then totaled right after buying it. he wont visit her because he owes this money and i highly doubt he'll ever pay it back.
it makes me jealous because he has so much more stuff than me but he owes money he'll most likely never pay back. it makes me want to borrow money from a bunch of people just to never pay them back. but the only thing is, i couldn't live with myself if i did that. so i guess im just jealous that he can actually go on day by day and not care. he buys weed all the time, always has it, but he never pays these people back. ssoooo...anywhehere I'm put acyually
sorry for my bitching. what do you all think?
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Re: Borrowing Money From Family and Not Paying It Back [Re: Lyena]
#7785642 - 12/21/07 01:36 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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MeatyVitamin said: I know a lot of times parents/grandparents will "lend" the money to individuals within the family with no intention of getting it back and calling it lending only because they don't want to seem unfair in giving to that individual and nobody else. You can't be mad your parents "lend" your brother money because he has to pay them back, but you'd be mad if they were giving him with handouts and not you.
it's true. i borrowed like $400 from my dad when i needed a deposit for an apartment but i always knew i owed him. it was like two years later and i went up to him with $200 and said "here's $200 of that $400 i owe you" and he said "you owe me money?! we'll just call it even".
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Lyena said: i believe karma sorts ALL of them out, in the end.
it's kind of weird that you say that. because right around that time, my brother got a dui, totaled his new car, and he went from getting paid like $25/hour to $15/hour and now he makes like $13/hour. i feel bad for him though because he kindof went downhill but he seemed to be doing so well when he was borrowing money from people. he had a nice house with some friends, like two cars, around like $5000 in guns, and always had nice new toys. could it really have been karma?
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