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ChickenPotPie
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Do you fake it with family??
#5906112 - 07/27/06 05:14 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Got a family get together tonight. Well it's my wife's family in a technical sense. They took me in when I was about 16 and have seen all the good and bad in our lives since then, about 13 years. The issue is that, even though we're doing great now, there's going to be a bunch of old friends and family friends. The bottom line is most of these people have issues with me, even if they'd NEVER say it to my face, and I don't like them so much, but yet I'm expected to be there. Why?? Why can't we all admit that my wife and our children are loveable as all get out, but when I'm in the room, people start acting like punks? I have no problem letting my family chill and enjoy the time, but if I'm at the house, there will be less love, the vibe WILL change, and maybe some problems if anyone decided to flap gums. Should I go? Should I even fucking care?? Sorry for the rant.
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Edited by ChickenPotPie (07/27/06 05:18 PM)
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5906121 - 07/27/06 05:19 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Don't give a shit at all. Especially if you, your wife and your family are doing a-ok, fuck everyone else. It might be uncomfortable, but at least you and your family are doing fine. Maybe they're just jealous that you ARE doing fine?
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5906126 - 07/27/06 05:21 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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You should go and be a strong force of anti-bullshit. Project your good ways that you know you have, and ignore the punks, or teach them a lesson. All negativity and upset is based in fear. Be courageous. Face the fear. Tonight its good versus evil. Let's get it on!
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5906128 - 07/27/06 05:22 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I totally fake it with family, especially my in-laws.
Although my new motto is, "fuck you!" so hopefully that will help me not care so much about what they think.
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ChickenPotPie
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: tallgreen]
#5906145 - 07/27/06 05:31 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm feeling this. I'd need to leave in the next 15 or so, but when I was down they all made sure to kidney punch, and even though I cannot stand the atmosphere, maybe I need to. Yeah, I do. Peace Shroomery!!!
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5906163 - 07/27/06 05:40 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
Do you fake it with family?
the more family, the faker i have to be
i can handle individual members, but once we all get together...
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5906240 - 07/27/06 06:16 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Don't drink or else I'm sure it's going to get nasty.
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: MOTH]
#5906243 - 07/27/06 06:17 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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EllemyshShade said: I totally fake it with family, especially my in-laws.
me too. I'm like "ohhhh yeah" and pretend to cum and they don't know the difference.
wait...
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eris
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I was thinking along those lines too.. faking as in orgasms. :LOL
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: eris]
#5906331 - 07/27/06 06:49 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm the only hippie/druggie in my richie-fuck wanna be family
Fake fake fake fake fake fake
I can't stand them, they aren't to fond of me
I do my best corrupt their hypocritical 'christian' children They ask me questions, I do my best to free their minds, and ask them the questions they need to hear to free themselves.
I'm still expected to show at the semi annual family get togethers.
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: Eraserhead]
#5906335 - 07/27/06 06:50 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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My family is lame too, they think they are all better than me or something. Fuck em I say.. I'm not wasting my time to try and impress people like that. I never even see them.
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5906342 - 07/27/06 06:51 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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ChickenPotPie said: Do you fake it with family??
never, my sister really knows how to satisfy
really though, no, we're really tight knit
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eris
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: Prisoner#1]
#5906348 - 07/27/06 06:53 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sisterly love is hawt.. too bad I never had a sis.
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: eris]
#5908093 - 07/28/06 05:56 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I remove negative people from my life. Family or not.
No, I don't kill them. I lose their number and never see them again.
If somebody cares, he/she can call me and patch things up.
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ChickenPotPie
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: nookjohn]
#5908784 - 07/28/06 12:14 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Well, I went last night, stayed the course and had a generally good time. It was weird. Maybe people are getting over stuff now that we're growing up, or maybe it was just a spell, but either way, it wasn't like getting my toe nails pulled out like it has been. Thanks for the support guys!
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: Eraserhead]
#5908806 - 07/28/06 12:25 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Eraserhead said: I'm the only hippie/druggie in my richie-fuck wanna be family
Fake fake fake fake fake fake
I can't stand them, they aren't to fond of me
I do my best corrupt their hypocritical 'christian' children They ask me questions, I do my best to free their minds, and ask them the questions they need to hear to free themselves.
I'm still expected to show at the semi annual family get togethers.
hahaha, thats the spirit! Fake people with a lot of money suck
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: Jenny]
#5908818 - 07/28/06 12:29 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Fake people with no money suck worse.
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5908839 - 07/28/06 12:41 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I used to try and fake my folks out
these days I'm more honest.
Its all about a slow process of desensitization.
My parents used to freak out when they found bags in my room when I was a kid,
now they joke about me bein a pothead at family gatherings
so I guess its just one of those things that parents have to get used to, but I mean they're your parents, they really should love you no matter what. Its not like they didn't have the chance to legally kill you before you were born
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: nookjohn]
#5908869 - 07/28/06 12:55 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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nookjohn said: I remove negative people from my life. Family or not.
No, I don't kill them. I lose their number and never see them again.
If somebody cares, he/she can call me and patch things up.
Yeah, the negative people are easy to lose... My problem is that I'd like to lose the half of my family that is my father's side... I've never lived closer than 3 hours away from them, and I've never seen them more than 2-3 times each year...
I've never had a bond with these people, and although I find it very easy to just ignore my father's phone calls and delete his voicemails, when my grandparents on that side start to contact me, or when they start to bring up a half-brother (14 years younger, he's about 10), I start to feel guilty...
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Re: Do you fake it with family?? [Re: ChickenPotPie]
#5908906 - 07/28/06 01:10 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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With my mother and her sister + husband (aunt & uncle) I can be who I am...
I don't speak to my mother's husband or the half-brother who lives with her.
With my grandparents on my mother's side I just avoid talking about things which could upset them and just kind of ignore it when they try to talk about religion (they were missionaries in mexico for 20+ years), not because I'm being "fake", but because its not worth the trouble to debate issues with them and ruffle feathers. They are family, and even though they have never really been around, I enjoy them attending family events.
My grandparents on my father's side, I feel somewhat less of a bond with. They are very religious as well, and I don't ruffle feathers or debate issues mainly because my grandmother is a worrywort, and I don't want her up every night worried about me and praying for me and shit like that... My grandfather on that side is a very nice person, I don't feel the need to be "fake" with him, but I don't push buttons either...
My father's personality is very... abrasive? I just don't think he's a good person... I don't feel love for him... I visit because I feel obligated to see the half-brothers that live with him and my grandparents who live nearby him... I feel kinda fake around him, because I act like I enjoy being around him, and when he bugs the shit out of me, I just kinda walk away and work through it without blowing up at him...
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