|
tiny_rabid_birds
Nocturnal



Registered: 11/08/05
Posts: 15,653
Loc: estados unidos
|
fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed
#7414990 - 09/15/07 11:23 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
i don't know what i'm doing wrong. i'm a reasonably good-looking guy. i've actually started talking to women, which is a lot more than i could say this time last year. i strike up conversations all the time at parties and in bars. i get into involved discussions. i compliment what they're wearing. i think we're hitting it off. and then they peace out. and i'm stuck being like "eh??".
i mean.. i'm not being entirely shallow here. it's not like i just want sex. i want the company (and sex). but i just can't seem to get it. i feel like i'm talking to women and they show some interest. but maybe i'm way off? maybe they're just being nice? i'm not sure, but it's becoming frustrating. celibacy blows.
--------------------
|
eastcoastremedy


Registered: 10/03/05
Posts: 535
Loc: appalachia
Last seen: 1 year, 2 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7414996 - 09/15/07 11:25 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
dude, that's life. don't get down about it. something good is coming your way.
|
Learyfan
It's the psychedelic movement!


Registered: 04/20/01
Posts: 34,084
Loc: High pride!
Last seen: 12 hours, 59 minutes
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415002 - 09/15/07 11:27 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Help is on the way.
-------------------- -------------------------------- Mp3 of the month: The Apple-Glass Cyndrome - Someday
Edited by Learyfan (09/15/07 11:27 PM)
|
tiny_rabid_birds
Nocturnal



Registered: 11/08/05
Posts: 15,653
Loc: estados unidos
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: Learyfan]
#7415007 - 09/15/07 11:28 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
i'm not worried, but i'm sexually frustrated. and aggravated. it's been far too long. so very long. monday, i'm back in the gym.
--------------------
|
mikeytro
Stranger


Registered: 01/28/07 
Posts: 2,532
Last seen: 13 years, 5 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415009 - 09/15/07 11:28 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
I feel you I'm somewhat bad with the ladies for me It kind of has to be an acquittance (like a friend through a friend) to be comfortable talking around them. I find it quite hard for myself to walk up to some random chick and trying to get things going.
I used to act like I cared too much and it seemed girls got turned off by it. the dont give a fuck attitude really doesn't work with me because thats not my real intention. have to find a middle ground.
-------------------- "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one." - Einstein
|
tiny_rabid_birds
Nocturnal



Registered: 11/08/05
Posts: 15,653
Loc: estados unidos
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: mikeytro]
#7415015 - 09/15/07 11:31 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
i hear you, and that's kinda what i've been adopting. i talk to them, but i also wait for them to talk to me. i pay attention to the conversation, but i also pay attention to what's going on around me. it's not like i'm acting desperate, i'm just being sociable. but i mean... last night i was talking to a cute/cool girl one on one i thought i was doing well, i thought she was interested. about 20 minutes later she was gone and even my friend was surprised. tonight, i was talking to another girl, thought things were going well etc, and again, after we go out and smoke with some friends she's out. and i'm like wtf mate? bagh.
--------------------
|
Locus




Registered: 03/11/04
Posts: 6,112
Last seen: 2 years, 9 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415018 - 09/15/07 11:33 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
yeah man its hard sometimes. sometimes i can tell the girl is blatantly flirting with me and its easy and other times im just lost as to where its heading and sometimes things seem to hit off right and then things end up dissipating and i dont know what happened or i dunno know exactly what to make of the situation. i think thats cus my radar is a bit off though when it comes to subtle signals... like unless theyre blatantly hitting on me then i cant really assess the situation well and know what to make of it, and then i fuck things up, haha.
--------------------
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. ~ Albert Einstein "Fear is the great barrier to human growth." ~ Dr. Robert Monroe ~~~*Dosis sola facit venenum*~~~ *Check my profile to listen to my music*
|
mikeytro
Stranger


Registered: 01/28/07 
Posts: 2,532
Last seen: 13 years, 5 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415027 - 09/15/07 11:35 PM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
doesn't sound like your doing anything in particular wrong to turn em off. you'll get lucky soon enough.
as for myself I haven't gotten laid for around 3 months, which is way too fucking long. plus it was my ex so that doesn't even really count
-------------------- "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one." - Einstein
Edited by mikeytro (09/15/07 11:36 PM)
|
lysergicide
Aurora Borealis


Registered: 12/16/05
Posts: 1,863
Loc: 41.8861° N, 12.4851° E
Last seen: 9 days, 7 hours
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415090 - 09/16/07 12:07 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
tiny_rabid_birds said: i don't know what i'm doing wrong. i'm a reasonably good-looking guy. i've actually started talking to women, which is a lot more than i could say this time last year. i strike up conversations all the time at parties and in bars. i get into involved discussions. i compliment what they're wearing. i think we're hitting it off. and then they peace out. and i'm stuck being like "eh??".
i mean.. i'm not being entirely shallow here. it's not like i just want sex. i want the company (and sex). but i just can't seem to get it. i feel like i'm talking to women and they show some interest. but maybe i'm way off? maybe they're just being nice? i'm not sure, but it's becoming frustrating. celibacy blows.
do you have your avatar in a bigger resolution?
|
phantomstranger
Stranger


Registered: 12/17/05
Posts: 285
Last seen: 6 years, 2 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415098 - 09/16/07 12:11 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
it's the same way with me bro, somehow i always manage to drop the ball whether its with a girl i've been talking to or just someone who smiles and makes eye contact with me on the street.
doesnt help that i'm terrible introverted most of the time and unable to think on my feet without coming off as desperate.
--------------------

|
mycogirl
goddamn




Registered: 07/03/05
Posts: 1,135
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415101 - 09/16/07 12:12 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
You're probably not doing anything wrong. Girls are weird. You're a cutie though, I'm sure things will look up for you soon.
--------------------
|
BoneMan
Shrimpin ain't easy


Registered: 02/09/05
Posts: 2,032
Loc: new new england
Last seen: 12 years, 2 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415216 - 09/16/07 01:18 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
tiny_rabid_birds said: i thought she was interested. about 20 minutes later she was gone
I think you're waiting too long. You're gonna have to step things up sooner so she knows you're interested. Women only have so much patience, especially when the next guy is likely to seal the deal in a matter of minutes.
And by "seal the deal" I dont mean have sex with her, I mean he's gonna be assertive and gain her attention and attraction very early on. I would recommend joking with the girl, smile your face off, touch her hands and arms, use suggestive body language. Your body langauge should radiate "I want you", but your conversation should not be so obvious.
|
tiny_rabid_birds
Nocturnal



Registered: 11/08/05
Posts: 15,653
Loc: estados unidos
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: BoneMan]
#7415223 - 09/16/07 01:24 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
I would recommend joking with the girl, smile your face off, touch her hands and arms
check, check and check. i did all of those and then some. i joked around, i never stopped smiling from 2:30pm to 12:00am (i started working at 2:30, then hung out at the bar/restaurant i work to drink after my shift), and i wasn't overly touch, but i didn't avoid contact either.
--------------------
|
BoneMan
Shrimpin ain't easy


Registered: 02/09/05
Posts: 2,032
Loc: new new england
Last seen: 12 years, 2 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415240 - 09/16/07 01:36 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Hmm. I dunno man. Usually I don't approach a girl unless shes already been eyeing me. I suck at approaching girls who I'm not sure are interested.
I think having a bit of a mysterious vibe helps out too. Its totally unintentional but I'm very hard to read. Girls, or anyone, can hardly ever tell what I'm thinking or feeling. Its tough to explain but I guess my facial expressions and reactions may be inappropriate or just unreadable in some situations. The end result is that people don't know what the hell is going on with me, and I guess for girls thats exciting maybe?
|
today mylove



Registered: 12/04/04
Posts: 2,473
Last seen: 2 months, 4 days
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: mikeytro]
#7415246 - 09/16/07 01:39 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
man if you want sex i'm sure you could get a hooker
|
Leanin
Student of theIron Game


Registered: 04/18/06
Posts: 2,231
Last seen: 10 years, 7 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415267 - 09/16/07 01:49 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
tiny_rabid_birds said: i don't know what i'm doing wrong. i'm a reasonably good-looking guy. i've actually started talking to women, which is a lot more than i could say this time last year. i strike up conversations all the time at parties and in bars. i get into involved discussions. i compliment what they're wearing. i think we're hitting it off. and then they peace out. and i'm stuck being like "eh??".
i mean.. i'm not being entirely shallow here. it's not like i just want sex. i want the company (and sex). but i just can't seem to get it. i feel like i'm talking to women and they show some interest. but maybe i'm way off? maybe they're just being nice? i'm not sure, but it's becoming frustrating. celibacy blows.
hey man u sound too desperate, girls smell desperation from a mile away.
try giving them a hard time, just have fun with em. dont be too nice.
|
Cepheus
Balance




Registered: 04/19/06
Posts: 8,266
Loc: the space between reality...
Last seen: 1 year, 1 month
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415405 - 09/16/07 03:46 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
You sound desperate man.
Theres a trick to pulling like most things in life. You have to flirt in a playful / offensive manner.. and be fucking obvious about your intentions. Last night I was talking to some girls and complimented her breasts and insinuated that I wouldn't mind further observation and she got em out 
When you do find your target you have to play it cool. This is imperative. You gotta be somewhat of a playful cunt.
Don't just talk to women you want to fuck either. A lot of the time if you just start talking to someone random, one of their hot friends will normally join the conversation when they see you with their friend. This is a good indicator of things 
Oh and another thing.. don't set your standards too low/high. Be realistic and ask female friends about your aesthetics.
-------------------- "I only ever hope to reach equilibrium, in Nature's matrix, in line with the meridian" ~ Jehst
"...and I know that I have to keep breathing, as tomorrow the sun will rise, who knows what the tide will bring?" Free Spore Ring Europe Send any spare spore prints you might have and help the distribution
Open Source. Freedom. GNU/Linux Addicting is not a word.
|
Adom
Totally Nude


Registered: 09/30/01
Posts: 10,877
Loc: Way Up North
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415455 - 09/16/07 04:27 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
on the day that I was born, daddy sat down and cried...
boo-fucking-hoo I had to learn to tie my shoes too
|
Knifey Mcstab
Sir Prancelot Brainfire



Registered: 01/04/04
Posts: 4,846
Loc: PNW
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415506 - 09/16/07 05:12 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Ooze confidence even if you really don't have any. Thats what I do and it seems to work sometimes.
--------------------
|
Oracle Of Delphi
I, Phantom


Registered: 06/23/02
Posts: 1,135
Loc: State of Disrepair
Last seen: 15 years, 2 months
|
Re: fuck i'm sick of ending up alone in bed [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
#7415536 - 09/16/07 05:42 AM (16 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
tiny_rabid_birds said: i don't know what i'm doing wrong. i'm a reasonably good-looking guy. i've actually started talking to women, which is a lot more than i could say this time last year. i strike up conversations all the time at parties and in bars. i get into involved discussions. i compliment what they're wearing. i think we're hitting it off. and then they peace out. and i'm stuck being like "eh??".
i mean.. i'm not being entirely shallow here. it's not like i just want sex. i want the company (and sex). but i just can't seem to get it. i feel like i'm talking to women and they show some interest. but maybe i'm way off? maybe they're just being nice? i'm not sure, but it's becoming frustrating. celibacy blows.
i'll do ya....
but seriously, most women dont know what they want. speaking as one, i had many friends who would go to clubs/bars, get dressed up all sluttynice, and never have the intention pf coming home with a number.
They do it for the attention, the free drinks, to see if they still have the power of attraction. a lot of younger girls are kinda crazy. i listen to ppl talk, and they make no sense to me. i seen ya TRB - if I wasnt almost married, and you were not 1/2 an idiot - id give you my numba.
I dont think you are doing anything wrong, i think you just have to plug away until you finally hit...I looked for a man for 3 years straight. i went to bars. i looked on the internet. i asked friends if they had contacts. just when i felt i was never going to get anyone. it finally paid off - i was weeks away from quitting and resigning myself to a life of loneliness. and then this nerdy guy answered my friendster ad. the rest is history....
keep trying. be positive, dont let it turn you sour, thats a sure way to stay alone.
now, take off yor shirt!
OoD
|
|