The_Red_Crayon said:

Maybe you can try to look past how much money she has like she has done with you.

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Pyjamas said:

The "problem" here is yours. She had no control of her upbringing. All the better for you that you're working towards your own goals. You can't hold her wealth towards her in a negative way, which I'm senses you might if you felt you had to. She could probably learn a lot from you if she's had everything handed to her on a silver plate whereas you've been "out there".

It shouldn't be a problem. If it is, maybe you shouldn't date her?

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really man, she is lucky to have been brought up in a good environment who are you to try and pull her down? just because your life wasnt peachy doesnt mean everyone elses has to be the same (youre like a child not getting the toy you want and so you wont let your friends play with theirs  ).
whats bugging you is seeing what you didnt get, and your angry at the environment you were brought up in for denying you the easy road. if youre gonna blame anyone (which you shouldnt), blame your parents. i know this sounds cold, but there are so many hard working parents which have brought their kids to a better life by working hard. maybe your parents did work hard and just didnt find the ladder, but i believe that if a person tries they can get out of poverty or atleast get their childrne out of povverty.

Fuzine said:

I met this cool girl. Shes fun, smart, easy on the eyes, all that good stuff. Theres just one thing about her that bugs the fuck out of me.. shes filthy stinkin' rich. I come from a pretty modest(shitty) background. Once I turned of legal age, I was out the door and on my own. I've always had to work very hard, and have always held a sort of resentment(Jealousy?) for those who had it easy.. (More a resentment for the fact that most don't realize how easy they had it, and think life is all a walk in the park) I don't tend to associate with people like that.. I suppose you could call em preps? People that receive(d) hefty allowances, rent, car, etc, from their parents until they secured a good job with the money their parents invested in their education. Repeat cycle. :P I like people who have a similar background as me, who're pushing through the shit on their own. This girl, alebit sweet, kind, pretty & smart, has never worked a day in her life! She has a brand new Lexus, a huge allowance, lives in a very nice place, and goes to a very expensive private university... and it bugs the shit out of me. I know it shouldn't, but it really does. We've been dating for a while now, and its at the point where the relationship should progress, but I feel myself holding back. Is it pride? Is it shame? Is it my stuborn ass and lack of sense?

Does anyone have any insight into this, any similar experiences? Any advice? Am I just being a whiny baby?

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I understand where you're coming from.  IMO what you need to be doing is looking for the positive qualities that you associate with being in your financial quota.  IE is she humble, down to earth, willing to work hard.  If you find these qualities in her and you still have resentment then you know it's your own  irrational self interfering.    Good luck friend

Konnrade said:

I sometimes have to wake up and wonder if I'm going to be able to keep treading water.

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eligal said:

Pyjamas said:

The "problem" here is yours. She had no control of her upbringing. All the better for you that you're working towards your own goals. You can't hold her wealth towards her in a negative way, which I'm senses you might if you felt you had to. She could probably learn a lot from you if she's had everything handed to her on a silver plate whereas you've been "out there".

It shouldn't be a problem. If it is, maybe you shouldn't date her?

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really man, she is lucky to have been brought up in a good environment who are you to try and pull her down? just because your life wasnt peachy doesnt mean everyone elses has to be the same (youre like a child not getting the toy you want and so you wont let your friends play with theirs  ).
whats bugging you is seeing what you didnt get, and your angry at the environment you were brought up in for denying you the easy road. if youre gonna blame anyone (which you shouldnt), blame your parents. i know this sounds cold, but there are so many hard working parents which have brought their kids to a better life by working hard. maybe your parents did work hard and just didnt find the ladder, but i believe that if a person tries they can get out of poverty or atleast get their childrne out of povverty.

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daimyo said:

Konnrade said:

I sometimes have to wake up and wonder if I'm going to be able to keep treading water.

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Jesus?

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