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GrapeSoda
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Dating a rich chick.
#5377413 - 03/08/06 12:48 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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I met this cool girl. Shes fun, smart, easy on the eyes, all that good stuff. Theres just one thing about her that bugs the fuck out of me.. shes filthy stinkin' rich. I come from a pretty modest(shitty) background. Once I turned of legal age, I was out the door and on my own. I've always had to work very hard, and have always held a sort of resentment(Jealousy?) for those who had it easy.. (More a resentment for the fact that most don't realize how easy they had it, and think life is all a walk in the park) I don't tend to associate with people like that.. I suppose you could call em preps? People that receive(d) hefty allowances, rent, car, etc, from their parents until they secured a good job with the money their parents invested in their education. Repeat cycle. :P I like people who have a similar background as me, who're pushing through the shit on their own. This girl, alebit sweet, kind, pretty & smart, has never worked a day in her life! She has a brand new Lexus, a huge allowance, lives in a very nice place, and goes to a very expensive private university... and it bugs the shit out of me. I know it shouldn't, but it really does. We've been dating for a while now, and its at the point where the relationship should progress, but I feel myself holding back. Is it pride? Is it shame? Is it my stuborn ass and lack of sense?
Does anyone have any insight into this, any similar experiences? Any advice? Am I just being a whiny baby?
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DICK
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5377459 - 03/08/06 01:16 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yea youre just being a whiny baby...
Shes a rich girl man! Id make her buy me a Lamborghini! Haha
Ok, ok... Look you obviously have some issues you should get handled. Everybody lived their lifes their own way and others get it easier than others but, that by no end means better. Life is just an experience you know and if you really like this girl and see yourself with her in the long-term future, get over this! You might be missing out on someone wonderful if you let this get between you guys
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The_Red_Crayon
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5377677 - 03/08/06 02:18 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Maybe you can try to look past how much money she has like she has done with you.
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The_Red_Crayon said: Maybe you can try to look past how much money she has like she has done with you.
she could be dating him for the 'piss off parents' factor
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: goobler]
#5377764 - 03/08/06 02:42 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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god...I LOVE that factor...
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: Rono]
#5378173 - 03/08/06 04:43 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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infiltrate yourself into her testament, then have her face a sudden and tragic accident leading to her premature demise..
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Pyjamas
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: budsicle]
#5379030 - 03/08/06 07:55 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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The "problem" here is yours. She had no control of her upbringing. All the better for you that you're working towards your own goals. You can't hold her wealth towards her in a negative way, which I'm senses you might if you felt you had to. She could probably learn a lot from you if she's had everything handed to her on a silver plate whereas you've been "out there".
It shouldn't be a problem. If it is, maybe you shouldn't date her?
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Edited by Pyjamas (03/08/06 07:57 PM)
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: Pyjamas]
#5379085 - 03/08/06 08:13 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Pyjamas said: The "problem" here is yours. She had no control of her upbringing. All the better for you that you're working towards your own goals. You can't hold her wealth towards her in a negative way, which I'm senses you might if you felt you had to. She could probably learn a lot from you if she's had everything handed to her on a silver plate whereas you've been "out there".
It shouldn't be a problem. If it is, maybe you shouldn't date her?

really man, she is lucky to have been brought up in a good environment who are you to try and pull her down? just because your life wasnt peachy doesnt mean everyone elses has to be the same (youre like a child not getting the toy you want and so you wont let your friends play with theirs ). whats bugging you is seeing what you didnt get, and your angry at the environment you were brought up in for denying you the easy road. if youre gonna blame anyone (which you shouldnt), blame your parents. i know this sounds cold, but there are so many hard working parents which have brought their kids to a better life by working hard. maybe your parents did work hard and just didnt find the ladder, but i believe that if a person tries they can get out of poverty or atleast get their childrne out of povverty.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5379105 - 03/08/06 08:19 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Grow up. She had it easy and you didn't. Bang her til she's blue in the face, and milk her for everything. Maybe run off to Vegas and get her drunk enough to sign an agreement that you get everything if there's a divorce.
Or enjoy the fact that she likes your poor(relatively) ass and have a great life together. But still milk her dry.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5379352 - 03/08/06 09:24 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Fuzine said: I met this cool girl. Shes fun, smart, easy on the eyes, all that good stuff. Theres just one thing about her that bugs the fuck out of me.. shes filthy stinkin' rich. I come from a pretty modest(shitty) background. Once I turned of legal age, I was out the door and on my own. I've always had to work very hard, and have always held a sort of resentment(Jealousy?) for those who had it easy.. (More a resentment for the fact that most don't realize how easy they had it, and think life is all a walk in the park) I don't tend to associate with people like that.. I suppose you could call em preps? People that receive(d) hefty allowances, rent, car, etc, from their parents until they secured a good job with the money their parents invested in their education. Repeat cycle. :P I like people who have a similar background as me, who're pushing through the shit on their own. This girl, alebit sweet, kind, pretty & smart, has never worked a day in her life! She has a brand new Lexus, a huge allowance, lives in a very nice place, and goes to a very expensive private university... and it bugs the shit out of me. I know it shouldn't, but it really does. We've been dating for a while now, and its at the point where the relationship should progress, but I feel myself holding back. Is it pride? Is it shame? Is it my stuborn ass and lack of sense?
Does anyone have any insight into this, any similar experiences? Any advice? Am I just being a whiny baby?
I understand where you're coming from. IMO what you need to be doing is looking for the positive qualities that you associate with being in your financial quota. IE is she humble, down to earth, willing to work hard. If you find these qualities in her and you still have resentment then you know it's your own irrational self interfering. Good luck friend
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: Cherk]
#5381572 - 03/09/06 02:25 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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hey man. I think what would be benificial is if you were INCOPORATE your clashing ideas of [rich people being un-appreciative] vs [your love for this individual girl] I think that taking your clashing ideas and coming to a balanced conclusion about them might be helpful. Talking to her will probably help you out too with your conclusions.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5384463 - 03/10/06 05:24 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Been there... and it is awkward... a lot of worry about fitting in with her family, etc... but in the end, it doesn't matter. If she connects with you, and you with her, then don't worry about anything else and enjoy the magic of the moment.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5385045 - 03/10/06 10:30 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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My boyfriend is a trust fund baby. He gets a hefty allowance, his parents own about 10 houses, and we both live with them for free right now. You would never know that he has money to meet him or hang out with him. He's not a snob, doesn't really CARE much about money, and has his priorities straight.
You should base your feelings on her on her attitude, and who she is. Not on her families financial status or what kind of background she comes from. Money doesn't make a person who they are.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: Liz]
#5386739 - 03/10/06 05:13 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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You know the answer man what are her politics? Coz' this is what economic determinism is and as you can't "determine" your economic relationship think about it. She gotta "move with you too" no what I mean?
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Edited by Silverwolf (03/10/06 05:14 PM)
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: Silverwolf]
#5390080 - 03/11/06 06:54 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Its life man. It's not wise to compare yourself to other people and the situations they're born into.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5390162 - 03/11/06 07:26 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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I'm lower class, born and raised. 90% of my friends were well taken care of financially. Cars bought for them, college paid for them, etcetera. Not rich, but comfortably middle class.
I get along okay with them, but I always have a sort of inner resentment of some of their personality traits. They seem to not have as good a grip on reality, they understimate how hard life can actually be, they wake up every morning and never have to worry about things not working out. They don't take seriously the fact that I sometimes have to wake up and wonder if I'm going to be able to keep treading water.
They're still my friends, but I must admit that having any sort of relationship with people when you have that sort of difference is hard. I'm always stressed and frustrated when I notice how well their life is progressing for them, thanks to all the help, and compare it to how poorly mine progresses because I'm doing it all by myself. The juxtaposition between their status and your own tends to cause a self esteem issues, and unfair self criticism.
Now, if I had to DATE someone like that, I don't know if I could get it to turn out well. I know it would seriously cause a lot of tension. Much more so than a friendship does.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: Konnrade]
#5390715 - 03/11/06 11:48 PM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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Konnrade said: I sometimes have to wake up and wonder if I'm going to be able to keep treading water.
Jesus?
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: eligal]
#5390867 - 03/12/06 01:35 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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eligal said:
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Pyjamas said: The "problem" here is yours. She had no control of her upbringing. All the better for you that you're working towards your own goals. You can't hold her wealth towards her in a negative way, which I'm senses you might if you felt you had to. She could probably learn a lot from you if she's had everything handed to her on a silver plate whereas you've been "out there".
It shouldn't be a problem. If it is, maybe you shouldn't date her?

really man, she is lucky to have been brought up in a good environment who are you to try and pull her down? just because your life wasnt peachy doesnt mean everyone elses has to be the same (youre like a child not getting the toy you want and so you wont let your friends play with theirs ). whats bugging you is seeing what you didnt get, and your angry at the environment you were brought up in for denying you the easy road. if youre gonna blame anyone (which you shouldnt), blame your parents. i know this sounds cold, but there are so many hard working parents which have brought their kids to a better life by working hard. maybe your parents did work hard and just didnt find the ladder, but i believe that if a person tries they can get out of poverty or atleast get their childrne out of povverty.
Exactly.
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If the girl had any senses she would dump you if you cant forget the fact that she's rich(or wealthy). Im not wealthy, i have food and shelter for free(Mother) but after that i work for everything. Their's something wrong with you if you care wheather she's rich or not. I dont care wheather people are rich or poor, black or white, they're still people, it's there personality that matter's. I've met many poor people and some but few have your same problem of not liking the rich, it's a jealousy issue. Be happy for them not angry at them.
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Re: Dating a rich chick. [Re: daimyo]
#5397530 - 03/14/06 01:14 AM (17 years, 10 months ago) |
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daimyo said:
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Konnrade said: I sometimes have to wake up and wonder if I'm going to be able to keep treading water.
Jesus?
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