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i need some advice
    #3370001 -

Ok

so about 5 months ago i had a falling out with my girlfriend of 2 years. She was interested in a friend of mine, pursuing it behind my back. I suspected because shes a bad lier, and when i found out i flipped, screamed at her for 10 minutes and wished death upon her.

I havent talked to her since, shes tried to contact me a few times, i ended up having to switch my cellphone number to avoid this.

This "friend" of mine was in a frat-like organization that i was a part of. Theres a big event tonight, and i havent been active since this happened, but all the guys are askin me to come out and hang, since they havent seen me or talked to me in a long time.

SO i dont know what to do. THINKING about seeing him makes my blood pressure shoot through the roof, i want to feel a knife cut his fucking throat open, but at the same time, i want to thank him for saving me from a really unhealthy and terrible relationship.

i dont know what to do.

The event is at 4am tommorow morning, so i have tonight to think it over.

Its been so long since i was crippled by this bullshit, by this fucking cheating bitch, my life has taken a huge turn since then which im infinitely grateful for, but i just want to see this guy get hurt.

I fantasize about beating the living shit out of him...and im not a violent person by any means...i HATE conflict.

So i really want to go and see all these people who i was friends with, but if hes there, i dont know what i'll do.

What do you guys think i should do?

--Pete


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"Human suffering has been caused because all too many of us cannot grasp that words are only tools for our use, and that the mere presence of a word in the dictionary does not mean it necessarily refers to something definitive in the real world"
--Richard Dawkins, "The Selfish Gene"

"It is the mind which creates the world about us, and even though we stand side by side in the same meadow, my eyes will never see what is beheld by yours."
-George Gissing

"Without a firm idea of himself and the purpose of his life, man cannot live, and would sooner destroy himself than remain on earth, even if he was surrounded by bread."
--Fyodor Dostoevsky

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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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Yeah girls can make us into monsters sometimes. Well I think you should go see all your friends anyway, they didnt do anything. On the other hand if you flip out and beat the crap outta this guy that could mean trouble for ya. You need to let go of the rage... at least if you want to go to the party. Like you said he did save you from a shitty relationship, tell him that and be the bigger man. If he starts actin like a dick, pop him in the face. Good luck brother and hope it works out. Keep us updated.


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mantis said:
Leave me out of this pissing contest, you fascist wang-dang-doodle!
Hattori Hanzo said:
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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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1) good that you realized it was an unhealthy relationship
2) I too have violent visuals of those that have done the same
3) go to the party, and bring a nice piece of arm candy
4) dont get into a fight, but if you do bash him hard, and live to tell us about it. :thumbup:


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"Whatever makes your butthole pucker"-Unknown
"Fuck it, fight it, it's all the same"-Sublime

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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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Go to the event and conduct yourself as though nothing is wrong!


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The bus came by and I got on that's when it all began!


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Re: i need some advice [Re: Ripple]
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well if you think you can follow Ripple's advice, then I'd do that.... but i know from personal experience that mixing ex-girlfriends with friends and alcohol tends to not have the best results...so if you think you might snap and start yelling/fighting/crying, i'd say just stay home...

:shrug: sorry to hear about your situation, though.


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Re: i need some advice [Re: Ripple]
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Ripple said:
Go to the event and conduct yourself as though nothing is wrong!


Best advice if possible.

Really, you shouldn't harbor the animosity. I know its easier said than done but its not doing you any good. Just try to look at it the right way (I think you already realize this part) that you were saved from a disastrous relationship. She could've strung you along even further, even married you someday, and then really shit on you in a worse way.

All the struggles we experience in life are actually useful if we learn from them. But, as I said, its sometimes easier said than done. If you can't just act as though nothing is wrong then I'd advise not being there. But if you can pull off a nonchalant attitude it'll be a great way to throw it back in their face as if to say "You didn't hurt me." They don't need to know how you feel inside.


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You invented the wheel....You push the motherfucker!!

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Re: i need some advice [Re: ToTheSummit]
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Yeah if you can pull off acting like nothing bothers you, then do that... i think you'd be half a human if you could pull it off tho.

If you dont have good vibes about going, in my experience, the best thing to do is not go. I know if i was in that situation I wouldn't go, unless i was deadset on beating the guy within an inch of his life or it really didn't bother me anymore. but thats me, and i enjjoy conflict.. doesn't seem like you're the same in that way.

I suggest you sit down and ask yourself whether you think it would be good for head to go. If these guys are friends of yours, you shouldn't have to go meet them at their event to see them again... thats just how i see it though.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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because it was your "friend" I can see why you are so angry.

but what happened happened, and you can't change any of it, so why wish ill will towards him? I've had this happen to me as well and all I can say is that my ex did the same to him as she did to me.

what goes around comes around.

go and enjoy yourself and see other people that you'd enjoy company with, especially if they are inviting you to go.

btw..is one woman worth all that emotional poo?


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Annnnnnd I had a light saber and my friend was there and I said "you look like an indian" and he said "you look like satan" and he found a stick and a rock and he named the rock ooga booga and he named the stick Stick and we both thought that was pretty funny. We got eaten alive by mosquitos but didn't notice til the next day. I stepped on some glass while wading in the swamp and cut my foot open, didn't bother me til the next day either....yeah it was a good time, ended the night by buying some liquor for minors and drinking nips and going to he diner and eating chicken fingers, and then I went home and went to bed.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: kaiowas]
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I say, he's a friend until he stabs you in the back. If you can't trust a friend, then they're no friend at all.

On the other hand, I'm sure there are more people that didn't hurt you that will be there and that you will enjoy catching up with.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: vivid]
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Yeah, thanks for all the advice guys

I'm deciding not to go...ive spent alot of time bringin myself to a stable mindset, and i think seeing him will set me into a bad spot again.

I saw him on campus a bit ago (he didnt see me), and my blood was boiling.  I even ran outside to try and catch him ( i didnt know what was going to happen) but thankfully he was gone.

Is one girl really worth all this?  No, of course not.  But after investing 2 years of my life, giving her everything i had, its a little hard to not want to kill this guy.  The tretchery is what gets to me, not the fact that i dont have her anymore...as far as im concerned shes dead to me.

So yeah, ive spent way too much time bringing myself to a positive spot again, and its just not worth it to go.

The event is actually not a party also, its the last day of pledging for the new recruits....and ive grown past all that stupid bullshit anyways.

So fuck it, im stayin home and playin Halo 2:P

:heart: shroomery

--Pete


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"Human suffering has been caused because all too many of us cannot grasp that words are only tools for our use, and that the mere presence of a word in the dictionary does not mean it necessarily refers to something definitive in the real world"
--Richard Dawkins, "The Selfish Gene"

"It is the mind which creates the world about us, and even though we stand side by side in the same meadow, my eyes will never see what is beheld by yours."
-George Gissing

"Without a firm idea of himself and the purpose of his life, man cannot live, and would sooner destroy himself than remain on earth, even if he was surrounded by bread."
--Fyodor Dostoevsky

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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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Haha, good choice man, A+!


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Me, Myself, and GOD

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Re: i need some advice [Re: DMTelepath]
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dude...thats harsh and i dont know that to say!!

would be nice if you had a HOTTY to go with you but......


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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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fuck that bitch.
the best revenge is living well.
think about that dude.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: norwegian1]
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yeah shes a bitch

shes a stalking type too, which is why i had to change my cellie. Shes got an account on the shroomery, but she hasnt been active in 3 months (and you better bet that time 3 months ago was to search my posts...got a msg the next day commenting on things id said on here)

Fuck crazy bitches!

I need to find me a sane, intelligent, nice girl.

Not another crazy, issue-ridden, selfish bitch.

yarrrr

--Krem


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"Human suffering has been caused because all too many of us cannot grasp that words are only tools for our use, and that the mere presence of a word in the dictionary does not mean it necessarily refers to something definitive in the real world"
--Richard Dawkins, "The Selfish Gene"

"It is the mind which creates the world about us, and even though we stand side by side in the same meadow, my eyes will never see what is beheld by yours."
-George Gissing

"Without a firm idea of himself and the purpose of his life, man cannot live, and would sooner destroy himself than remain on earth, even if he was surrounded by bread."
--Fyodor Dostoevsky

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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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good luck with that
women tend to be insane bitches
just like men.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: Kremlin]
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go, but bring a nice new hottie with you.

if the old bitch or old boyfriend try to talk to you, be
extremely cordial (as though nothing ever happened)
and politely keep it short.

look, any ho that cheats on you, and any friend that would
do that to another's girl doesn't deserve to have such an
impact on your life.

you're a good man AND you can play guitar...so aside from
your small penis, you should be able to pull all sorts of
broads.

good luck!


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All I know is The Growery is a place where losers who get banned here go.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: afoaf]
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afoaf speaks it true.

BUT guitar players attract crazy women.

its the sad truth.


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Men look at themselves and they see flawed humans, we look at women and we see perfect
GODDESSES
Women look at themselves and they seem utterly human, when looking at men they see proud
GODS.

~Casil



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Re: i need some advice [Re: Todcasil]
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(don't forget his small penis)


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All I know is The Growery is a place where losers who get banned here go.

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Re: i need some advice [Re: afoaf]
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LOL

:heart:


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"Human suffering has been caused because all too many of us cannot grasp that words are only tools for our use, and that the mere presence of a word in the dictionary does not mean it necessarily refers to something definitive in the real world"
--Richard Dawkins, "The Selfish Gene"

"It is the mind which creates the world about us, and even though we stand side by side in the same meadow, my eyes will never see what is beheld by yours."
-George Gissing

"Without a firm idea of himself and the purpose of his life, man cannot live, and would sooner destroy himself than remain on earth, even if he was surrounded by bread."
--Fyodor Dostoevsky

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Re: i need some advice [Re: afoaf]
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afoaf said:
(don't forget his small penis)


:ooo:
:flaming:

Hehe, JK.

It's probably a good idea that you didn't go. If you are not ready to confront old feelings, then that's okay. They will pass and life will go on.
Good luck finding that special someone!

~Desiree~


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The secret to being funny is to say smart things stupidly, or is it stupid things smartly? Whatever..it's not rocket surgery...or something like that.

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