I have come to the conclusion that I should get a vasectomy. Not accidental pregnancies or anything, heck I'm in my early twenties as a student that has had a handful of girlfriends that I went steady with. One of my friends works at a place that deals with foster children cases, doesn't actually see the kids though. Tells me all the time the typical people that drop off the kids are the ones that just see the kid as a product of a fuck up that is akin to them to carrying out trash to the curb. Kids of all ages get put into the system that no one would ever wish to get put in. Some of these kids get hauled all the way to the other coast hoping to find a parent to adopt.
I don't believe in overpopulation theories, nor do I believe in food shortages for the world. I believe in the improper distribution of both though. I strongly believe those willing to adopt should, for many who want kids don't even consider it.
Part of what lead me to this was just deep thinking. Who am I from selfish desires of the dream of a loving family that I could love back could basically give a biological son or daughter a near perfect chance of shortcomings. I come from a long line of dreadfully nearsighted people who married into another line of people who can't see very well. I didn't ask for life, but now that I have it I might as well make the best decisions I can. I figure the sperm that doesn't know life won't regret not being born, while the kid stuck in the hellish foster system would surely like the chance to know a different life.
If I meet a woman that wants biological children, I would propose this same example to her. If she isn't satisfied and leaves, then so be it, she wasn't right for me. In a world that we cannot understand our purpose outside of reproducing, it is our duty to find one. I want to give someone a chance, a chance they wouldn't get if I brought someone into this world that didn't ask to be.
I commute to school, and still am on my mom's medical insurance. She is a doctor herself so clearly she would know the risks and such, but I fear a fallout since my dad is dead and my brother has sworn off women. I am the only one to carry on the genes and give her grand kids, she may not appreciate my decision. I am not my own man, for college is being paid by her, and I still commute from home. I want to do it now during the break in summer so I have time to recover before school starts again. I don't have the intention of advertising myself as sterile to the ladies, but if something goes wrong I don't want to miss class due to it. I figure do it now before grad work as I will be further away and just have more to deal with.
I don't plan to get anything frozen either, why freeze sperm when the reason I am doing this is not to spread my genes? Sure my biological purpose will be gone, but in this world there are more important things. If my genes make it to extinction somehow, they burn in the fire with the rest anyway. This is the only life I'll know, and I feel comfortable loving a child that is not flesh and blood just the same.
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