Anonymous #1 said:

Honestly have no idea how to talk to a child, or don't even care to begin with on raising their kids properly.

I have spanked my son 2 times in his 9 years, and i look back on it and know that i did it out of frustration and anger. I could have shown him a better way than beating him. I only swatted his butt 5 times, but i still think it's the worst thing Ive done to him. It wasn't even hard.

The first time i spanked him was because he slapped his mother when he was mad. I was super pissed off, you DON'T hit ladies. It was a stupid thing to hit him because i was trying to get across that you DON'T result to violence when frustrated. He knew better because we have talked about not hitting before, and i felt it was the last straw. I know i could have handled it without spanking him. Kids do not need to learn that way.

Adults that spank their kids do it because they are frustrated, angry, resentful, spiteful, pissed off, let down and don't care enough to teach their kids why they shouldn't be doing what they are doing. I reason with my boys, and i get them to understand what they did wrong and tell them how to correct it. I do give them time outs, but i don't do it to get them out of my hair, i talk to them and sit them there to reflect. You can tell they respect me for it, learn their lesson, and then try not to disappoint me later by making the same mistake twice. It's called having a relationship with your kid. They grow to respect you instead of resent you.

Spanking is failed parenting. You spank because it makes you feel better, and that is being a horrible parent. And NO your not teaching them a lesson, your just being a dickhead that doesn't want to deal with your own kids issues.

It works for you? Well eat me. It scars kids for life. My dad use to beat the crap out of me without even explaining alternatives for the things i did wrong. I just got spanked because it was his way of correcting me. It only made me resent him for it. Lesson not learned, unless the lesson was not to piss off dad. Not a good way of disciplining while building a  relationship.

If you spank your kids when they do things they shouldn't, go take a parenting class. There are better ways that beating them.

And no im not going to sit here and argue with people that think spanking is ok, it's like auguring witha christian. You just never win.

Links of win!

http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/tenreasons.html
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/14266/why_spanking_your_child_is_wrong.html?cat=25

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Anonymous #11 said:

Spanked her with a baseball bat 40 or 50 times. That worked.

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Anonymous #1 said:

I don't see where im going wrong here.

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Anonymous #13 said:

Anonymous #16 said:

I see a lot of dumb bullshit advice in this thread.

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Not offense intended right? Nevertheless i strongly agree.

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Anonymous #16 said: I see him cussing on xbox live, throwing dumbass fits, and he calls people stupid, idiots, all kinds of names.

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Anonymous #16 said:He is a little punk motherfucker

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I have a hard time believing your brother calls people names!!! Does he look up to his big B perchance?

-Does that really fucking matter? I am 23 years old, I have the right to curse. A child will see cursing on TV, at school, EVERYWHERE. If you let your kid do this, then you suck as a parent.

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Anonymous #16 said:Guess what? I never insulted people, I never acted rude to people

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-Wow, what an intelligent response.

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Anonymous #16 said:The way my brother acts at age 11 disappoints me, and as a brother I have tried talking to him.

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I would like to have heard how that conversation "So look little brother you punk ass mother fucker, it just ain't cool to be all up in mom's face like a little bitch faggot yo, I mean, look at what happened to Tupac. Stop acting like a fag and I won't knock you on your ass". Shocking that your little one-on-one wasn't a success.

-How do you know what the conversation was between me and my brother? I don't communicate with faggots on a shroom forum in the same manner that I communicate with my brother, especially when giving him advice about life. You can stick that dumbass statement up your ass.

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Anonymous #16 said:I don't agree that being irrational and beating your kids is right

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Of course you don't.

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Anonymous #16 said:SOME degree of discipline is necessary, unless you don't mind your kid being a spoiled punk faggot.

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If you were to say it in my presence, or the presence of someone like me, we might feel compelled to "knock the fuck OUT OF YOU". See, I don't hit my kids because I love them, you on the other hand would be the recipient of wrath without guilt -- you should understand that is how it works.

-Did you not read that I was overly disciplined? I have been beaten like a grown man by my parents. I know what it feels like. I also happen to know that if you're out of line, and don't listen, then you deserve that kind of punishment.

I never acted out of line, so my discipline was unnecessary.

And I would love for you to "knock the fuck out of me", however, you better be prepared of the consequences to hitting a mentally unstable weight-lifting amateur boxer.

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Anonymous #16 said:In the end it all works out though.

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Wrong again, it doesn't always work out in the end, however we might end up a little closer to a desirable conclusion if you make an appointment to have a vasectomy... or perhaps an even more radical procedure.

-I'd love to cum in the woman that you have feelings for.

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Anonymous #16 said:If you don't hit your kid and he ends up being a dick, chances are, someone like me will knock the fuck out of him and show him he needs to shut the fuck up.

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Just out of curiosity, has anyone ever hurt you, or at least tried to hurt you? Aside from your daddy.

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-I've probably been in more phsyical altercations than you. You won't even smack your child when he's being a little douche.

Bitch.

Anonymous #22 said:

Anonymous #1 said:

I don't see where im going wrong here.

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I do.

You're assuming a uniformity in people (especially children) which does not exist. Not all kids are like your kids, or respond to discipline in the same way. My two children each have to be disciplined in completely different ways - because what is discipline for one, is a joke to the other.

I don't condone beating - but there are occasions where a quick slap on the butt is an effective way of grabbing their attention so you are even able to reson with them.

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I agree totally, not hitting your child but just one or two swift swats with an open hand works wonders.

I see so many relationships where the children are young and do not receive punishment from the mother, just the father.

Guess who the kids respect more...the father.

Words like beating, hitting, pounding with a baseball bat do not belong in a parents vocabulary.

Kids in the 40's 50's etc were spanked, look at the lack of respect shown to parents by their kids in this day and age, its because of the "oh nos i spanked my kid and am a child abuser" attitude.

Usually parents who will not spank their kids were seriously physically abused when they were kids. 

Anonymous #23 said:

You're just like every other lazy American I bet, let some medicine mellow out or pull up your child instead of parental involvement and discipline.
You have never worked with kids on a larger scale than one on one probably and have some delusion that your child should never be hit because he is an angel. I work with kids, every parent who drops them off is an example of the shit that makes kids what they are. The kids are abusive to everyone I work with, they are disrespectful, they fight for stupid reasons and have no self control.
There is at least 20 bottles of pills in the office that are distributed to different kids for bullshit labels that just excuse their behavior.

So next time you want to think kids don't need a good spanking or hell even a beating if it straightens them out, you should contemplate how society survived before labels like oppositional-defiance disorder and raised kids properly.

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Hell yeah, lets own this bitch