basdathea said:

well Liz some people are lonely. not everyone is lucky like prbly u. to have many friends around to talk to. plus forums are for that reason, public to members. so everyone can share what they want. and if you dont like what you are seeing then dont even bother about reading it. or even posting about it. complaining is no good. just keep yourself away from this matter and you wont have to worry about telling us this.

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I'm sorry that you're lonely and don't have many friends. Your husband posted asking people for advice and venting about his problems...but now this thread has turned into you two yelling at eachother and accusing eachother of stuff, and talking shit. I mean really, you're both adults, so act like it.

If you love him, which I would find hard to believe but whatever, if you do, get yourself BOTH into counselling and try to get things straightened out. Needing help with emotions isn't something to be ashamed of, I've been there...you just have to deal with it and confront your problems, without resorting to violence.

In any case, I hope it works out peacefully between the 2 of you, and things stop being so volatile, whether you cut ties or try to patch things up.

If I may just offer one last piece of advice - I have a nasty temper on me, and it took me years to learn how to deal with in a way that was not destructive to a relationship. I was violent when I was younger, got in a lot of fights, and was an extremely angry, unpredictable person. Now it takes a LOT to set me off, but it still happens once in a while.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 1 month now, and lived together for almost all of it. There are times that we fight, over stupid shit mostly. He has never called me a name, never spit at me, swung at me, threatened harm to me (or himself) or any of that. I've never done any of that to him, either. When we argue, as cheesy as it sounds, we both take deep breaths, walk into separate rooms for a few minutes, and then when we're CALM, we talk things out contructively. When emotions flare up, you say/do things you don't mean, and it doesn't help matters at all. It's ok to be honest....if I'm being a bitch, he says "you're being a bitch". If he's bein an asshole, I tell him so. But I never say "you're a fucking asshole", because he's simply not....we just all have our moments.

If you do try to get back together in the future, try to walk away from situations that are escalating, rather than make them worse.

Good luck!

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Thanks
I dont wanna fight anymore, ever.
Sorry for whatever harm i have caused 


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