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No Sex... A mixed experience
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I recently find myself- after being in college and having lots of sex, and then being in a three year relationship with regular sex-suddenly not getting any. We all go through phases like this, some people I guess for long amounts of time. And at first I was really kind of excited about it. I was glad to be out of my relationship and figured I could finally get back to doing what I wanted to do all of the time without a woman around to control me.

But what did I find? DAMN I think about women ALL THE TIME, now that I'm not sexually active. So in a way, women are still controlling my thoughts even though I'm in no sort of relationship.

Anyone else know what I'm talking about? Like it's cool to be your own man, and you don't want to think about sex all the time, but then you can't help yourself when you go out you spend the whole night trying to hit on women? Is it possible to be a straight single man without women totally dominating your world because they are so sexy and enticing?

And women, is it the same for you, or can you be comfortably single?


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: gluke bastid]
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gluke bastid said:Is it possible to be a straight single man without women totally dominating your world because they are so sexy and enticing?


Yes. Working out is the key. I go without wacking off for a week at a time and I only have to stop myself a few times if my routine is good.

You begin to realize that all that sexual energy is yours to control, if you have the strength to do so.


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: The_Hobbit]
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yeah, im 15 days out of my first satisfying relationship ever - and i have no cravings. I get horny now and again, and probably masturbate once or twice a week. For 2 or 3 days i loathed in self pity and then started going for hikes and using my time productively (i dont work)..

Before this relationship i was very shy and i still find it hard to believe that this older women finds value in me. However, im quite flirty and friendly and way less dense/tense around girls and women now... However, this isnt to say im trying to get laid - i just enjoy their time.

I find value in myself and like to share that with people, rather than using them to fulfil my urges. It should be mutual, if its not, its not worth your time. This means personally, intellectually, spiritually and physically/sexually.


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: PDU]
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Well.. Sex is weird like that. If I am around any good looking girls like at school I am horny as fuck. Actually pretty much all day at school I am thinking about sex.. probably like 60% of the time atleast. But honestly, as much as I fantasize about it with every cute girl I pass in the hallways, I know deep down I am one of those sensitive guys that wants a spiritual connection before a physical one.

My mind really fucks with me about this though. Like I will be dying to fuck this chick right up to the point when it is a possibility and then I will realize it's not what I want... it's funner to think about than to actually happen, cuz really, to fuck a female, your body is making a big statement there.. it's like the honor of your penis... not something to just throw around... I'll be flirting with these girls and then realize they are into me and I can tell one thing would lead to another if I pursued it, and then I just turn away cuz I know I'm not prepared to go down that road.

I was in love with a beautiful and intelligent girl once. I felt totally connected to her (for awhile) and we were always sexual. I felt safe with her, even though looking back I was being really immature but it didn't matter at the time. I was infatuated with the chick. Too bad people change and things get fucked up. It happens. Anyways, I'm waiting for that spark again. I'm still young, I have time to be patient... I realy want to find that girl that completes me

Yea sex feels great for a little while, and then it's over, and you're back to your life...

I will probably try and fuck the next hot chick I can though... biology is powerful.

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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: Grav]
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Well I got a little sidetracked there. I also wanted to mention how addictive sex can become until your relationship disappears, and then who are you and what are you doing? That girl also made me addicted to sex... I craved it constantly and totally lost sight of what a relationship meant..

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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: Grav]
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Sex was incredible in my last serious relationship. But for three months after we stopped, I went crazy, I was so horny all the time. It's strange now because I have almost no sexual drive and I'm 24.


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: Grav]
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Grav said:
it's funner to think about than to actually happen, cuz really, to fuck a female, your body is making a big statement there.. it's like the honor of your penis... not something to just throw around...


Honestly, i love fantasizing about girls i probably have nothing in common with (who knows?) but if she's cute and i see some glimmer of something in her - i like to imagine what she might be like and how we would interact. fantasy is often better than reality.


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: PDU]
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Yeah, reality is for those with no imagination (read it on some poster long ago) :tongue:


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: Grav]
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Grav said:
Well.. Sex is weird like that. If I am around any good looking girls like at school I am horny as fuck. Actually pretty much all day at school I am thinking about sex.. probably like 60% of the time atleast. But honestly, as much as I fantasize about it with every cute girl I pass in the hallways, I know deep down I am one of those sensitive guys that wants a spiritual connection before a physical one.


yep, thats me right there


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: PDU]
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PDU said:
I find value in myself and like to share that with people, rather than using them to fulfil my urges. It should be mutual, if its not, its not worth your time. This means personally, intellectually, spiritually and physically/sexually.


That's a pretty good attitude to have. It's no wonder I feel so out of place when I go out to a meatmarket bar with one of my friends... it's pretty selfish just to go out looking for booty, and ultimately pretty unrewarding.

I was talking to my friend about this last night actually. He's spent the last 5 months in a zen monastary  :shocked: and I was asking him if sexual fantasy gets in the way of his meditations. He told me that sexual fantasy is one of the most rewarding mental states to really go wild and let your mind blossom in. I think I'll have to change my sexual diet...from just doing it with my girlfriend to really engaging my fantasies and getting excited about them. In terms of the physical frustration fortunately I have a drum set in my apartment and I beat the hell out of it everyday.  :smile:


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: gluke bastid]
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gluke bastid said:
It's no wonder I feel so out of place when I go out to a meatmarket bar with one of my friends...


a meatmarket bar? never been to one... might need to find one around here!  :laugh: hmm... how would i find such a place?  :confused: whats the difference between a regular bar and a meatmarket bar?


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"do you have the freedom to do with your nervous system what you want?"

"MolokoMilkPlus said:
I'll respect you if you let me give you a blow job"

"tactik said:
respect the can."


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: eligal]
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It's a "meet" market, as in a popular place for young singles to meet and mingle. (And leave together for some sweaty sex.) :wink:

You can't miss one when you drive by on Friday or Saturday night...the parking lot is full of nice, yet not-too-expensive, cars, and the music is loud.  Inside, the eye contact is frantic, everyone is wearing too much cologne, and the women are showing a lot of skin.

Good luck!

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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: Veritas]
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Veritas said:
It's a "meet" market, as in a popular place for young singles to meet and mingle. (And leave together for some sweaty sex.) :wink:

You can't miss one when you drive by on Friday or Saturday night...the parking lot is full of nice, yet not-too-expensive, cars, and the music is loud.  Inside, the eye contact is frantic, everyone is wearing too much cologne, and the women are showing a lot of skin.

Good luck!


:cool: i need do much more bar hoppin!! havent ben to a bar or a club in ages...


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\m/ Spanksta \m/

"do you have the freedom to do with your nervous system what you want?"

"MolokoMilkPlus said:
I'll respect you if you let me give you a blow job"

"tactik said:
respect the can."


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Re: No Sex... A mixed experience [Re: Veritas]
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Veritas said:
It's a "meet" market, as in a popular place for young singles to meet and mingle. (And leave together for some sweaty sex.) :wink:

You can't miss one when you drive by on Friday or Saturday night...the parking lot is full of nice, yet not-too-expensive, cars, and the music is loud.  Inside, the eye contact is frantic, everyone is wearing too much cologne, and the women are showing a lot of skin.

Good luck!


That's funny I always thought of it as "meat" market...so named because there is always so much flesh on display. "Meetmarket" is a lot less obscene.

But yeah just find out where all the ex-frat boys go to get drunk on friday nights. You'll find lots of people trying to pick up other people in drunken desperation. It can be a lot of fun if you're in the right mood


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