EvilMushroom666 said:

While I can understand her concern how she went about it was not very
constructive at all. She would have been much better off to talk to you
first and pass along her fears and concerns in regards to you growing
an illegal drug in a home that she shares with you.

Its not the end of the world tho, many edible and medicinal mushrooms are
legal to grow and just as interesting. I would still convey to your
girl how upset and hurt you are that she would go ahead and destroy
your projects without first talking to you about it.

Either way you are going to be a father soon, man up and walk the straight
and narrow for a while, kids are always better off when their parents are
at home, not locked up for 7 years on non violent drug charges.

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Michelle M said:

You should reach agreement with your significant other about such matters long before thinking of living together.  Not to mention, having a child together. 

I would have a hard time dealing with someone pulling something like that.  She is acting more like a parent than a partner.  I would not want to be governed, now that I'm an adult. 

It certainly bears talking about, preferably PRIOR to such a destructive act.  Parenting is serious business.  However, you should have been given the choice to come to that conclusion yourself.

Loving partners do not govern one another or make arbitrary rules.  They are attracted to their partner because they already love them, not because they are thinking to make them into someone else. 

I would not be able to move past this.  However, I hope you can and wish you peace.

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EvilMushroom666 said:

Are you working with agar at all yet? If so I will be the first to send
you out some edible culture wedges to continue your projects with brother.

Sometimes in life your choices are not always easy, but at least they
are clear.

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DeathSpider said:

Michelle M said:

You should reach agreement with your significant other about such matters long before thinking of living together.  Not to mention, having a child together. 

I would have a hard time dealing with someone pulling something like that.  She is acting more like a parent than a partner.  I would not want to be governed, now that I'm an adult. 

It certainly bears talking about, preferably PRIOR to such a destructive act.  Parenting is serious business.  However, you should have been given the choice to come to that conclusion yourself.

Loving partners do not govern one another or make arbitrary rules.  They are attracted to their partner because they already love them, not because they are thinking to make them into someone else. 

I would not be able to move past this.  However, I hope you can and wish you peace.

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Well said

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nemesis19902008 said:

DeathSpider said:

Michelle M said:

You should reach agreement with your significant other about such matters long before thinking of living together.  Not to mention, having a child together. 

I would have a hard time dealing with someone pulling something like that.  She is acting more like a parent than a partner.  I would not want to be governed, now that I'm an adult. 

It certainly bears talking about, preferably PRIOR to such a destructive act.  Parenting is serious business.  However, you should have been given the choice to come to that conclusion yourself.

Loving partners do not govern one another or make arbitrary rules.  They are attracted to their partner because they already love them, not because they are thinking to make them into someone else. 

I would not be able to move past this.  However, I hope you can and wish you peace.

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Well said

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Very well said. I'm trying my best to handle this situation very maturely and respectfully.  It is difficult however because it's a new hobby that I really enjoy.  It brings me peace and relieves my stress to be able to grow such a fascinating specimen.  And I am excited about becoming a parent, and would never dare to eat mushrooms with a newborn around. I explained that to her, but she is not compromising with me at all. I am going to buy new stuff today and rebuild. I am a working man, a great person, awesome husband, and am going to be a great father, BUT I will never let someone, especially my significant other, control me.

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right on brotha, how would she like it if you smashed all her plants because you didn't want them around.
but on the same note she is your wife she deserves respect as do you.

billb said:

That right there is the highest form of disrespect. She does not value your opinion...nay, she doesn't care what you think. It's her way or the highway!!!! I've been married for 13 years and my wife wouldn't dare mess with my stuff that way, nor would I mess with her stuff. That being said, It's not a good idea to have grows around newborns. Talk to your lady about this, hormones aside, she needs to respect you!!!

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EvilMushroom666 said:

billb said:

That right there is the highest form of disrespect. She does not value your opinion...nay, she doesn't care what you think. It's her way or the highway!!!! I've been married for 13 years and my wife wouldn't dare mess with my stuff that way, nor would I mess with her stuff. That being said, It's not a good idea to have grows around newborns. Talk to your lady about this, hormones aside, she needs to respect you!!!

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I agree, but turning around and saying I am going to grow regardless of
what you think is also very disrespectful...seems like a lot of disrespect
on both sides, and not a lot of communication.

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I am going to buy new stuff today and rebuild. I am a working man, a great person, awesome husband, and am going to be a great father, BUT I will never let someone, especially my significant other, control me.

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I get from the above post that he is planning to go ahead and grow regardless
of what she thinks . Cultivating is fun, interesting and
exciting, but depending upon what you are growing and where you are doing
it can also be HIGHLY illegal.

I have NEVER at anytime cultivated any active species of mushrooms and
yet I am just as addicted and bemushroomed as those who do. Being able
to be open about your hobby due to it being legal is a great weight off
of anyone's shoulders, Plus I get to live vicariously through all the
grow logs and pictures that those who do grow actives post on the Shroomery
and other sites:D.

EvilMushroom666 said:

billb said:

That right there is the highest form of disrespect. She does not value your opinion...nay, she doesn't care what you think. It's her way or the highway!!!! I've been married for 13 years and my wife wouldn't dare mess with my stuff that way, nor would I mess with her stuff. That being said, It's not a good idea to have grows around newborns. Talk to your lady about this, hormones aside, she needs to respect you!!!

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I agree, but turning around and saying I am going to grow regardless of
what you think is also very disrespectful...seems like a lot of disrespect
on both sides, and not a lot of communication.

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EvilMushroom666 said:

Quote:

I am going to buy new stuff today and rebuild. I am a working man, a great person, awesome husband, and am going to be a great father, BUT I will never let someone, especially my significant other, control me.

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I get from the above post that he is planning to go ahead and grow regardless
of what she thinks . Cultivating is fun, interesting and
exciting, but depending upon what you are growing and where you are doing
it can also be HIGHLY illegal.

I have NEVER at anytime cultivated any active species of mushrooms and
yet I am just as addicted and bemushroomed as those who do. Being able
to be open about your hobby due to it being legal is a great weight off
of anyone's shoulders, Plus I get to live vicariously through all the
grow logs and pictures that those who do grow actives post on the Shroomery
and other sites:D.

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I am going to continue growing edibles. I told her that I enjoy this hobby and will not grow psilocybin mushrooms anymore. I just want to keep up with the hobby and grow mushrooms. I don't really care if they have the magic or not (well i do but i wont tell her that). So I am going to be giving up the hobby of growing psilocybin mushrooms for now and move on to edibles and exotic species.

I want to thank everyone for the good vibes and great responses. It has helped me tremendously and I am very grateful. Oh and by the way, it's a baby girl!!

nemesis19902008 said:

I am going to continue growing edibles. I told her that I enjoy this hobby and will not grow psilocybin mushrooms anymore. I just want to keep up with the hobby and grow mushrooms. I don't really care if they have the magic or not (well i do but i wont tell her that). So I am going to be giving up the hobby of growing psilocybin mushrooms for now and move on to edibles and exotic species.

I want to thank everyone for the good vibes and great responses. It has helped me tremendously and I am very grateful. Oh and by the way, it's a baby girl!!

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