Alright...
This doesn't seem to quite fit in this forum, but I'm really torn up over this, so I think it does qualify as a threat to my mental health. I have a room mate, who I only got to know well a few months before I moved in with, after which time I found out what kind of person he really is.
I'm not really sure what to do about this because he is so volatile, I'm never sure if he will tweak out when I approach him about random stuff around the place, let alone telling him he needs to see a psychiatrist...so basically he is an asshole. He can be a very cool fun person and a good friend, but he will randomly, if in his eyes you do something *slightly* against him, he basically mounts an offensive slaughter against you.
The thing that's really bothering me is that I feel trapped. I can't talk to him about these things...I can't just slip under the radar because he *will* find a way to engage in verbal combat. I can't just blast back at him because I'm pretty sure he would fight me (some friend, eh?) which would be dangerous because he's really strong, has studied fighting arts, been in prison & a ton of fights, etc. so he would probably kill me. I've thought about this and I would be ok with us getting into it and him killing me so that he would go to prison for life. Sounds messed up, but whatever, I need an outside perspective on this.
I dunno it's basically about the confrontation thing. He doesn't take criticism well - actually reverse. He will bring up faults on your side if you point out something he's doing wrong. He's hypocritical in that he will demand certain things to be done around the place but do very similar or the same things himself and usually in a more extreme way.
I will give an example that happened just tonight, which prompted me to write this and it will give you a real example. I was doing HW while listening to music when his gf came over. I heard them talking aggressively, which I assumed was an fight, but I couldn't quite figure it out with my music on and mind on HW (didn't care anyway - just doing the natural assessment of my surroundings). He knocks on my door and says "fazdazzle you awake?" I don't answer thinking i'll use my music as a guise if he asks later, since I don't want to be in an argument right before bed nor do I want to get in an argument with he and his gf.
I walk out to brush my teeth and he says "hey fazdazzle, remember in metaphysics (we took a metaphysics class together) we talked about the mind/body problem and how if you took all your information in your head and put it in another body, would you be you?" I said yes, to which he disagreed and felt he needed to defend himself. I didn't expect it to get far so I calmly defended myself...after a while I realized I *really* wanted to go to bed and I didn't want anything to do with this. He stated his point again and I shrugged & said "I disagree and I'm going to bed." As I started brushing my teeth I heard him say to his gf "Strong argument." I walked out and calmly said "I didn't want to get into an argument right now, if you had asked for my opinion and said Ok that would have been fine, but that's not where it went." Brushed my teeth.
I'm pretty dang sure he thinks I'm backing out because I can't defend myself and would have no matter at what point I would have ended it..but I really didn't want to argue for 30 minutes about the mind/body problem a. with him and b. right before I go to bed.
We have this place until May, when I will finally be able to part ways with him. All my other friends think he's a volatile, anger driven crazy ass and can't believe I'm living with him. I've lived with around a dozen different people and he is leagues below everyone else in terms of livability. Just to top all this off - at one point we got into an argument and he mocked me like a little kid, yaknow in the whiny distorted voice and said shut up...like "Blah blah blah Shut Up." He really stressed that, like I was some piece of shit that wasn't worthy of speaking. He apologized later but that is beyond unacceptable. I told him "I don't know what you consider a friendship to be, but that isn't it."
AHHHH!!!! lol....I'm really sorry this is so long....but I feel like I need accurate advise. Thank you so much for whoever reads this....I really mean it. 
- one flustered fazdazzle
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). Also if I were to walk away it would take control away from him, which he despises, and he would probably says something like "fine walk away, dick." 
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