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Ego Death
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#5331489 - 02/23/06 12:27 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Post deleted by danoEoboy<p>Reason for deletion: i'm not providing any more ammo for the punks that dislike me (or my net rep)
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FungusMan
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5331555 - 02/23/06 12:44 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Sounds like rosaciea (sp?)
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Footprint
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: FungusMan]
#5331964 - 02/23/06 02:42 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Would it really accomplish a single thing if you became a depressed hermit? However hard it may be to simply walk outside and live your life, it will make matters much worse if you lock yourself up. I just needed to be the voice of reason. You say you've been going through this for 10 years so this may be what you hear everyday as a solution. Most of the time the obvious solution is the best. You say that it is pschological, so I could imagine that the condition will decrease in intensity if you simply say "FUCK IT!" and just decide to live.
Either way, if you lock yourself up your going to stir crazy and end up going outside either way. A human being can only cut themself off from social interaction due to a lack of confidence for so long. I'm speaking from experience.
No human being on earth is free from pain; every single one of us has to deal with it consistently. I'm going through some rough times myself at the moment. What everybody needs to realize is that most of our problems are petty and insignificant. Life is without a doubt worth living. If you let "red face" lead to suicide, I will have no remorse for your actions. You will simply have become another skidmark on the road of life. Just live.
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eligal
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5331980 - 02/23/06 02:50 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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if its psychological you can cure it. if you can stop it from happening for half n hour, then go out and do your best to hold it back, and then go home and rest, and go back out and do it again. eventually your mind will get over it and stop with the reddening. never give up.
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5331996 - 02/23/06 02:54 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah that sounds a lot like Rosacea, I would go to a dermatologist.
Anyways, let's say that it is some completely unknown and incurable medical condition. What good will becoming a recluse do? I know several people who have physical disorders which makes them not the most attractive people, but they have big hearts and good spirits.
Please don't retreat. Go forward and show people who you truly are on the inside. And if someone doesn't want to be your friend because of the way you look, then fuck them, find someone who can be a true friend.
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: dblaney]
#5332071 - 02/23/06 03:17 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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if i had that i would try to treat it with some dank weed and Prozac or something to make me happy and forget about it completely then maybe it would go away.i say live life and forget about it.many ppl have much worse things to deal with.having a red face is not a good reason to end a life after all u only have one and theres no going back. life is precious and there are no redos.
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: beavis190]
#5332125 - 02/23/06 03:37 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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There are people out there that do not give a crap if you turn red and blotchy you know. Such as me. I judge no one on appearance and only attitude.
Just go out and ignore anything that bothers you and eventually things should work out and you will find your group o people and you can all have fun with each other and help each other out.
Hell if your that worried go gothic wear all black and paint your face white and hang out with other people like that.
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Edited by mikeownow (02/23/06 03:38 PM)
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MOTH
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5332163 - 02/23/06 03:53 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I would move to a isolated spot where interaction with people is minimized. However, that's just running away from the problem. I think it would be a shame if you just cowered in your room all your life. You have a sensitive and "familiar" personality. I like you and I can't even see your face. It does sound like Rosacea but if not, who cares, that's just part of your body. I speak from experience because I used to hate my face. In fact, I still to this day will not allow my husband to touch or stroke my face, at any time. It just freaks me out, to think of him touching something so...ehhh. So he has touched me everywhere but there, despite occasional kisses on the lips. It's taken him nearly six years of courtship before he realized he'd never touched my face.
Anyway, don't resign yourself to a lifetime of solitude and suicide. Why would you kill your soul to save face?
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: MOTH]
#5332188 - 02/23/06 04:05 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I've tried everything - Hypnotherapy, anxiety drugs, behaviour alteration - even the doctors don't know anymore.
might give meditation a shot
and just because your face is red doesn't mean you'll never make any friends. you might try thinking of it like this, the friends you do make will truely be friends. superficial / fake / ignorant people won't give you the time of day, and that's fine. it will be much easier for you to sort through the crap and find some people you can truely get along with.
and as far as finding a girlfriend, same thing. if you find someone that truely likes you, she couldn't care less whether your face was red or blue. you'll know she truely likes you for who you are.
now i don't know how old you are, but as you grow older you and everyone else will mature. right now if you're in high school i can only imagine how hard it is. but as you work your way up, you'll find more and more people that you can get along with.
give it some time, don't give up, and don't let something on the outside ruin what's on the inside.
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5332252 - 02/23/06 04:43 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Seriously. If its THAT bad, get some fucking coverup to lighten the tone of your face.
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eligal
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: GrapeSoda]
#5332373 - 02/23/06 05:23 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Fuzine said: Seriously. If its THAT bad, get some fucking coverup to lighten the tone of your face.
like the guy in vanilla sky!! 
no, but regular cover up sounds like a good idea
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5332705 - 02/23/06 07:11 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Go see a dermatologist. They will help you out. Your problem sounds purely physical. There are skins creams that take redness out of your skin. I've used one of these to combat dry/irritated skin and it works within minutes.
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: MOTH]
#5334553 - 02/24/06 10:51 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Firstly, I want to apologise for bring this down on you guys here. I'm not feeling as depressed today and I think it was silly for me to of said about ending my life.
My only justification is that I seem to be manicly depressed too. Sometimes I do just want to end it all to save the hassle of fighting this (and other) problems. Other times I feel good and optimistic that I can overcome my (insignificant?) 'problems'.
The problem is not physical. It is purely mental. You could imagine it as blushing + social phobia X 10.
At first my mind thinks of something that may cause it anxiety although I am not conciously seeking to look - my mind has programmed itself to do so. The triggers have now become almost anything - as I said its hard to even sit and watch TV with a relative.
I then get this feeling in my gut like all the muscles cramping suddenly - which is then accompanied by a rapid heart beat.
Then I become aware of an extreme heat eminating from my face - sometimes it will only be one side of my face! Usually the side which is most visible.
Essentially - I think my mind needs to be re-programmed - but I've let it get to the stage where the reprogramming is going to be very difficult due to the amount of triggers its created through my reclusive behaviour.
Lol - this is the funny thing - I understand myself essentially whats happening - but the docs seem to think there must be some physical cure but no physical cure can reprogram the mind.
It is the robot, the ego, uncouncious, or the automated part of my brain that has created these growing associations.
Now the only logical answer is constant exposure to the trigger situations will eventually lead my mind to reprogram itself - but this is where I'm failing.
I can, some nights , be extremely outgoing (despite red face) I will just fight and fight or just keep exposing myself to it thinking 'fuck it - I don't care any more' but it seems to remanifest itself in other ways. As soon as one trigger is sorted another crops up! I have so many of them too that it seems almost impossible to stop this anymore.
Many of my friends have accepted me for what I am and with some of them I have discussed the condition although they don't really understand - I have great appreciation that they are not completely superficial.
I'll stop blabbering about my shit now - sorry
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: Ego Death]
#5335519 - 02/24/06 05:03 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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It's okay, blab all you like...it's your thread. 
Plus, you are aware enough of your condition to recognize that it is triggered by external (internal?) factors. That means you have the power to work through it...you say that the triggers are "anything" but can you narrow it down to those that are particularly bothersome? Or intense?
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: MOTH]
#5335752 - 02/24/06 06:52 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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well if u live in ca or another state that allows prescription marijuana i say go ask a doc for some dank medical weed (dont say that)say u have anxiety chronic pain and make up some others to get it on the right path. if its mental i would think that some mind altering drugs would cure it right up just a suggestion
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Re: Undocumented condition "red face" [Re: beavis190]
#5338038 - 02/25/06 01:40 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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You need to see a better dermatologist. However I think it could also be psychological. Fuck man, don't let it get you down!! We all have crazy weird shit like that.. I have bad teeth from the beginning of highschool right until the last few days when I got braces. Jesus, if I could go back and do highschool with a nice set of pearly whites, I'd do it all over again.
Don't miss out on life because of your face. I bet it's not even that bad! I actually like it when my face is a little rosie. It looks healthier. When I'm baked or really pale looking, I'll even pinch my cheeks in the washroom a little to bring the colour back! No foolin. That's something to make fun of, dude. Don't worry about it so much. You'll find something.
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