I agree that you should only judge individuals and their unique character, rather than groups as broad as 'white people who try to act black', I've had this discussion quite a few times and its easy to start sounding ignorant/racist if you categorize people.
That being said, white OR black, people that try to act tough and talk like thugs do annoy me. But usually if they're black, you kind of give them the OK whereas if they're white you might be more inclined to think of them as a poser. This is discrimination and you should be wary of it. Don't pass judgement just based on that.
In my experience, white people who act "ghetto" tend to be less intelligent, less respectful, and a lot more reckless in their behavior. I'm not implying any causality, just noting some common characteristics.
I, myself, would never want to model this type of behavior, but what do you think are some reasons people justify it?
I could say the same for hippies. When I went to see Phish, I noticed a lot of disrespectful assholes, drugged out lowlifes, etc., but I go to another show of almost equal musical genre the crowd could APPEAR exactly the same on the outside but in reality they end up proving to be much better people, more use of manners and and lot more friendliness and respect for others. It is, thus, I think dangerous to committ yourself fully to any one culture, whether it be a thug or a hippie, unless you're willing to accept the consequences which include the fact that you're probably going to get judged. I think thats why a lot of people, myself included, realize at some point in their life that its better to sort of blend in and find other ways to still be their own very unique individual.
For me, I want to have an edge in everything I do practically, so when it comes to the way I dress, I don't want to dress goth because there's no reason for me to give the impression I might be a psycho, and I don't want to be a thug because again there's nothing desirable about it fo rme. I dress somewhat casually with a little bit of a hippy/skater edge because a) I like the styles and the ability to be creative with them and b) you do tend to dress like the groups of peers you enjoy being a part of. This is not a rule, just a tendency. I create my own personal style through subtle things like custom t-shirts or necklaces or whatever. But I do try to blend in somewhat because I don't want to be put into a category of people notorious for being ignorant assholes, and I want people to look past my rather simple clothes so they're more likely to want to just get to know me first. You're going to be judged no matter what, but there is a level of control you have that should not be dismissed. Trying to minimize how much initial judgement you take on by the way you talk/dress, this is a noble goal for me and others, in my opinion, since it's likely to open up more opportunities and thus increase lifelong happiness. Whether or not I accomplish this feat at all, I cannot say just yet, but that's sort of the logic behind the way I dress. What I can't understand is why someone would want to dress in a way that hinders their opportunities -- do they not understand this, or do they just not care?
Moving to the subject of language, for instance, I have friends who constantly use the F-bomb, loudly nonetheless, in public, and sometimes its kind of embarassing to be around. But if I ask them, nicely, to try and curb it, they'll stare at me like I'm asking some ridiculous favor (as if it's really that important to use obscene words that ultimately do not add anything to the substance/meaning of a sentence?). Where they're from, I guess it is acceptable and maybe commonplace, or maybe their parents were potty-mouths as well and so they have no reason to reject it. But where I'm from, dropping the f-bomb in public gets you a lot of dirty looks and is generally considered very disrespectful, especially in the presence of children. Does the fact that they grew up around it justify their continued use of it here? Or do you think they ought to break the habit and realize that they might have been raised a bit off-color? The perpetrator almost always will defend and continue their use, even if knowledgeably confronted.
Some people will say "live and let live" but I think when it comes to things like respect, no you do not have a right to use the f-bomb in front of my 3-year old just because you happened to grow up around it. That's not live and let live, because they're living but they're not letting me raise my daughter according to the MORE common social norm (which is to refrain from using the f-bomb around small children) Just because you don't see any harm in it, doesn't mean there is no harm in it. Respect for others is something a lot of parents seem to be forgetting to teach their kids these days, and needs to be incorporated into the "live and let live" principle.
This begs the question, should "thugs" keep up the act when they move someplace where its not really the norm? OR, how often do they? Or should we say go ahead, it's your roots, and if you contaminate our more elegant language use with your slang and improper grammar, well that's just the nature of the beast.
It seems to me that most of the people speaking "ebonics" have an extreme lack of vocabulary and some are simply trying to cover it up , maybe subconsciously, by adapting a less-stringent form of English. That or they just choose not to use a more advanced vocabulary, which doesn't really make sense when most people feel misunderstood enough, why would they want to worsen that by effectively dumbing down their communication level?
So it's not the fact that they talk or dress differently that annoys me, that's their right, but it's the fact that they are content with using the same 3rd-grade level vocabulary a crackhead bum might have started.
Take the phrase "an exponential increase"...it could be applied to millions of ideas, and is a very important idea to understand when it comes to just about any real-world issue, but how would one convey that phrase in ebonics in equal or less words? My point is that why are the same people who are hungry for power/control settling for ebonics which hinders both their power and control of a social situation? And what would be the benefit, if any, of sticking with ebonics, or than to fit in? Perhaps we should be disciplining kids in public schools for not using proper english?
Hope this rant wasn't too long, but I'm interested to hear someone else's thoughts on my theories.
-------------------- The answer to 1984 is 1776.
Edited by kake (02/14/06 02:39 PM)
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