empty space said:

To me a slut is nasty. Like if she let him fuck her the first time without a condom then she's a slut. And then he is a dumbass and should go to the doctor.

Just cause she fucked him once and then dumped him doesn't make her a slut. Thats just a little rude. Maybe he didn't fuck her well. I would do the same if a girl was a bad lay. My definition of a slut is clearly a little different than yours.

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sun_spots said:

Sounds straightforward to me.  She wanted a casual fling, she got one, and now she's done.  No mind game there.  Why create drama where none exists?  OP, sorry it didn't turn out how you imagined it would.  Kinda sucks, but it's really not that big of a deal IMO.

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zappaisgod said:

I had one date with my wife.  We went home to her place the first night.  We didn't use a condom.  We have been married for almost 20 years.

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Rebelutionsssss said:

Well for me you're either going to marry the person you're dating or it's just a sex fling. I would prefer to find my soul mate.

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empty space said:

zappaisgod said:

I had one date with my wife.  We went home to her place the first night.  We didn't use a condom.  We have been married for almost 20 years.

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You also said you love sluts. I love sluts too. I love being a slut but I've been good lately and wear condoms w everyone I fuck because I haven't been to the doctor since me and my ex broke up and we were both sluts.. Had more than a few threesomes w her slutty friends. There's nothing wrong with being a slut if you're ok with it. But i think its kind of rude and disrespectful to call someone a slut. It didnt sound like you were going to appreciate me calling your wife a slut. Why demean the girl? She's just trying to have fun.

Rebelutionsssss said:

Well for me you're either going to marry the person you're dating or it's just a sex fling. I would prefer to find my soul mate.

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Ok whatever makes you happy. Personally I'm in no rush to look for a soulmate. I don't have time for dating right now. But I definitely have time for sex and I'm going to fuck as many women as I want until I meet my soulmate. Probably afterward too because I'm polyamorous and I'm a freak so my soulmate will have to be the same.

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qman said:

"there's nothing wrong with being a slut if you're ok with it"

I agree, but a slut can never gain respect for it like a stud can, sorry for the double standard but that's just the way it works.

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Anonymous said:

i just reread the op, why would you deny her for sex on the first night? makes no sense

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...Kinda fucked that you even have to ask. Sad standards you have

I also call slut. She knew she had him hook line and sinker for a fuck so she lead him on. I mean who ever met someone, thought they liked them, then AFTER fucking two days later changed their minds?

Sluts thats who. Teaches OP not to try to fall for bar skanks tho. Hope you didnt go down on her

automan said:

A lot of you all sound very young. A woman taking charge of her own sexuality is a slut? Trading orgasms on the first time you have a sleepover is sad standards? I thought younger generations might have more open minds when it comes to sexuality and gender roles, but you guys seem to be taking a step back from where we were a quarter century ago.

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empty space said:

qman said:

"there's nothing wrong with being a slut if you're ok with it"

I agree, but a slut can never gain respect for it like a stud can, sorry for the double standard but that's just the way it works.

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Maybe not from people like yourself. An awesome woman is worth far more to me than just her sex or body. I know plenty of women who you'd probably call sluts that I'm sure are way cooler I imagine than you are. And I know plenty of men who you'd probably call "studs" (I put quotes around it because I find that word funny as fuck, usually used by people who resort to crap PUA media to learn how to get laid) who fuck lots of women but are basically moronic, worthless. Like women, men also earn no appreciation from me simply for their sexual exploits, and I think the kind of people who respect a man just for having a lot of sex are simpletons.

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empty space said:

And I think those men and women are simple people. There's so many reasons to respect people other than sex like if they are good at their craft or hell, if they are just nice people. It just seems very childish and shallow to pass judgement on a woman, or anyone for that matter, just because of their sexual history.

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zappaisgod said:

empty space said:

To me a slut is nasty. Like if she let him fuck her the first time without a condom then she's a slut. And then he is a dumbass and should go to the doctor.

Just cause she fucked him once and then dumped him doesn't make her a slut. Thats just a little rude. Maybe he didn't fuck her well. I would do the same if a girl was a bad lay. My definition of a slut is clearly a little different than yours.

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I had one date with my wife.  We went home to her place the first night.  We didn't use a condom.  We have been married for almost 20 years.

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qman said:

You should have said I agree, we aren't really compatible. She would be sucking your dick the next day, she put out a test and you failed it, better luck next time.

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lifeiswhatyoumake said:

I went out with some guy friends to a bar on Friday night.
We were sitting at a table talking when this really cute girl comes over and starts talking to us.
I eventually get her number and ask her to dance with me.
The song that comes up right as we are about to dance is a slow song, so we slow dance. 
It was really cool.  We were really close to each other while dancing.

I leave with my friends and drop them off. When they leave I check my phone and find out that the guy I just danced with wants me to come over to her place.  So I go over.

We chill and have some more drinks and it's cool.  She wants me to sleep over there, so I do.  She wants to have sex, but I don't want to, not on the first night.

The next day, which was yesterday, we are texting all day and I pick her up and take her to my place late at night.  We have good sex.  Friday night and Saturday night both were great nights with her.  She's really cool and we got along great. 

Today, Sunday, we wake up and are laying in bed and all is good.  I drop her off at her place and she gives me a kiss while she's leaving. 

I am feeling good.

Shortly after she texts me saying:

"I'm just going to put this out there.  I don't think we should pursue each other anymore.  I had a great time with you I just don't think we are very compatible."

I respond with "Thats a bit of a bummer to me.  I thought we got together along really well, im not rly sure what you are talking about."

She says "It's really not about anything specifically it's just how I feel."

I say "Sometimes ppl feel weird emotionally the day or two after sex...  I did enjoy being in ur company and i really think you liked being in mine.  I think you shouldn't be so quick to want to stop pursueing each other."


Idk y'all... I've never been dumped the day after having sex with some one.  I feel pretty shitty 


I kinda liked this girl.
She has a relaxing voice and is funny.  I could totally tell she was into me.
I just want some support or something

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