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lifeiswhatyoumake
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Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways 1
#22001410 - 07/26/15 07:15 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I went out with some guy friends to a bar on Friday night. We were sitting at a table talking when this really cute girl comes over and starts talking to us. I eventually get her number and ask her to dance with me. The song that comes up right as we are about to dance is a slow song, so we slow dance. It was really cool. We were really close to each other while dancing.
I leave with my friends and drop them off. When they leave I check my phone and find out that the girl I just danced with wants me to come over to her place. So I go over.
We chill and have some more drinks and it's cool. She wants me to sleep over there, so I do. She wants to have sex, but I don't want to, not on the first night.
The next day, which was yesterday, we are texting all day and I pick her up and take her to my place late at night. We have good sex. Friday night and Saturday night both were great nights with her. She's really cool and we got along great.
Today, Sunday, we wake up and are laying in bed and all is good. I drop her off at her place and she gives me a kiss while she's leaving.
I am feeling good.
Shortly after she texts me saying:
"I'm just going to put this out there. I don't think we should pursue each other anymore. I had a great time with you I just don't think we are very compatible."
I respond with "Thats a bit of a bummer to me. I thought we got together along really well, im not rly sure what you are talking about."
She says "It's really not about anything specifically it's just how I feel."
I say "Sometimes ppl feel weird emotionally the day or two after sex... I did enjoy being in ur company and i really think you liked being in mine. I think you shouldn't be so quick to want to stop pursueing each other."
Idk y'all... I've never been dumped the day after having sex with some one. I feel pretty shitty 
I kinda liked this girl. She has a relaxing voice and is funny. I could totally tell she was into me. I just want some support or something
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Edited by lifeiswhatyoumake (07/28/15 07:49 PM)
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qman
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake] 2
#22001605 - 07/26/15 07:56 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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You should have said I agree, we aren't really compatible. She would be sucking your dick the next day, she put out a test and you failed it, better luck next time.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: qman] 1
#22001649 - 07/26/15 08:12 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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qman said: You should have said I agree, we aren't really compatible. She would be sucking your dick the next day, she put out a test and you failed it, better luck next time. 
Any person who would play those mind games is only worth having mindless sex with and nothing more.
I feel for OP, had a weird situation with a FWB where she stopped wanting to have sex but started saying I love you.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: Yukon Cornelius] 1
#22001798 - 07/26/15 08:40 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sounds straightforward to me. She wanted a casual fling, she got one, and now she's done. No mind game there. Why create drama where none exists? OP, sorry it didn't turn out how you imagined it would. Kinda sucks, but it's really not that big of a deal IMO.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake] 2
#22002004 - 07/26/15 09:12 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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"Dumped"? ... After a few days? You think you were in a relationship because you had sex? You must be young.
Here's the deal and it should make you feel good. If the sex is good, there's really no such thing as a one night stand. It's more like a three night stand. So take solice in the fact that you're probably decent in the bed, you picked up a cute girl at the club, and had a 3 night stand with her.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: automan]
#22002147 - 07/26/15 09:51 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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go do it all over again with a different face
lovedick for bar chicks is a bad time
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: thelanzii]
#22002914 - 07/27/15 05:16 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah dude she wanted a bit an could prob tell you were falling for her so she cut you off to avoid the drama.
You were a weekend booty call.
DONT TEXT HER ANY MORE!
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: automan]
#22003005 - 07/27/15 06:08 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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automan said: Here's the deal and it should make you feel good. If the sex is good, there's really no such thing as a one night stand. It's more like a three night stand. So take solice in the fact that you're probably decent in the bed, you picked up a cute girl at the club, and had a 3 night stand with her.
QFT. Good going and don't worry about it. If she's not interested in you for actual dating, then just leave it at that, tell her you really liked hanging out with her and if you feel up to it, offer her to contact you again if she wants to have a nice night in the bedroom with no strings attached.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: koraks]
#22003265 - 07/27/15 07:48 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I feel like I read something different than what automan & koraks read. They're talking about a "three night stand", but I read it like this: OP and some girl hung out for two nights, and had sex once. What am I misreading here?
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koraks
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22003314 - 07/27/15 08:07 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Seems like you're right and op wrote they had sex on only one night. Doesn't make much of a difference though.
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empty space
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: koraks]
#22003516 - 07/27/15 09:16 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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It sounds like the sex was better for you than it was for her. Blow a girl's mind and she'll never stop calling back.
Honestly you probably dodged a bullet though. Every girl I've ever dated who started kissing me goodbye after the first fuck tried their hardest to never let me go.
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Edited by empty space (07/27/15 09:23 AM)
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: thelanzii]
#22003585 - 07/27/15 09:40 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: go do it all over again with a different face
lovedick for bar chicks is a bad time
qft
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22003604 - 07/27/15 09:42 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Time to give up man. Sluts will be sluts
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#22003623 - 07/27/15 09:47 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Time to give up man. Sluts will be sluts
Why is she a slut for making whatever decision she thought she was right for herself? While I agree OP should give up, calling her a slut is straight hogwash. 
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: empty space] 1
#22003633 - 07/27/15 09:50 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Some girl approaches him at a bar and brings him home to fuck him only to break it off the next day... Bar slut. Face the facts
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22003641 - 07/27/15 09:51 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Some girl approaches him at a bar and brings him home to fuck him only to break it off the next day... Bar slut. Face the facts
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#22003951 - 07/27/15 11:08 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Some girl approaches him at a bar and brings him home to fuck him only to break it off the next day... Bar slut. Face the facts
This is pretty much spot on but then again I do not consider "slut" to be pejorative. I fucking love sluts.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: zappaisgod]
#22004133 - 07/27/15 11:50 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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To me a slut is nasty. Like if she let him fuck her the first time without a condom then she's a slut. And then he is a dumbass and should go to the doctor.
Just cause she fucked him once and then dumped him doesn't make her a slut. Thats just a little rude. Maybe he didn't fuck her well. I would do the same if a girl was a bad lay. My definition of a slut is clearly a little different than yours.
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: empty space]
#22004149 - 07/27/15 11:54 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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so fucking someone on the first date with a condom= Wife material Fucking someone without a condom on the first date= Slut
Uhhh yea our views are different
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Re: Met a girl few days ago, had sex last night, today she says wants to go seperate ways [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22004185 - 07/27/15 12:06 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I didn't say anything about wife material. Whenever you go out clubbing you are looking for your potential wife? That's a way to look at women I guess ahah I don't hit on women I just hang out w everybody and let women come to me. This guy went to the club, a girl came to him without him having to do much. So what if she doesnt want a relationship? Id say that's pretty chill and he scored. No need to demean the woman.
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Edited by empty space (07/27/15 12:24 PM)
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