Brainstem said:

I draw confidence from the fact that I see no reason why another person is in anyway better than myself (Nor am I any better than another). This is a stance I take due to the fact that I am not a very confident person, as my natural confidence was crushed at a young age. This being the case, I have had to learn how to be, or appear confident in social / professional situations. Self doubt is always there for me, even when I may appear outwardly confident, so for me personally, confidence is about being mindful of my self doubt but not letting it rule me.

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sklijd said:

Yes, because confidence applies to knowledge, which extends beyond the moment. You don't need self-doubt to self-correct, say, misnomers. But you do need the confidence that you're not only capable of relearning, but willing to admit that you were wrong, that being wrong is OK, and -- most importantly-- confidence that your Self is making progress.

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Funkadelics said:

For me it is being able to express what you are thinking or feeling in a given situation, without doubting it or trying to hide or change it.

It all boils down to self knowledge and acceptance.

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I agree for the most part. Creating an environment for yourself that allows you to be open in this way is IMO very important. Hiding aspects of ourselves seems to be one of the most harmful things we can do.

Kickle said:

Is there anything more to confidence than a lack of self-doubt in the moment?

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Kickle said:

Brainstem said:

I draw confidence from the fact that I see no reason why another person is in anyway better than myself (Nor am I any better than another). This is a stance I take due to the fact that I am not a very confident person, as my natural confidence was crushed at a young age. This being the case, I have had to learn how to be, or appear confident in social / professional situations. Self doubt is always there for me, even when I may appear outwardly confident, so for me personally, confidence is about being mindful of my self doubt but not letting it rule me.

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I agree there is no reason why another person should be seen as better in the end run. To see extra importance in someone is to ignore what makes us all unimportant. And no one escapes that, truly. I feel for your struggle and wish you the best going forward.

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i like the sentiment.
but on an obvious level people are better than other people at all kinds of things, math, sport, writing, you name it...

can you clarify a bit further what kind of 'better' you are talking about?

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Maybe what I should of wrote was; I have just as much right to exist as the next person. nor they I.

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LunarEclipse said:

Real confidence is going it alone.  Impressing people is for chumps.

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Impressive post.

Icelander said:

LunarEclipse said:

Real confidence is going it alone.  Impressing people is for chumps.

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Impressive post.

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quinn said:

he was (probably) better at math.

in death we might be all equal but in life we certainly are not.

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Kickle said:

I agree there is no reason why another person should be seen as better in the end run. To see extra importance in someone is to ignore what makes us all unimportant. And no one escapes that, truly. I feel for your struggle and wish you the best going forward.

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(kill some dudes and that right may be waived

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not in the UK.

Brainstem said:

Kickle said:

I agree there is no reason why another person should be seen as better in the end run. To see extra importance in someone is to ignore what makes us all unimportant. And no one escapes that, truly. I feel for your struggle and wish you the best going forward.

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I don't really see it as a struggle, just life, and it comes from being over confident at a young age. When something challenges your self confidence you have two constructive options, you can find a way to bypass the challenge or learn to be confident in the face of that challenge.

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