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Teresa.
    #1410127 - 03/26/03 01:52 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

All my friends come to me when they need someone to talk to,
whenever they're in need, they come to me.
its always been like that, i dont mind it at all, i like helping, cuz in-turn knowing, that in helping someone else,
helps me in a way...

Teresa is a 13 year old girl,
her mother died last year of a drug OD.
Teresa's grandmother has legal 'gaurdianship'
over teresa, but has long since abandoned her.
She hangs out with the older crowd because she has no one left.
we all look over her.
but she confides in me most,
and what she has told me has shocked me like no other.
Teresa has been through more shit than i have ever known
anyone else, and i respect her more than anyone for handling
what life has handed her as best as a 13 yo girl can handle.
a few days before her mother died,
her mother told teresa that she had been raped...
...her mother was also a recovering herion addict,
and died from the drug they give you to fight the herion addiction(?)...

Teresa smoke pot, she doesnt go to school because the schools wont enroll her w/o her grandmother taking the inituative...
she also told me she just lost her virginity,
and that she had regretted it.
she was very confused the othernight and was looking
for some type of guidance on what should she do,
what could she do, etc.

1st and foremost i stressed that she need not to have sex,
but in the case she chooses to do so, that she practices
safe sex. i stressed how she need not get pregnant.,
telling her that having a baby would just repeat the cycle of what she went through / is going through...
i urged her to go to planned parenthood to get some form
of birth control, i told her they are free, confidential,
and non-discrimant of her age...

we talked about her drug use...
she said drugs were the only thing that made her happy...
and i told her that she shouldnt really be doing drugs
givin the circumstances, and that she should channel
happiness from another source besides drugs...
she asked me if i did drugs when i was 13 and i didnt lie..
i also told her "with every action regardless, there must be responsibility"...

being that she's only 13, she cant get a job,
state law says she can work when shes 16...but with a
work permit, in order to have a work permit, she must have a C average in school...so basically
shes kinda screwed until shes 18....5 years from now...
i told her about 'Job Corp'...its a government funded
program for kids in shitty situations...
basically its like a work/school camp,
free board,food,education and trade training...
she can get in there when shes 16...
i told her that after she completed that program,
that she'd have her diploma & a trade,
and that she could apply for grants to go to college,
and do anything she has ever dreamed of...

i told her to hang tough for the next 3 years,
be responsible in every aspect, and to stay out of trouble.

i told her that if shes dedicated to breaking the cycle,
life will surely give, more than it has already taken...

she smiled.

i dont know why i posted this, maybe to show how fuct up life can be even for a 13 y.o little gurl.
but im glad to have gotten this off my shoulders.
thanx for listening.




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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1410140 - 03/26/03 02:15 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Sorry to say, but life can be a bitch... some people have it off alot worse than others think they have themselves.


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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1410146 - 03/26/03 02:30 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Good on you for acting as a confidant for this girl and being caring. It doesn't sound like her grandmother has her best interests at heart and really shouldn't be her guardian. Just because her grandma won't enrol her in school doesn't mean that she should be denied an education. She is too young to have no stable home and needs adequate guardian protection. In Australia we have a government department call the Department of Community Services who look after kids like her and make sure that their parenting is adequate and if not place them with a foster family. I am guessing you would have the same (?). Anyway, I would ring them and have a chat to them about the situation. If you dont, or dont know what the name of the organisation is, I would ring a mental health service and find out the appropriate organisation. I mean bad parenting is bad, but at her age, no parenting is worse :crazy: :crazy:


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"My motto from here on out is: If someone or something (including me) in my life is conducting themselves in such a way that they can be seen on Jerry Springer, it's time to take out the garbage!!! When you stop taking their behaviour personally and see their antics as a true reflection on their character, it becomes absolutely nauseating." Anon. on abusive relationships.


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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1410211 - 03/26/03 03:52 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Well done.


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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1410233 - 03/26/03 04:09 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Good Advice!

No matter how shitty you feel, there is always someone worse off - it may be hard to believe - but its true!


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Re: Teresa. [Re: Jackal]
    #1415638 - 03/27/03 11:11 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

i wish there was more i could do action-wise to help her out...


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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1415673 - 03/27/03 11:29 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

wow, very wise words. i'm proud u said such things to her. i'm sure she's a tough cookie and could get through things - such battles in life only make u stronger. i'll keep her in my intentions...


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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1416092 - 03/28/03 08:35 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Hey if you make a phonecall to child welfare it will be anonymous and they might do an assessment of her living situation. If they find her grandma's care is inadequate they might make her grandma to send her to school and help her to be a better parent. Or if they send her to a foster care family, she may go to a better family, and have a chance to be cared for and get an education and some harm will be averted. Sorry, I'm not sure I ws very clear in my last post :crazy:


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Computer games don't affect kids. I mean if Pacman affected our generation as kids, we'd all be running around in a darkened room, munching pills and listening to repetitive electronic music.

"Being bitter and hateful is like drinking a vial of poison and hoping the other person gets sick" FreakQLibrium

"My motto from here on out is: If someone or something (including me) in my life is conducting themselves in such a way that they can be seen on Jerry Springer, it's time to take out the garbage!!! When you stop taking their behaviour personally and see their antics as a true reflection on their character, it becomes absolutely nauseating." Anon. on abusive relationships.


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Re: Teresa. [Re: 40oz]
    #1416172 - 03/28/03 09:52 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Wow......I'm sure she is thankful to have someone to be able to confide in!

I wish I had some magic words of wisdom for you but alas ...I don't

You did a great thing and your advice was wise and sound, God Bless!


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