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Girlfriend + Drugs?
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Alright, i need help or advice. Or whatever. And dont be a dick or anything, because im being serious.

Lets see, where to start.
Im 19 years old. I started messing around with drugs in my junior year of high school. I was a big pothead. Never really drank, just smoked pot daily. All my friends did. etc. I met this girl, she was a year and a half younger than me. Really cool chick. We started going out, you know the story. Well i am now out of high school, and so is she. We've been together for almost 3 years. Im not going to lie, i love her. Shes awesome.

The summer before my senior year in high school, one of my "friends".. (who i didnt really know THAT well, but we had hung out), asked me if i wanted to try meth. I was young and stupid, so i said hell yeah. Anyway, i tried it for the first time and i was hooked. I ended up getting some of my friends to do it aswell and we all did it together. For awhile it was great, it gave us confidence. Made us feel like we were the SHIT. And then we got addicted without even knowing it. Then we needed it. I was selling my parents shit, selling my shit, doing whatever i could to get money for meth. And the WHOLE time, me and my friends kept it from my girlfriend. Granted she knew something was going on, she didnt know what. I would lie to her, tell her i had to go do some shit with my mom, then id go get high. Eventually, a year later, i had this big emotional ordeal with my mom (who knew i was doing something aswell).. So anyway, i admitted to my mom i was doing meth and i needed help. So i called my girlfriend, told her, admitted everything. She came over, i was scheduled to go to rehab within 3 days. She stayed at my house for those 3 days and so on. I went to rehab, got clean, and she stuck by me. Even though i had put her through SO much. The lying, shit i even stole some of her shit to get meth. She stuck by me.

So anyway, now we both live in Colorado (this all happened in Arizona).. we moved to get away from it. But now i have this pull to drugs again. Not meth, but weed, shrooms, and psychedelics. Is there something wrong with me? I know if did drugs and hid it from her, if she found out. Shed leave. But i feel like if i came to her and told her i want to do some other stuff again, shed leave me. I love the magical experience drugs bring and the feelings, experiencing nature, yourself and the world around you. But i dont know what to do. Eh. Any advice?


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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Tell her, not us, how you're feeling about the urge to do drugs again. Maybe she'll help you wakl the line between responsible use and addiction, maybe she'll scold you.

If she leaves you for sharing your feelings, I'd say you didn't have a relationship to begin with, but I doubt thats the case.

Love and true companionship is a far better thing to have then a dimebag, imo.


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Give me struggle, iron, volcanoes...

Edited by Crasher (09/12/08 03:58 PM)

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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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This one is easy, which do you enjoy more?  You only get to choose one.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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Crasher said:
Tell her, not us, how you're feeling about the urge to do drugs again. Maybe she'll help you wakl the line between responsible use and addiction, maybe she'll scold you.

If she leaves you for sharing your feelings, I'd say you didn't have a relationship to begin with, but I doubt thats the case.

Love and true companionship is a far better thing to have then a dimebag, imo.


:thumbup:

i've learned the hard way that communication is key in a good relationship, tell her how you feel.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: Crabmeat]
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im sure shell understand the vast difference in psychedelics and stimulants
tell her ur doing non addictive drugs thus u cannot repeat the past
ur got 1 hell of a gurl lol :thumbup:


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: Coaster]
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Its just still pretty fresh.. so its hard to talk about.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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so what eventually it wont b so fresh and itll b old news
its how i got my salad tossed :vaped:


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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Do you think you can dabble in the drug scene without going back to your old ways?

My sister is 40, and she's been fighting her meth addiction for about 15 years. It's fucked up our family pretty good, but everytime she makes a fresh start, she backslides.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: Crasher]
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I dont know for sure. But i know i dont wanna do it again. fucked my life and family up.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: Crasher]
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This is THE reason for having a lax drug policy, especially regarding weed and shrooms. That way, you don't need to get involved with the actual filth and still enjoy some chemical open-mindedness.

Anyway, you could try convincing her of the impact of your urges (they will probably never pass, although you could try to sit them out for a few years) and the relative safety of psychedelics and weed. If she understands, you could perhaps work towards a situation where you occasionally take something or the other. In that case, she will respect, although probably never encourage or actually support you in this. If she fails to understand, you'll have to choose between either, it's as simple as that.

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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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if ur not sure of urself then u prolly shouldnt
u need confidence to circumvent addiction


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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alphapacifist said:
Its just still pretty fresh.. so its hard to talk about.


Then give it time, there shouldn't be any rush in this. 
You need to figure out clearly what it is that YOU want first. 

Once you understand your own motivations and desires, then you need to be able to express them to your partner to see how she feels.  If you jump right into it without solid thought, there will no doubt be lingering concerns from your bout with meth addiction and it could just make things worse between the two of you.  If however, you can clearly express your intention while conveying a responsible attitude, perhaps you can come to a meeting of the minds.

There's really no telling what may happen.  But if you truly want to do something and your partner will not let you, resentment can easily build.  If your partner will not accept your choice to experiment, you may begin to resent her for restricting you; And if you do do it, she may resent you for playing with fire after having gotten burned in the past.  No easy answers here.  Just figure out what you want and go for it.  You may lose something (you may not), but that's life so you'd better get used to it if you want to keep an even keel throughout the rest of your days.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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I don't think you can get hooked on psychedelics (even though I tripped weekly for about 10 weeks at one point in distant history)

but if you're smoking weed, hanging out in that scene, you're bound to cross paths with tweekers. I never touched meth, but those cats always popped up asking for money and food and shit. It's practically an occupational hazard to the user lifestyle.

I'd say abstain, or give her the reigns, so she can check you before you get too far.


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Give me struggle, iron, volcanoes...

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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: Coaster]
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Coaster said:
if ur not sure of urself then u prolly shouldnt
u need confidence to circumvent addiction


I don't know about that, some addicts I've met are overly confident and proud, so they won't admit or treat an addiction.

The whole "I can quit anytime I want...But I don't want to." attitude comes to mind.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: geokills]
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Damn. you guys are like, really helpful. wow. =)


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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don't do crack, don't do meth, don't heroin, and don't lie to your girlfriend. you know sometimes they use psychedelics to treat addiction.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: alphapacifist]
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You've been hanging out with tweekers dude, even  cops seem nicer after you've met someone willing to pawn their mother's engagement ring for a sack.


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: Crasher]
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already said, but I agree with
1. talk to her - you don't know how she will react, but it sounds like even if she's 100% against it she won't leave just because you told her you are thinking about drugs. She seems very understanding from your description - you obviously have a firm foundation in your relationship that would take a lot to destroy.

2. If you have to choose, you have to choose and you're the only one who has all the info (including things you can't explain), but it seems like you might not have to choose one or the other.

3. pot, shrooms and lsd, are not physically addictive, so there's not much of chance you'll get hooked to the point where you're selling your shirt. "not much of a chance" because there's a huge mental/emotional addiction (that you seem to be experiencing) that will make you want it more than alot of things.

My advice is to talk to her about it with a plan - either not getting back into it at all or in well defined moderation (once a week or whatever). That should help build trust enough so if you "really really" want to smoke pot or whatever that she would be in a better position to help you get past those times.

Just keep in mind, you're still addicted to meth. You've learned how to live without it and sounds like you're keeping that up very well. However, if drug A leads to drug B again you could very well end up right back where you don't want to be.

Best of luck to you


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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: nenl]
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nenl said:
3. pot, shrooms and lsd, are not physically addictive, so there's not much of chance you'll get hooked to the point where you're selling your shirt.


True, pot can be a tad hard to lay off for some people. Damn, I should know. And God knows I could get damn cranky if I wouldn't get mine in time :wink: But I agree, it's not like you'll ever get to the point of prostituting your gf to get some bud.

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Re: Girlfriend + Drugs? [Re: nenl]
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definitely a keeper dude. like coaster said earlier, these are non-addictive drugs you have urges for. tell her that, and talk to her about these urges.

Edited by Platinum (09/12/08 04:34 PM)

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