Anonymous #1 said:

... She says she wants a divorce and half of the savings account which is over $100,000.00 and that she plans on leaving next weekend. She's said this dozens of times but has never gone through with in.

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BikerB said:

Relationship is over.  Give her half for no future obligation and run (don't walk) away.  Cheap at twice the price.  Find someone who complements you and who you're happy with.  You can't change people.

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Anonymous #1 said:

In my experience both diet and exercise go hand in hand. I don't eat the best, but I am able to offset it through regular exercise.

So we did have sex on Saturday. I sucked on her pussy a little bit, she sucked on my dick a little bit then we fucked. Sunday morning I slept in longer than she did and when I woke up she proceeds to tell me that she cancelled her gym membership because she doesn't like being around the people. I told her I was suprised she hated it that much to just cancel her gym membership all together.

Fastforward to the evening and we are cooking dinner together. I fuck up the rice because I got the water ratio wrong for basmati rice. She proceeds to be a total ass and have a major attitude about it. I ask her why its such a big deal. She says she's mad because I can't accept the fact she won't go to the gym.

The problem isn't that she won't go to the gym, but that she does just enough to say she "tried". She does a short exercise video maybe twice a month and goes on a 5 minute walk maybe once a week. It's gotten to the point where even though I love her it's hard to get a boner unless she sucks my dick / I masturbate first and if I close my eyes and pretend I'm fucking sombody else. She says she wants to loose weight to improve health and appearance but she is just not trying enough and won't. Whenever I nicely make suggestions or encouragements she just gets mad at me. I'm not asking her to be a fitness model, I just want her to make a more serious effort.

We've been married for 5 years, when we were dating she told me she would loose weight but she just never has. She's spent almost 24 hours in the bedroom only coming out to use the restroom or when I'm outside of the apartment. She says she wants a divorce and half of the savings account which is over $100,000.00 and that she plans on leaving next weekend. She's said this dozens of times but has never gone through with in.

To put things in prospective I am 29 and she is almost 31. I weigh 195 pounds and she is somewhere around 230 pounds. I go to the gym 3 to 5 times a week for around an hour each time and on the weekends I try to go on a long walk for a few hours or several miles.

Am I really such an asshole for wanting my wife to exercise 3 times a week for 30-40 minutes each time?? I can't see it any other way than she is just being lazy. There are no medical conditions preventing her from exercizing. I do love her but its a huge turnoff that she won't even try for real.

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I used to personal train and I personally find myself in a rut lately. I used to workout at least 4x a week and I can barely get a workout in once every 3 weeks due to the depression and overall lack of motivation.

I strongly suggest she has a personal trainer. She could potentially be depressed instead of lazy and she definitely lacks the experience to actually get good effective workouts in if she's always been overweight and uncomfortable in a gym setting. Plus it's a whole better experience when you have a trainer, there's really no excuses at that point.

As far as your relationship issues, I can't comment much on that, mine isn't so hot right now either and it's my fault solol

Brian Jones said:

Did she use to exercise and then stopped, or did you marry someone who doesn't want to exercise, because that is a big difference?

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oursoulsinmotion said:

Offer to go to the gym with her - Make it a couples agreement

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oursoulsinmotion said:

Offer to go to the gym with her - Make it a couples agreement

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MariaTruthSeeker said:

Sometimes people just think its too much of a hassle to go to a gym or too much time lost.

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BlueAndOrange said:

Maybe accept that most people can’t out exercise a bad diet, especially if they’re already overweight. She probably doesn’t have the energy required to exercise enough to overcome her food intake.

I know how hard it is, but I also know it can be done. I was significantly overweight. I lost over half my body weight. I did most of it through nutrition, and only added in exercise after I lost enough weight and improved my energy levels. I have studied a LOT of nutritional material. I have tried everything from raw vegan to strict carnivore. The most success I have had was through a higher protein whole food based keto approach focusing on nutrient density. It’s addictive not ever being hungry and watching the pounds fall away.

I dropped from a 4XL to an L, and took 12 inches off my waist. Never exercising more aggressively than walking. And most of the time not exercising at all.

I exercise more now that I’ve hit my goal weight, have energy, and it’s less stress on my body.

Get involved with meal planning and cooking with her. It can happen fast. I averaged losing 10 pounds a month for over a year.

Suggested ideas: avoid high fat keto. Avoid processed foods. Look into P:E ratio based sources. Eat lots of varied low net carb veggies and healthy raised meat and fish. 

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Anonymous #1 said:

My wife refuses to exercise and it is very frusterating to me

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