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pslyke
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As it relates to dieting vs exercise-- the one thing I have noticed over the years with myself and my spouse is that if you are investing in your health by exercising you don't generally want to put crap in your mouth.
It takes far too much energy and hard work in the gym to then want to go home and destroy all of that with a chocolate bar. Understanding that an hour of hard exercise burns calories equivalent to one treat makes that treat way less attractive.
Good look anon #1, it can be dificult to watch someone you care about fail to flourish, but it is ultimately their choice. Why doesn't she care about herself?
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Lynnch
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Anonymous #1 said: ... She says she wants a divorce and half of the savings account which is over $100,000.00 and that she plans on leaving next weekend. She's said this dozens of times but has never gone through with in.
Odd thing to drop into your thread about your wife's weight... uh, sounds like you've got some deeper problems to deal with. Subtext here seems like you're not attracted to her anymore, and she knows it. Also sounds like however you went about suggesting she hit the gym, she took as a personal insult.
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oursoulsinmotion
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Re: My wife refuses to exercise [Re: Lynnch]
#27801818 - 06/01/22 06:37 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Take her noodz and upload em to SSBBW sites for scrawny white bois to jack off to ππ
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BikerB
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Relationship is over. Give her half for no future obligation and run (don't walk) away. Cheap at twice the price. Find someone who complements you and who you're happy with. You can't change people.
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BlueAndOrange
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Re: My wife refuses to exercise [Re: BikerB]
#27801930 - 06/01/22 08:18 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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BikerB said: Relationship is over. Give her half for no future obligation and run (don't walk) away. Cheap at twice the price. Find someone who complements you and who you're happy with. You can't change people.
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r3volution.gurl



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Anonymous #1 said: In my experience both diet and exercise go hand in hand. I don't eat the best, but I am able to offset it through regular exercise.
So we did have sex on Saturday. I sucked on her pussy a little bit, she sucked on my dick a little bit then we fucked. Sunday morning I slept in longer than she did and when I woke up she proceeds to tell me that she cancelled her gym membership because she doesn't like being around the people. I told her I was suprised she hated it that much to just cancel her gym membership all together.
Fastforward to the evening and we are cooking dinner together. I fuck up the rice because I got the water ratio wrong for basmati rice. She proceeds to be a total ass and have a major attitude about it. I ask her why its such a big deal. She says she's mad because I can't accept the fact she won't go to the gym.
The problem isn't that she won't go to the gym, but that she does just enough to say she "tried". She does a short exercise video maybe twice a month and goes on a 5 minute walk maybe once a week. It's gotten to the point where even though I love her it's hard to get a boner unless she sucks my dick / I masturbate first and if I close my eyes and pretend I'm fucking sombody else. She says she wants to loose weight to improve health and appearance but she is just not trying enough and won't. Whenever I nicely make suggestions or encouragements she just gets mad at me. I'm not asking her to be a fitness model, I just want her to make a more serious effort.
We've been married for 5 years, when we were dating she told me she would loose weight but she just never has. She's spent almost 24 hours in the bedroom only coming out to use the restroom or when I'm outside of the apartment. She says she wants a divorce and half of the savings account which is over $100,000.00 and that she plans on leaving next weekend. She's said this dozens of times but has never gone through with in.
To put things in prospective I am 29 and she is almost 31. I weigh 195 pounds and she is somewhere around 230 pounds. I go to the gym 3 to 5 times a week for around an hour each time and on the weekends I try to go on a long walk for a few hours or several miles.
Am I really such an asshole for wanting my wife to exercise 3 times a week for 30-40 minutes each time?? I can't see it any other way than she is just being lazy. There are no medical conditions preventing her from exercizing. I do love her but its a huge turnoff that she won't even try for real.
I used to personal train and I personally find myself in a rut lately. I used to workout at least 4x a week and I can barely get a workout in once every 3 weeks due to the depression and overall lack of motivation.
I strongly suggest she has a personal trainer. She could potentially be depressed instead of lazy and she definitely lacks the experience to actually get good effective workouts in if she's always been overweight and uncomfortable in a gym setting. Plus it's a whole better experience when you have a trainer, there's really no excuses at that point.
As far as your relationship issues, I can't comment much on that, mine isn't so hot right now either and it's my fault so lol
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SimaoKovin
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Brother, it doesn't take a psychologist here to see that lack of exercise is the least of your problems and the most superficial manifestation of something more serious.
Regarding exercise, as one of the greatest MMA coaches repeatedly says: "Training should be addictive" as in, you start small, and progress at a satisfying pace that doesn't beat you up. However, the person has to WANT to actually do that, your wife absolutely doesn't care and sounds generally dysatisfied with life.
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high_desert
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Re: My wife refuses to exercise [Re: SimaoKovin]
#27805137 - 06/04/22 01:57 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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I had a very close female friend for years and I would have loved to have been with her except that she hates exercise and I'm a lifelong exercise freak. It's tough.. I finally came to the conclusion that if she was active a lot but still overweight I'd much closer to ok with it. But not wanting to exercise at all, it's just a totally different way of life and isn't something I understand or can deal with. Active lifestyle is not just physical but it's psychological.. Not sure if this is relevant in any way but it's my take on it.
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Brian Jones
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Re: My wife refuses to exercise [Re: high_desert]
#27805381 - 06/04/22 07:46 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Did she use to exercise and then stopped, or did you marry someone who doesn't want to exercise, because that is a big difference?
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Re: My wife refuses to exercise [Re: Brian Jones]
#27805636 - 06/04/22 11:58 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Brian Jones said: Did she use to exercise and then stopped, or did you marry someone who doesn't want to exercise, because that is a big difference?
True, are you trying to change the person that she has always fundamentally been, or are you trying to build her back up to the level she was at before?
Have you tried finding the root of the issue? Is she letting herself go due to depression, or has she just always been a lazy person? If she hasn't always been this way, how long ago did it start?
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Does she keep the house tidy and do the dishes? I've had fat ex's before. I don't mind them being fat. I do find the mess, unwashed dishes, fast food wrappers not even in the bin, a major turn off.
They're fat because they're lazy. I know, I to was lazy. Getting up to tidy up is the first step. Is she on any meds? Antidepressants? Those fuck with peoples motivation as well.
I don't see how you're going to get her to shift her lazy arse. Do you have kids? If so, then you got to do what's right for the kids. If not I would contemplate your future. A loveless relationship where you'll resent her for not changing, and where she'll feel wretched for not being wanted. You need to let her know you can't accept her the way she is, you want her to be better, and if she can't make any serious effort, well. I don't want to have to spell it out for you.
It's a horrible situation you're in. You have my sympathy anon.
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Giermmo
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Isn't it just depression/anxiety? Does she also have problems with social interaction/going out? But yeah as posters above me said, it seems like there are way more problems in this relationship.
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Jewstress
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oursoulsinmotion said: Offer to go to the gym with her - Make it a couples agreement
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astra
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oursoulsinmotion said: Offer to go to the gym with her - Make it a couples agreement
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MariaTruthSeeker
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Re: My wife refuses to exercise [Re: astra] 1
#27976812 - 10/01/22 03:23 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Sometimes people just think its too much of a hassle to go to a gym or too much time lost. One great idea I discovered are the 10 minute HIIT workouts on YouTube, this has the advantage of being free, can be done at home in almost any room with enough space to do some jumping jacks and pushups, and the workouts are really great (they will build strength and cardio fitness). There are both beginner ones and advanced ones.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=10+minute+hiit+workout
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Speed4goal
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You need to get divorced before you get to the 7-8 year mark and owe her alimony. I'm telling you she knows what's she's doing. She's waiting until you owe her alimony and half of your retirement and she's going to bounce. Then she can be fat and happy and still have all her bills paid. And more as she can entertain other men and get their resources as well. Better to lose 50k now then 500k+ over a lifetime. Your probably in a community property or no fault divorce state. Most of them are now. She's only got a couple more years until she can take you to the cleaners for life. You'll owe her half of your retirement your 401k until the day you die. Plus a couple thousand or so a month in alimony. I guarantee she's already looked up the laws for your state. Women initiate divorce 80% of the time and 93% of the time if they are college educated. Protect yourself and your assets. You need to open a Family trust and move your assets to a trust she won't have access to in a divorce. There are ways to do it look into it.
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