Jokeshopbeard - It wasn't just a "few compliments" it was 14 pages of vile discussion about how he'd rather fuck them than his wife, wanted to make sticky messes out of certain women, rim their assholes... if he behaved like that during our relationship, I would be out without question, unless we previously came to an agreement condoning such behaviour. I was very open to polyamorously date when we first met, but he pushed monogamy.
He got extremely defensive & downright abusive, crossing some lines when I confronted him. He will be the first to admit that he did not handle it well, so don't fucking say he was being reasonable.
Quite frankly, I don't ogle other men. I'm a bdsm minded individual, & when I belong to someone they are the only one on my mind. Sure, it amuses me when I go out and get hit on by men, but I moreso enjoy turning them down.ive also been in polyamorous relationships. I just need to know our rules. My man flat out lied to me about multiple things, & as someone who requires absolute honesty & trust, it destroyed me.
Yeah, I can be insecure at times - happens when you get the wool pulled over your eyes. It took me over a damn year to figure out the scope of this situation tho, so it's not like I'm some pyscho just on here to read all his history...but I do need to know who I'm involved with, & past behavior is the best predictor of the future.
My standards of behaviour aren't that high. I just want the absolute truth & honesty. If a part of him really enjoys & needs to comment/ogle women online, then he needs to own it so we can come to some sort of agreement. But what he's told me is that he's more than satisfied with our sex life & has no desire to participate in that kind of thing. He also admits that his wife didn't know and would have been devastated by his comments.... and that he wants to be a better man. I'm choosing to believe that and we've started counselling together. I'm far from perfect, but I do strive to live an authentic life.
Fungi_x said: you sound like a nightmare gf! Most of the bitches in my past life, b4 I got married to my #1 bitch knew about my shroomery posts and were down cause they actually took the time to get to know me before we fell in love & understood people act differently online. I appear to be a racist, sexist and an asshole here but nothing could be farther from the truth. I am absolutely not racist, I am the nicest guy IRL. im usually the first person friends call when they need a trusted person to watch pets or even there kids. I respect women as long as they aren't stupid... really I respect everyone whos not stupid or ignorant but you would never think that if you read my online post and are too stupid to see its a sort of an alterego. I am fucking awesome as a partner tho and they weren't dumb bitches either they appeared to be smarter than you and more mature. I also have always discussed other girls with my bitches the ones that were too immature to understand its human nature to notice beautiful women got the boot real quick. Sorry but I don't know how else to put it, your man deserves better you should leave him you would be doing him a favor. Unless he was showing pedo tendencies in the thread you referred to you're the one who has issues. I bet you are the type who would get offended if he posted ur tits!
I don't even know where to start with this one. You come off as absolute trash. I don't even think I need to defend my intelligence or maturity level here. I don't buy that whole duality thing. People should own all aspects of their personality, both online & in the real world. I don't want a two faced partner, which is why discovering this (& uncovering blatant lies) over a year into my relationship hurt so deeply. I want to know & love his deviant side, & every other aspect of his personality. Posting nudes without permission is illegal, & so if he was doing that behind my back I'd certainly feel violated. I do attend nudist events on a regular basis though, & am far from the prude you're accusing me of being. I send my man a lot of racy pics, & if he wanted to share (w permission) I could get into it... but you sound absolutely delusional and disgusting to me.
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