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MOTH
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I can't seem to say no and I hate it
#2526645 - 04/05/04 04:54 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well.
The D&D group I was in sort of disbanded when the DM left. This was recently. I was expecting never to play with the group again, but then they got a new DM. (my husband)
I don't want to keep playing,and my husband knows this and is fine with it. He doesn't care as long as I'm happy. But then when the rest of the players asked point blank asked if I wanted to keep playing, I said yes. I felt like everyone was indirectly pressuring me to keep playing. I started thinking, "Well, maybe it won't be so bad..."

Seriously, I don't want to play. I think that the D&D group has alot of negative people in it, and quite frankly I have better things to do with my Sundays.
But what should I do? I can't bow out now after I already said I would play, can I? I mean, every instinct is telling me not to keep playing. What should I do? What would you do if you were in an similar situation?
Thank you Pub. 
truly,
*me*
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vinsue
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2526661 - 04/05/04 05:17 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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You could start a search for a replacement, or make Sunday your 'yoga' day.
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2526662 - 04/05/04 05:19 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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I didn't think people played that game anymore.
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2526909 - 04/05/04 08:51 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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Bite the bullet, tell them you changed your mind and don't want to play any more. Be firm about it. Now that you've agreed, sombody might try to convince you. Stay firm, just say no. You can scedule something else in the time, which could make it easier. Or, finding a substitute could make it go smoother. But, being honest and saying you reconsidered, or didn't really mean it when you said "yes", works too, and nobody is likely to hold it against you as long as you're firm and freindly about it. I'm sure you'll have little trouble, all you have to do is say the words, let them know you mean what you say, and it'll be over before you know it. 
It's either that, or just spend every Sunday from now until the end of time playing D&D.
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: Innvertigo]
#2526914 - 04/05/04 08:52 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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yeah me too, I didn't even know what it was till i read your post then I put it together.
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2526918 - 04/05/04 08:53 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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yeah if you don't want to do it then don't.
it's your life, live it the way you want.
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oggleman
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2527207 - 04/05/04 11:00 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah I didnt know anyone played that game anymore either. If you don't wanna play then don't play, they'll get over it.
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2527223 - 04/05/04 11:08 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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My boyfriend is currently playing a Cthulu (sp?) game that's about two years old right now. Still going strong too. I'd get out while you still can. How long has the game been running? If it's early in it, leave gracefully. I wouldn't make excuses, because if your husband is cool with you not playing, who cares what the others think? If it's been going on for a while, if I were you, I'd kill my character off somehow. You said your husband was the DM, right? Just get him to kill you off and BOOM! You're out of the game! -Atreau
Edited by Atreau (04/05/04 11:09 AM)
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: MOTH]
#2527301 - 04/05/04 11:41 AM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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Play your "obligatory" 1 time and be not so good , or explore new horizons that may not be liked by the others(or just plain and simple ....SUCK!) . THEN AFTER THAT 1 TIME .............. that you owe for your "word" and honor ......................
JUST SAY NO ! NO and NO again ! Just my 2 cents worth , no harm no foul .  Good Luck
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Re: I can't seem to say no and I hate it [Re: Atreau]
#2528337 - 04/05/04 03:53 PM (19 years, 10 months ago) |
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Heh, yes - of course, it's not a contractual obligation, you can leave at any time.
But if you want, there's fun to be had in playing once and being a total fuckup. Like be the party's cleric, but be a stereotypical kender x 10. "Oh you wanted to use that magic sword against the ogre? Well, I had it...I was holding it for you...but then a merchant offered 10 gold for it. I bought flowers with that gold...you want the flowers? Hey, he looks hungry...maybe you should give ~him~ the flowers!"
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