Crystal G said:

BANANA.MAN said:

Doctors have been called sexist for telling women that it is getting late to have a baby when they are on their thirties so facts and the opinion of medical proffesionals can apprrently be hateful.

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Thirties is not that late. Fourties is when it starts getting late. Back when birth control didn't exist, a lot of women continued having children all the way up until menopause (in their 40's and 50's). I personally know two women who had babies in their mid-40's, amazingly. Natural births too, no C-section.

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Sophistic Radiance said:

"Carpetbagger" is a slur.

Seriously, you don't know what its like to be constantly assaulted by gawking liberals with invasive questions about genital surgery, they treat you like a zoo animal.

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Maybe it's their way of showing their acceptance of you. By showing you that they are not 'fazed' in any way, by your, lets face it, obvious transgendersexualitylisation, or WTF you choose to call it, is their attempt at showing their acceptance of your 'type', that caused your discomfort.
Maybe these same sort of people ask gay guys if they prefer to be "tops or bottoms" like, as if that was a were totaly normal question to ask. By way of recognition and acceptance.

IPSPWIP. All the best in your new home Soph.

Sophistic Radiance said:

No shit, Sherlock. That doesn't change it from being misguided and offensive. How would you like it if people asked you, unbidden, when you plan on getting your penis chopped off, every time you discuss your past? It's fucking revolting.

Also fuck you for the insults you slipped into a superficially friendly post. You think you're so fucking clever, and all your friends can see how "accepting" and "open-minded" you are, even as you trivialize my existence and verbally abuse me. Thank you for such an apt demonstration of the type of behavior I left California to get away from.

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LOL. Melt the fuck off.

I wonder. Does the HRT cause PMT.
Maybe California would seam better at another time of the month.

Sophistic Radiance said:

Crystal G said:

Sophistic Radiance said:

People gawking openly, deliberately misgendering me, etc.

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How did they even know that you were trans? I thought you passed pretty easily as a female?

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That was like 3 months into HRT, when I was partly feminized but still basically masculine in my appearance, and I had a deep bass voice.
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This is pushing into kind of unnecessary territory on my part,
but did/have you been taking vocal lessons
or has your experience with HRT been that it helps in this regard too

Growing up in a small town meant that prior to junior high
my class was made up of about 6 people
and my voice dropped before anyone else's in my grade, or the grade above me
and kids acting like they couldn't understand me
saying my voice was being drowned out by the sound of a motor boat
tended me to be more withdrawn
and try to express myself through writing rather than speech

but kids will target anyone for anything they can

have even looked into vocal chord surgeries a bit
but, at present, was only able to find services in the US and South Korea
so Canadian healthcare won't prospectively provide coverage until a clinic exists within the country



But since this thread is about transracialism
the elephant in the room to me
is what are individuals of a mixed background supposed to do
when neither community accepts them as a legitimate member?
Dolezal was arguably fortunate, for a time, that she was so accepted
before being thrown to the public's whims

Sophistic Radiance said:

I had to train my voice every day for a year or two to get it to the point where I can consistently speak to people in public without raising flags and getting odd looks. The hormones do raise the pitch but only slightly, it still sounds masculine without training. It took some hard work. But I'm lucky in that I had a good friend guide me through it instead of having to pay for a speech therapist. I wouldn't get the vocal surgery personally, it seems unnecessary at this point, but i have heard the technique has improved a lot in recent years.

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