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What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ?
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Ok I think this will be a really interesting and informative topic and the responses you guys give might Even help someone save a marriage so please contribute.

This is the idea - everyone please post your answers to the following question:

What was the reason for your last break up? The last relationship you had that ended, how and why did it happen ?

Did she break up with you, vice versa , or was it mutual ?

Was it amicable or nasty?

What were the main factors, reasons or causes for the relationship or marriage failing ?

I am especially interested in anyone who has been through a divorce - looking back, what do you see as being the main reasons for the marriage ending?

Where there any warning signs you see in retrospect ?

I want to hear about everyone's break ups, not just divorces, especially long term relationships that ended .

It can be your last breakup or one from your past that stands out in your mind.

So mostly I am looking for reasons why the relationship ended. Did you fight a lot? Disagree on money, politics or religion ? Did she want kids and you didn't ? Did one of you fall out of love ? Was there infidelity , cheating ?

How long were you together before the split ? How hard was the divorce ?

Any and all thoughts on breakups and divorce, specifically analyzing wlin hindsight why the relationship failed and could it have been saved ?

Thank you!

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Moonshoe] * 1
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My dick is too big, she couldn't take it anymore.

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: abltsandwich]
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I found out she was a cheating fake ass punk, but its ok because that series of events led me to a very real person. No regrets.


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: spirit_shadow]
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How did you find out?

Did you dump her immediately after ?

Was she remorseful?

How long had you been together ? Were you married ?

Glad you found someone true !


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Moonshoe]
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Moonshoe said:
How did you find out?

Did you dump her immediately after ?

Was she remorseful?

How long had you been together ? Were you married ?

Glad you found someone true !


1. My best friend told me, I didnt believe him until I found out.

2.fuck yes

3.dont care

4.3-4 years, was going to

5. Thanks man :smile:


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: spirit_shadow]
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We fought a lot, how she handled things didn't agree with me and I realized over time we are different people. I broke up with her, she wanted to try to work things out. We did that for a while but I slept around, I felt guilty but it reinforced my feelings of differences and such so I broke it off for good. I don't have any regrets. The relationship wasn't the greatest, I hadn't been in to it for a good while. We were together for 5 years.

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: larry.fisherman]
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Had a psychotic break. Recovered, she told me she didn't think I should work and that she would take care of me. I stupidly quit my job and took that path she suggested (had to move out of my apartment) Then did nothing much other than drink. I did meet the coolest old person I ever met on my path after we moved (RIP). I was a completely different person back then. Very selfish. I was not supportive and nurturing, not exuding love. I asked her to marry me, she said she was too young. We split after I said something I didn't mean when I was drunk and we were having to arrange a move again. She gave me a second chance and invited me to HER new apartment one night, but I had a psycotic episode there. Eventually brought her a birthday present on her birthday and got arrested for stalking. (dismissed) Still not over that relationship and it's obviously my fault it ended. We were together three years.

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: larry.fisherman]
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Together 2 years

Fell in love fast and quick

Met when she was 16 and i was 19

As all relationships do there were differences but nothing that was deep.

She was very positive and optimistic, i was negative and bitter on the inside because of how i didnt handle my problems properly.

I had a very positive and optimistic personality inside she brought back out of me after becoming burnt out (not the stoner burnt out)


Anyways, i think that because in life many different things can bring you down and when my negative side showed i think it made her keep a small distance or detachment to me.

Long story short she cheated in a way that i can live with although im aware it was wrong. Shes a good person and told me right away that she had done what she had done. She did get a kiss from the boy on the date and ive been through way worse with many other exs. She really just seems like she wants to just try dating and relationships while she is young. She just started college and this all adds up to me.

I am keeping my distance from this point on. I do not respond unless she will. Im also not going to throw myself at her.

I respect her and i want her to be happy no matter what we had was.

If she came back to see what we could have, i would talk to her and take it from there. I care about her as a person.

Right now im in the phase of this situation where im trying to focus on me and find iut who i am what i want. I am not interested in dating im just going with the flow in life.

I want to add i know my last relationship was pretty good but every single other one was awful and traumatizing. This is rough but i think i can recover.

Edited by Plain (08/27/16 02:45 PM)

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Moonshoe] * 2
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read a moonshoe post, punched my wife in the face


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Plain] * 1
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I just broke up with my girlfriend wednesday. Everything was getting stale and I was becoming uninterested. Still kinda feel like shit although it really needed to happen.


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I'm ugly, Enlil is beautiful.
I'm a loser, Enlil is a winner.
Someday, I hope to be like Enlil but secretly know I never will.

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: something super extreme]
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Were you ever actually married ?

Honestly ?


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Moonshoe]
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yea


to ur mom, LOL!!!


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: something super extreme]
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Hi Dad ! :wave:


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Moonshoe]
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I met someone that fulfilled all the needs that my previous lady did not.

The intellectual part of my previous relationship was amazing. She made me a better person, at the same time improving herself.

Unfortunately, even though the sex itself was great, and even deeply meaningful, I just can't lie to myself and keep telling myself I'm attracted to her. She's a beautiful woman, but I do have my preferences.

Current girlfriend is still something extremely new, but her ideals and even culture amaze me. It's incredibly nice that her mother is Brazilian and that she has the same sense of family that I grew up with. She just makes me happy. :smile:

And DAT ASS. OMG. I do not use OMG, but her ass is deserving of that acronym.

This has all happened over the last couple weeks...A lot of changes going on in my life. Good changes.


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“[...]the only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved,
desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes “Awww!”

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: kr0nik0]
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yo kr0n sup b long time no seezle


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Moonshoe] * 2
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I think my ex may lurk and snoop so I don't feel comfortable going into detail

I have had a few long term relationships in my life and while all painful when they came to the end, the one with my children's mother hurt me and destroyed me more than I could have ever thought possible. 

I'm now over 2 years on the other side of it(the final split) and very grateful to put that chapter behind me. 

We were engaged, had children with her and I built my life and everything I am around her and our children.  I poured everything that I am in it and then some.  I sacrificed my well being, dignity, self respect and health for her.    It was a rather messy split with lots of trauma for me to work through while trying to keep it together for my children.  I fell apart but had to pretend I wasn't.  I've had to maintain a friendship for the kids sake, but only what's necessary.  We have a strained, but friendly and amicable relationship for the most part.  It takes a long time to forgive someone who was never sorry :frown:


That being said, 2 years out and happier than ever.  Realize now, more than ever, that everything happens for a reason.  I needed that experience.


Life is good :heart:


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Masked]
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Glad you are getting through it man. Must be really hard.

Good job surviving and being strong :hug:

How old were your kids at the time of the divorce?

Was it financially hard on you ?

Thanks so much to everyone who shared so far!

Please keep the stories coming !


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: something super extreme]
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something super extreme said:
yo kr0n sup b long time no seezle


Damn, brother. I can only infer you're SVS.

I had no idea you were still around here. Really good to see you.

So you and your old lady split?
You happier?


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“[...]the only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved,
desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes “Awww!”

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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
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Malcolm_Xtasy said:
I just broke up with my girlfriend wednesday. Everything was getting stale and I was becoming uninterested. Still kinda feel like shit although it really needed to happen.


Just because y'all weren't right for each other doesn't mean ur not perfect for someone. You did the right thing if it needed to happen.


My last breakup was interesting for sure. Basically I was putting 100% of my time and attention into the relationship and she wasn't looking for something that serious. She said she didn't think it was fair that I was so romantic and she just couldn't recicprocate the same way. Then when we broke up we had not been together for long but liked talking to each other still. Turns out she just wanted sex. Which is really want I wanted to but I thought if I did romantic things I'd get sex. Very ironic. Then we tried casual sex for a while but we both started getting feelings for each other again but we really aren't compatible in a relationship.


It made me realize it's okay to just want sex and still be able to be a gentleman and respectible. So she really helped me grow and I wish we would've been compatible but we really aren't.


Both of us can't lose each other completely tho because we share a very specific illness and it's become vital for us to be able to talk to each other about it


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Re: What was the reason for your last break up or divorce ? [Re: kr0nik0] * 1
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kr0nik0 said:
something super extreme said:
yo kr0n sup b long time no seezle


Damn, brother. I can only infer you're SVS.

I had no idea you were still around here. Really good to see you.

So you and your old lady split?
You happier?


Yep they finally let me back in the pub.
We split back in 2014, it's actually been real good. Was my idea at first but we're both alright with it now and stay in touch.
I ended up moving back down to louisiana tho. Hella gumbo

Good to see ya bro


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