Anonymous #2 said:

Girl friends > guy friends anyway. They're more rational/logical, good eye candy, and actually listen when you talk.

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Anonymous #7 said:

Op, I have a similar problem, but with guys and girls. It's not that I'm anti-social or have trouble talking to people....but I tend to understate myself.
My girlfriend has been pulling me up on it lately...when meeting people, it's custom to state your interests and your strengths....I tend to not do this. Because I'm very philosophical I ALWAYS listen to what people have to say intently, regardless of the fact I read allot and can be very knowledgeable at times....but I'm the type person to just agree, even though I think I'm right, I mean who's to say my resources are any more reputable than the other persons.

An rough example of this is....I'll be at a party talking to someone, they'll say 'I'm a drummer, I've been playing for 5 years' ...I'll say 'Oh cool' .....I won't mention I have been singing, playing drums/bass/guitar/piano for 15 years, because I think that would make me sound full of myself.

Is this a self confidence issue or something else?

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Anonymous #5 said:

OP, you have low self esteem and so you're afraid of the competitive dynamics of male to male interaction.

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Anonymous #9 said:

Now I hang out with other hippies, and I dont mean people who dress the part and really are those alpha types, but true peace lovers.

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Can't you be both? I consider myself a little of both. Most people say I am a calm, nice, peaceful, mature person when they first meet me, and I am usually that way, but when testosterone gets thick in the air, I instinctively get into "manly" mode and I will fucking fight, swear, yell, whatever at some asshole who is ruining the peace. That's usually the only reason I would get aggressive or violent, if peace is at steak (yes, STEAK).