ellamush said:

Hi

So. I'm wanting some dating advice or specifically whether you think it's okay for me to ask someone out in a funny way

I've met my old friend from high school twice this year (twice in 6 months). We weren't in the same friend group back then but we used to catch the bus together and share chats on the way to school in the last two years of high school. Both times it's been unplanned and we don't have mutual friends. When we have bumped into each other to me it feels very easy talking to him, and we have a shared interest in psychedelic mushrooms. He's playing at a festival later this year I was saying I'd be interested to go and that I would see him there if I do. To me it seemed like the interest was reciprocal (I have no clue romantic or friendly though), but I am also kinda shit at actually understanding social conventions (I am autistic fyi).

I met him once at a festival and then went to one of his gigs at a nearby pub. That was the two times this year. Oh and I'm 31 so high school was forever ago

He's really nice and I would like to ask him out but I'd also just like to hang out with him.

I don't have his number, and I don't have Facebook anymore or any other socials. I was tossing up the idea of making a Facebook account and finding him on it (we were mutual friends on Facebook until last year) and saying something along the lines of
"Hey it was cool catching up with you. I like your energy and would like to see if you wanna go foraging one day with me? I deleted Facebook a while ago and didn't ask for your number on Friday so that's why I'm messaging you in this weird way. Hope that's ok!"

Is that weird? I'm worried it's weird. I don't mind being odd and doing things unconventionally, but I wouldn't want him to be weirded out.

Anyway any advice appreciated thanks

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LogicaL Chaos said:

Im guessing by "funny" you meant an odd way, as in a woman asking out a man?

I was expecting like a humorous situation, which are usually positive, as long as its not too embarassing for either person involved.

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I meant it as in "weird" and not because it was woman asking man out. Because it was me redownloading Facebook for the sole purpose of messaging him. I was worried it looked a little stalkery. But I suppose it's literally the opposite of stalker. I haven't looked at his profile in a year and that was only BC we were Facebook friends at the time.

I figure it's a genuine act of me asking him to do something enjoyable. It's not pushy and it was related to what we talked about in person. So it was okay to do

I just get nervous and worry they'll say no. Which after thinking about it, that's absolutely something that could happen and who cares if it does?