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How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance
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Ok so the tiltle says most of. Ahead of ime Kim on k pins and weed exuse my prop a ably terrible writing

Anyways so yea how do I do that I feel like he doesn't really pay attention an is sort of selfish in bed most of the  time. I'm reallllly shy and not the dominant type at all and he knows that bug even so I've troed few times to make him happy. But take for instance last night. We havent had sex in quite I while (I'm not sure why it's not that I'm not attracted to him I just don't think about it!

So we were laying in bed and he only had his boxers on and we were cuddling with me behind him so I went in for a move and started to play with his boxer waist line. And beg and to play with him so I continued this for about five minutes I wont go into all the detail but I was playing with him anyways we was just laying there with his eyes closed not even paying any attention auto me so I kissed him and we mp kissed a few times and I was still playing with him I had to lead him to play with me and when he did he barely even tried like lazily tried to pleasure me and the he just stopped and I was still playing with him.

I tried to take it up a notch and blow him and he still wouldn't look at me or touch me. It makes me feel unwanted I dont  know . I feel like afterward I just did him a favor and got nothing from it when I wanted to f-*** and he always does this

WHYYYYY? How do I fix this? I'm very shy in bed I do like to get just a little kinky but only if I'm realllly into it but our sex just seems like it needs sone spicing up he's the only person I've ever slept with so its not like Ibe had practice or whatever with other people

Hellllp me please


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 2
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You cant be serious?

You should ask him whats up and see if he wants to try new things?

or suprise him by buying a strapon im sure that will wake him up
he might even like it.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
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Idk that sucks!


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Citizen X] * 5
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Stick a finger in his ass, that'll get his attention.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Cujllickduo] * 1
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yep. communication or anal play are pretty much your two best bets.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 2
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First and foremost, I guarantee when you wake up in the morning and remember you posted this while obviously highly intoxicated on Benzos you're going to wish you could take it back.

Second, there is not nearly enough information here to come to any conclusion. There could be a thousand reasons. Sex gets kinda weird when it doesn't happen for long periods. Guys and girls are known to have different ages of "sexual peak" (where you want it the most and when it's not so important). I don't claim to be an expert but the general consensus is the peak for guys hits a lot earlier than it does for women. Could be that because he doesn't feel like you're putting enough work into it he's just not interested in it anymore. Could be he's getting it somewhere else. Could just be a flare of depression. I could keep listing reasons, there are far too many for anyone to give you ANY kind of idea.

You need to talk to him. He probably won't want to or may even tell you nothing is wrong, but if you really want to know, you have to make him. Up to you.

Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
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DSHSB


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
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Shroomslip said:
Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:




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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Cujllickduo]
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Just realized the double standard I've entangled myself in..

No one at all is going to tell me I'm fucked up for proposing that idea (no guy anyways, I'm sure some feminist or feminism sympathizer would have something to say) Yet if the roles were reversed and I told the boyfriend to not take no for an answer and eat her out until she's good and wet and then just start fucking her, I'd probably be banned for advocating rape.

:rofl: Women are against rape at all levels (except the really damaged ones). Guys are only against it until it starts to feel good. Then it turns into "well you started it.. Maybe you might as well finish".


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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way.
I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today.
Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear.
I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear.


You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being
With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
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IM not embarrassed of posting it I dont think I'll ever meet anyone one here so I don't see why not to ask for advise. And
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Shroomslip said:Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:


This has been done just saying


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
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I was going to say pretty much the same as shroomslip. Fucking own that shit. Being unconfident in bed can be a huge turn off for me. If being 'good' in bed is what makes you unconfident, remember, you're not inherently 'bad' in bed, it's being unconfident that can make it bad.

Own it. Be a whore in bed and don't be ashamed of it. Get your pussy all up in his face and stuff. Suck his dick like a pro. Watch some porn.

Dabble in some anal.

But most of all, communicate. A good sexual relationship can be absolutely ruined if the communication is not up to scratch.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
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burningstar06 said:
IM not embarrassed of posting it I dont think I'll ever meet anyone one here so I don't see why not to ask for advise. And
Quote:
Shroomslip said:Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:


This has been done just saying


In all probability what I mean when I said that, hasn't happened. It's probably been some timid half assed (no offense) attempt. I mean fling him on the bed with force, tell him to shut up, start blowing him and all of this should happen with in a 10 second window. I don't mean nervously play with it, or talk and cuddle while you work up the nerve or whatever you want to call it, and just give it enough attention to get hard before you climb up.. I mean be aggressive, aggressive as hell. Don't work your way through the stages to get him in the mood (cuddling > kissing > playing with his dick > blowing him). Just straight to weapons hot before he has time to think about anything.

If you can honestly say this has been done, I have nothing more to offer than "talk to him". Almost no guy is going to refuse a blowjob when they don't even have time to think about it, and almost no guy is going to refuse sex once you've spent a while blowing him like your life depended on it. I'd have to spend way too much time going back and fourth with you to pick apart your lives to tell you what could actually be wrong though.


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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way.
I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today.
Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear.
I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear.


You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being
With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 1
    #22018104 -

OOOORRR there's always the option of posting up some naked pics and let the shroomery boys show the attention you deserve. :douchewink:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
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Shroomslip said:
burningstar06 said:
IM not embarrassed of posting it I dont think I'll ever meet anyone one here so I don't see why not to ask for advise. And
Quote:
Shroomslip said:Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:


This has been done just saying


In all probability what I mean when I said that, hasn't happened. It's probably been some timid half assed (no offense) attempt. I mean fling him on the bed with force, tell him to shut up, start blowing him and all of this should happen with in a 10 second window. I don't mean nervously play with it, or talk and cuddle while you work up the nerve or whatever you want to call it, and just give it enough attention to get hard before you climb up.. I mean be aggressive, aggressive as hell. Don't work your way through the stages to get him in the mood (cuddling > kissing > playing with his dick > blowing him). Just straight to weapons hot before he has time to think about anything.

If you can honestly say this has been done, I have nothing more to offer than "talk to him". Almost no guy is going to refuse a blowjob when they don't even have time to think about it, and almost no guy is going to refuse sex once you've spent a while blowing him like your life depended on it. I'd have to spend way too much time going back and fourth with you to pick apart your lives to tell you what could actually be wrong though.




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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 1
    #22018116 -

Dump him and move on. He's your first. No one ever stays with the first person they fuck. It's only a matter of time.

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Cujllickduo] * 1
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Sounds like he's getting some on the side


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss] * 1
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Shoot straight tell him ur down to fuck but he is seeming distant. Ask him whats up


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
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Shroomslip said:
Just realized the double standard I've entangled myself in..

No one at all is going to tell me I'm fucked up for proposing that idea (no guy anyways, I'm sure some feminist or feminism sympathizer would have something to say) Yet if the roles were reversed and I told the boyfriend to not take no for an answer and eat her out until she's good and wet and then just start fucking her, I'd probably be banned for advocating rape.


IDK. Whenever I'm not in the mood, if a guy were to start eating me out and get me really sloppy wet, that would change my mind pretty quick and have me grabbing him by the hair and begging for more. I consider myself a feminist too. :shrug:

It would be different if it were a stranger, or if her boyfriend just shoved it in her while she was not ready at all. But in real-life, couples do this all the time, when one person isn't feeling up to it it's up to the other person to give oral or some finger/hand-jobs to get them enticed.

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
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Just say the words and ask him to bang you. Or take charge and jump ontop and bang him to get the party started. Guys love that too


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Soulidarity] * 2
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Tell him if he makes 50 responses to a statement you make you'll show him your lady bits.

Just make sure they don't look like a hallway lined with ewoks.


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