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Offlineburningstar06
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How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance
    #22018005 - 07/30/15 12:31 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Ok so the tiltle says most of. Ahead of ime Kim on k pins and weed exuse my prop a ably terrible writing

Anyways so yea how do I do that I feel like he doesn't really pay attention an is sort of selfish in bed most of the  time. I'm reallllly shy and not the dominant type at all and he knows that bug even so I've troed few times to make him happy. But take for instance last night. We havent had sex in quite I while (I'm not sure why it's not that I'm not attracted to him I just don't think about it!

So we were laying in bed and he only had his boxers on and we were cuddling with me behind him so I went in for a move and started to play with his boxer waist line. And beg and to play with him so I continued this for about five minutes I wont go into all the detail but I was playing with him anyways we was just laying there with his eyes closed not even paying any attention auto me so I kissed him and we mp kissed a few times and I was still playing with him I had to lead him to play with me and when he did he barely even tried like lazily tried to pleasure me and the he just stopped and I was still playing with him.

I tried to take it up a notch and blow him and he still wouldn't look at me or touch me. It makes me feel unwanted I dont  know . I feel like afterward I just did him a favor and got nothing from it when I wanted to f-*** and he always does this

WHYYYYY? How do I fix this? I'm very shy in bed I do like to get just a little kinky but only if I'm realllly into it but our sex just seems like it needs sone spicing up he's the only person I've ever slept with so its not like Ibe had practice or whatever with other people

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 2
    #22018020 - 07/30/15 12:35 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You cant be serious?

You should ask him whats up and see if he wants to try new things?

or suprise him by buying a strapon im sure that will wake him up
he might even like it.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018026 - 07/30/15 12:37 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Idk that sucks!


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Citizen X] * 5
    #22018032 - 07/30/15 12:38 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Stick a finger in his ass, that'll get his attention.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Cujllickduo] * 1
    #22018035 - 07/30/15 12:40 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

yep. communication or anal play are pretty much your two best bets.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 2
    #22018042 - 07/30/15 12:43 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

First and foremost, I guarantee when you wake up in the morning and remember you posted this while obviously highly intoxicated on Benzos you're going to wish you could take it back.

Second, there is not nearly enough information here to come to any conclusion. There could be a thousand reasons. Sex gets kinda weird when it doesn't happen for long periods. Guys and girls are known to have different ages of "sexual peak" (where you want it the most and when it's not so important). I don't claim to be an expert but the general consensus is the peak for guys hits a lot earlier than it does for women. Could be that because he doesn't feel like you're putting enough work into it he's just not interested in it anymore. Could be he's getting it somewhere else. Could just be a flare of depression. I could keep listing reasons, there are far too many for anyone to give you ANY kind of idea.

You need to talk to him. He probably won't want to or may even tell you nothing is wrong, but if you really want to know, you have to make him. Up to you.

Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018045 - 07/30/15 12:45 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
    #22018047 - 07/30/15 12:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Shroomslip said:

Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:





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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Cujllickduo]
    #22018067 - 07/30/15 01:03 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Just realized the double standard I've entangled myself in..

No one at all is going to tell me I'm fucked up for proposing that idea (no guy anyways, I'm sure some feminist or feminism sympathizer would have something to say) Yet if the roles were reversed and I told the boyfriend to not take no for an answer and eat her out until she's good and wet and then just start fucking her, I'd probably be banned for advocating rape.

:rofl: Women are against rape at all levels (except the really damaged ones). Guys are only against it until it starts to feel good. Then it turns into "well you started it.. Maybe you might as well finish".


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
    #22018087 - 07/30/15 01:16 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

IM not embarrassed of posting it I dont think I'll ever meet anyone one here so I don't see why not to ask for advise. And
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Shroomslip said:Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:



This has been done just saying


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018093 - 07/30/15 01:18 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I was going to say pretty much the same as shroomslip. Fucking own that shit. Being unconfident in bed can be a huge turn off for me. If being 'good' in bed is what makes you unconfident, remember, you're not inherently 'bad' in bed, it's being unconfident that can make it bad.

Own it. Be a whore in bed and don't be ashamed of it. Get your pussy all up in his face and stuff. Suck his dick like a pro. Watch some porn.

Dabble in some anal.

But most of all, communicate. A good sexual relationship can be absolutely ruined if the communication is not up to scratch.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018102 - 07/30/15 01:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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burningstar06 said:
IM not embarrassed of posting it I dont think I'll ever meet anyone one here so I don't see why not to ask for advise. And
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Shroomslip said:Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:



This has been done just saying



In all probability what I mean when I said that, hasn't happened. It's probably been some timid half assed (no offense) attempt. I mean fling him on the bed with force, tell him to shut up, start blowing him and all of this should happen with in a 10 second window. I don't mean nervously play with it, or talk and cuddle while you work up the nerve or whatever you want to call it, and just give it enough attention to get hard before you climb up.. I mean be aggressive, aggressive as hell. Don't work your way through the stages to get him in the mood (cuddling > kissing > playing with his dick > blowing him). Just straight to weapons hot before he has time to think about anything.

If you can honestly say this has been done, I have nothing more to offer than "talk to him". Almost no guy is going to refuse a blowjob when they don't even have time to think about it, and almost no guy is going to refuse sex once you've spent a while blowing him like your life depended on it. I'd have to spend way too much time going back and fourth with you to pick apart your lives to tell you what could actually be wrong though.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 1
    #22018104 - 07/30/15 01:28 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

OOOORRR there's always the option of posting up some naked pics and let the shroomery boys show the attention you deserve. :douchewink:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
    #22018107 - 07/30/15 01:29 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Shroomslip said:
Quote:

burningstar06 said:
IM not embarrassed of posting it I dont think I'll ever meet anyone one here so I don't see why not to ask for advise. And
Quote:

Shroomslip said:Or you could always get over the shyness and just become dominant. Don't take no for an answer, just start sucking his dick until he's good and worked up and then climb on top and fuck him. Show him what he's missing. :shrug:



This has been done just saying



In all probability what I mean when I said that, hasn't happened. It's probably been some timid half assed (no offense) attempt. I mean fling him on the bed with force, tell him to shut up, start blowing him and all of this should happen with in a 10 second window. I don't mean nervously play with it, or talk and cuddle while you work up the nerve or whatever you want to call it, and just give it enough attention to get hard before you climb up.. I mean be aggressive, aggressive as hell. Don't work your way through the stages to get him in the mood (cuddling > kissing > playing with his dick > blowing him). Just straight to weapons hot before he has time to think about anything.

If you can honestly say this has been done, I have nothing more to offer than "talk to him". Almost no guy is going to refuse a blowjob when they don't even have time to think about it, and almost no guy is going to refuse sex once you've spent a while blowing him like your life depended on it. I'd have to spend way too much time going back and fourth with you to pick apart your lives to tell you what could actually be wrong though.





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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06] * 1
    #22018116 - 07/30/15 01:42 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Dump him and move on. He's your first. No one ever stays with the first person they fuck. It's only a matter of time.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Cujllickduo] * 1
    #22018117 - 07/30/15 01:42 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Sounds like he's getting some on the side


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss] * 1
    #22018139 - 07/30/15 01:53 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Shoot straight tell him ur down to fuck but he is seeming distant. Ask him whats up


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Shroomslip]
    #22018155 - 07/30/15 02:04 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Shroomslip said:
Just realized the double standard I've entangled myself in..

No one at all is going to tell me I'm fucked up for proposing that idea (no guy anyways, I'm sure some feminist or feminism sympathizer would have something to say) Yet if the roles were reversed and I told the boyfriend to not take no for an answer and eat her out until she's good and wet and then just start fucking her, I'd probably be banned for advocating rape.




IDK. Whenever I'm not in the mood, if a guy were to start eating me out and get me really sloppy wet, that would change my mind pretty quick and have me grabbing him by the hair and begging for more. I consider myself a feminist too. :shrug:

It would be different if it were a stranger, or if her boyfriend just shoved it in her while she was not ready at all. But in real-life, couples do this all the time, when one person isn't feeling up to it it's up to the other person to give oral or some finger/hand-jobs to get them enticed.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018177 - 07/30/15 02:21 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Just say the words and ask him to bang you. Or take charge and jump ontop and bang him to get the party started. Guys love that too


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Soulidarity] * 2
    #22018265 - 07/30/15 03:19 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Tell him if he makes 50 responses to a statement you make you'll show him your lady bits.

Just make sure they don't look like a hallway lined with ewoks.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: LuSiD enthusiast] * 1
    #22018269 - 07/30/15 03:21 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

So you suck his dick and he still pays no attention to you?! :facepalm: see some other guys that will pay your lady bits some real attention :woah:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22018282 - 07/30/15 03:40 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Girl, I'm going to be brutally honest with you.  It's time to open your eyes.  He's fucking someone else.  If you're sucking his dick and he doesn't want to stick in you, move out and move on. Seems all he wanted was to pop your cherry and fuck you til you were loose.  Pack half your shit when he's at work, call your fiends and ask if you can stay at their place til you find one of your own, and once you do, finish packing your shit and leave it right in front of the door so he can see it as soon as he walks in.  When he does, don't tell him why you are leaving or where you are going.  Just give him your set of keys, grab your bags and just go.  If he goes after you and asks you what he did, tell him he did nothing.  Nothing to make you happy or be satisfied.  Than walk away and go to your friends house.  And don't even THINK about crying.  He's not worth your tears.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Chastity Psilocybe]
    #22018285 - 07/30/15 03:43 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

that sounds a bit hasty i mean, prob best to talk to her bf about it and try to work it out before storming out like that


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: ManianFH] * 2
    #22018355 - 07/30/15 04:49 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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mick said:
yep. communication or anal play are pretty much your two best bets.




Pro Tip:

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Lucis]
    #22018365 - 07/30/15 04:58 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Before I answer your question, you need to put pictures of both of you so I can determine if you *should* even be fucking


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: LuSiD enthusiast]
    #22018398 - 07/30/15 05:15 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

:ilold:. Inside, close enough it's 4am and hard to make me laugh atm.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018402 - 07/30/15 05:18 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Crystal G said:
It would be different if it were a stranger, or if her boyfriend just shoved it in her while she was not ready at all.




Yes that would be different because what you just said is rape.

Anyway, OP how long have you guys been together?  I hate to say this but maybe he is bored with you, some couples get this way it's only natural, best thing is to separate if that's the case.  Sure you can try to spice things up, but you might only be prolonging the inevitable.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018420 - 07/30/15 05:28 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Ok so the tiltle says most of. Ahead of ime Kim on k pins and weed exuse my prop a ably terrible writing

Anyways so yea how do I do that I feel like he doesn't really pay attention an is sort of selfish in bed most of the  time. I'm reallllly shy and not the dominant type at all and he knows that bug even so I've troed few times to make him happy. But take for instance last night. We havent had sex in quite I while (I'm not sure why it's not that I'm not attracted to him I just don't think about it!

So we were laying in bed and he only had his boxers on and we were cuddling with me behind him so I went in for a move and started to play with his boxer waist line. And beg and to play with him so I continued this for about five minutes I wont go into all the detail but I was playing with him anyways we was just laying there with his eyes closed not even paying any attention auto me so I kissed him and we mp kissed a few times and I was still playing with him I had to lead him to play with me and when he did he barely even tried like lazily tried to pleasure me and the he just stopped and I was still playing with him.

I tried to take it up a notch and blow him and he still wouldn't look at me or touch me. It makes me feel unwanted I dont  know . I feel like afterward I just did him a favor and got nothing from it when I wanted to f-*** and he always does this

WHYYYYY? How do I fix this? I'm very shy in bed I do like to get just a little kinky but only if I'm realllly into it but our sex just seems like it needs sone spicing up he's the only person I've ever slept with so its not like Ibe had practice or whatever with other people

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018424 - 07/30/15 05:29 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Op he sounds like he's bored of you or might be fucking somebody else


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Chastity Psilocybe] * 1
    #22018451 - 07/30/15 05:45 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You're lame.  They haven't even talked about it and you're projecting if you ask me.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: TheGreenArrow]
    #22018460 - 07/30/15 05:49 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

The event you described sounds like he wasn't into it at the time. Yes that happens to guys sometimes as well. Anyhow, I feel there might be something up with this relationship. First of all, there can't be enough communication. Second, there must be a reason why he wasn't into it. He is a guy after all. We have better reasons than being tired or having a headache for not being into sexy times... Talk to your man.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Chastity Psilocybe]
    #22018507 - 07/30/15 06:23 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Girl, I'm going to be brutally honest with you.  It's time to open your eyes.  He's fucking someone else.  If you're sucking his dick and he doesn't want to stick in you, move out and move on. Seems all he wanted was to pop your cherry and fuck you til you were loose.  Pack half your shit when he's at work, call your fiends and ask if you can stay at their place til you find one of your own, and once you do, finish packing your shit and leave it right in front of the door so he can see it as soon as he walks in.  When he does, don't tell him why you are leaving or where you are going.  Just give him your set of keys, grab your bags and just go.  If he goes after you and asks you what he did, tell him he did nothing.  Nothing to make you happy or be satisfied.  Than walk away and go to your friends house.  And don't even THINK about crying.  He's not worth your tears.



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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: TheGreenArrow]
    #22018582 - 07/30/15 07:03 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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You're lame.  They haven't even talked about it and you're projecting if you ask me.



Yeah, I mean I think its definitely the case, but what he said was so fuckin exteme and overkill


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018590 - 07/30/15 07:09 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Get a new boyfriend. You don't want to have to teach a guy how to be a man.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018595 - 07/30/15 07:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Did he used to pay more attention to you or has he always been like this?


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: RanOutOfWeed]
    #22018599 - 07/30/15 07:13 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Yea I don't think it's possible to be laying in bed and randomly start getting blown and somehow still be unphased, at least for me but its probably one of the hardest things for me to say no when it comes to puss, sounds like he is gay or uninterested.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22018615 - 07/30/15 07:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Get a sex change, he is gay.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Sun King]
    #22018635 - 07/30/15 07:38 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Yeah this doesn't make sense to me

If my girlfriend did this kind of stuff to me I'd be hornier than a jack-rabbit on a full moon

Then again I havent had a girlfriend in years so what the hell do I know


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson]
    #22018642 - 07/30/15 07:41 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You know to spring into action when a girls touching your junk.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22018655 - 07/30/15 07:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I mean who the hell wouldn't?

There was never a time that I wasn't in the mood to get laid.. ever

He must be either gay or already satisfied by another woman or he's just lazy but that doesn't make sense either because even lazy dudes wouldn't just turn down sex

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson]
    #22018659 - 07/30/15 07:49 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

:lol: yea I mean he's got to be getting some good on the side to be getting head and just not giving two fucks about it :shrug:

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22018701 - 07/30/15 08:04 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Too bad I'm not up there I'd give her what she wants no questions asked


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson] * 2
    #22018708 - 07/30/15 08:07 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

He isn't necessarily cheating or gay, that line of thinking is kinda absurd.  Either of those things could be happening, but automatically jumping to that is silly.

He's possibly "lazy", in the sense that he's not in the mood.  It happens to guys as well, just not feeling like having sex.  I lurk at this parenting board & they have a forum about sex and relationships. It's mostly women who post there, and when I first started reading, I was shocked by the number of threads like this. There's an emotional component to the male side of sex too, and something could be going on in the relationship to make him not in the mood.  Or maybe he's depressed/anxious about something not to do with the relationship.

Or he's cheating on OP with a dude, LOL.  Anything is possible, but if I was her, I'd take posts saying that with a grain of salt.

OP, like most other people are saying, you need to open up the communication and just talk this through.  Maybe he's able/willing to change, which would be great, but if not, you gotta figure out if this is a deal breaker for you.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #22018710 - 07/30/15 08:09 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Well said Burke


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson] * 1
    #22018717 - 07/30/15 08:11 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

My world could be crashing down around me but when my girl wants to get it on, it's fucking on


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22018730 - 07/30/15 08:17 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Awesome. But I'm sure you understand that it's not like that for everyone, right?

Also: holy crap, that post by chastity psilocybe?!  I don't know that poster well enough to know if she's serious or trolling, but that was pretty hilarious.  If serious, she's like the most hardcore dramatic I've ever heard of, but I kinda think its a joke post.  She kinda trolled me with a story in the rave scene thread about her friend od'ing on transdermal meth (lol), but now I see "she" is over the top ridiculous.  :lol:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #22018750 - 07/30/15 08:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

There are actually a lot of girls out there who would come to that sort of conclusion based on this situation

Sure just because some guys are always ready to get it on doesn't mean all guys are like that all the time


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #22018752 - 07/30/15 08:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Yea. Packing up your entire life and leaving your significant other over a suspicion is just straight ridiculous. Not even bringing it up before you do that is just down right insane :lol:

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22018767 - 07/30/15 08:33 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I need me some of that mindset. I'm always late from work.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22019175 - 07/30/15 10:17 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Has your boyfriend been taking mushrooms?


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: nicechrisman]
    #22019185 - 07/30/15 10:19 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

:datass:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: TheGreenArrow]
    #22019335 - 07/30/15 11:08 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Something's going in his life that she's not aware of. Since it's damaging the foundation of their relationship (the sexual aspect), it's at a point where it needs to be talked about. If he won't talk about it, or do anything about it in genuine concern for his partner, then something much bigger is at play, and the OP needs to decide for herself how much longer she is willing to continue putting X into the relationship while her partner puts in Y.

It's a team effort, and if her dude is going through some hard times, that's cool to work through it as a team to keep their relationship and life progressing in a positive direction. If he's just a dick who doesn't communicate, maybe move on to greener pastures that certainly exist, and let him find someone who is ok with non-communication and limited sexual contact, which there certainly is.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: ManianFH] * 1
    #22019390 - 07/30/15 11:30 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I say ....ditch the benzos and get yourself some good coke. You'll be spanking him and yelling get the fuck up to his shrimp boat instead of slowly rolling over and sticking your finger under his wasteband while slurring your affections (not sexy)....kidding about the coke, but, you were slurring your texts so I assume you were pretty trashed.

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Thayendanegea] * 1
    #22019442 - 07/30/15 11:47 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Maybe he is tired of seeing his girl high on benzos?


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22019503 - 07/30/15 12:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I think alot of guys are like this.  I remember once one of my dudebros came up to me and we were talking about women and he's like "she wants me to like, eat her out" and I just didn't know what to say he was just plain grossed out about it.

You could definitely get him to change, my friend did, but it might not be worth it.  I mean if he isn't satisfying you, and he doesn't care that he is not satisfying you, that is a problem.  If you are looking for a deeper connection and that is something he just can't provide, I feel like it might be better to just break it off as that is nobodies fault really and it will likely not go away.

This is kind of a trend in relationships, and it's not like you're married, so don't feel like it is something you should have to put up with if you don't want to.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22019637 - 07/30/15 12:35 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Ok so the tiltle says most of. Ahead of ime Kim on k pins and weed exuse my prop a ably terrible writing

Anyways so yea how do I do that I feel like he doesn't really pay attention an is sort of selfish in bed most of the  time. I'm reallllly shy and not the dominant type at all and he knows that bug even so I've troed few times to make him happy. But take for instance last night. We havent had sex in quite I while (I'm not sure why it's not that I'm not attracted to him I just don't think about it!

So we were laying in bed and he only had his boxers on and we were cuddling with me behind him so I went in for a move and started to play with his boxer waist line. And beg and to play with him so I continued this for about five minutes I wont go into all the detail but I was playing with him anyways we was just laying there with his eyes closed not even paying any attention auto me so I kissed him and we mp kissed a few times and I was still playing with him I had to lead him to play with me and when he did he barely even tried like lazily tried to pleasure me and the he just stopped and I was still playing with him.

I tried to take it up a notch and blow him and he still wouldn't look at me or touch me. It makes me feel unwanted I dont  know . I feel like afterward I just did him a favor and got nothing from it when I wanted to f-*** and he always does this

WHYYYYY? How do I fix this? I'm very shy in bed I do like to get just a little kinky but only if I'm realllly into it but our sex just seems like it needs sone spicing up he's the only person I've ever slept with so its not like Ibe had practice or whatever with other people

Hellllp me please




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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: zappaisgod] * 1
    #22019703 - 07/30/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Are you sure he's not playing for the other team?

:heytherebadboy:

If not, sounds like he's not giving you the respect you deserve. If this happens on a regular basis you may want to consider moving on or going to some form of counselling.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Fluzzball]
    #22019817 - 07/30/15 01:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

If he is that uninterested I would honestly, first thing that comes to my mind is he's cheating.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: BoomerMan420]
    #22020208 - 07/30/15 02:53 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

OP, you have to take off your panties and sit on his face if you have too. Guide his head down there. If he still doesn't flinch you got a problem.

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Patlal]
    #22020222 - 07/30/15 02:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

nah take it from me he's just not that into you,theres nothing you can do,its the beginning of the end


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Doctor Sponge]
    #22020595 - 07/30/15 04:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

What are "zo's"?


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22020635 - 07/30/15 04:17 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Benzos 'ro


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    #22020644 - 07/30/15 04:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22020794 - 07/30/15 04:44 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Did he used to pay more attention to you or has he always been like this?



Yes we used to do it like twice a day when we first started dating but we been together for four years on August 8th.

He didn't turn down the bj at all he just didn't pleasure me at all wich I found annoying. We hadn't had sex in weeks and I figured he'd be all over me but he barely touched me. It made me sad like he doesn't likeme or something. He got a handjob a bj and came and I got nothing from it,

Also I wasn't slurring my speech talking to him because we don't talk much during sex and me playing with his waist band is like a tease for him because I'm close but not quite there yet it's like a light tickle type thing.
anyways I'm annoyed that he doesn't pay any attention to me in bed

Last night he was goi g to take a shower so he said to me while I'm in the shower can you put on some Nicole music fix up the bed and turn off the lights. I was assuming a nice romantic night ahead. Instead he wanted to talk about basketball and crap >: /

We used to do it all the time but hen there was a medical reSon where we couldn't do it for like 6 months and everything just spchanged after that.

He says he's depressed latley but this has been happening I mean he used to pay attention to me. I'm also going through a lot of crap right now too so sex gets put on the back burner a lot so you think that whe it gets on the front burner he would be all over it but no :sad::confused:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22020824 - 07/30/15 04:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Did you communicate everything to him you said here? What was his response?


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22020825 - 07/30/15 04:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Well you been together 4 years, he probably cares about you as much as you care about him, it might just be a phase. There's always going to be hurdles to overcome in any relationship, you really should try explaining to him how you feel and why and hear his side of it, and then try to work it out together. Keeping annoyances bottled in makes them build up until the bottle burst, na mean?


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
    #22021528 - 07/30/15 06:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

He clearly doesn't realize what an awesome girlfriend he has


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: nicechrisman]
    #22021557 - 07/30/15 07:03 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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nicechrisman said:
Has your boyfriend been taking mushrooms?




why do you ask.



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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22021647 - 07/30/15 07:21 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You should talk to him about it. I know it probably makes you embarrassed to talk about it and you're probably nervous about it but if you don't discuss it you both won't know what the other is thinking!


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Lucis]
    #22021658 - 07/30/15 07:25 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Fennario said:
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nicechrisman said:
Has your boyfriend been taking mushrooms?




why do you ask.




shrooms are gay :rofl2:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22021671 - 07/30/15 07:28 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Well all I can tell you is if you ever come out to Cali, I'll take care of you


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
    #22021721 - 07/30/15 07:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Sirshroomsalot
You always have great advice il try and talk to him tonight and see what he has to say about it


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
    #22021733 - 07/30/15 07:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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nicechrisman said:
Well all I can tell you is if you ever come out to Cali, I'll take care of you



Doesn't look like it's happening man
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burningstar06 said:
Sirshroomsalot
You always have great advice il try and talk to him tonight and see what he has to say about it



:sad:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22021737 - 07/30/15 07:43 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I'm still saving myself for her in case things turn around


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Lucis]
    #22022289 - 07/30/15 09:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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It would be different if it were a stranger, or if her boyfriend just shoved it in her while she was not ready at all.




Yes that would be different because what you just said is rape.

Anyway, OP how long have you guys been together?  I hate to say this but maybe he is bored with you, some couples get this way it's only natural, best thing is to separate if that's the case.  Sure you can try to spice things up, but you might only be prolonging the inevitable.




Yes, that is basically what I was implying, because the poster I was responding to was insinuating that eating a girl out and getting her wet when she isn't into the sex is a double standard that would constitute "rape." But it depends on each individual situation. Sometimes it is rape (or at the very least sexual coercion or sexual assault), but many times it isn't.

Most couples out there don't explicitly say "Yes honey I want to bang you right now," they instead give what is called 'implied consent.' And it's very easy to tell when somebody is giving implied consent, because it is written all over in their body language, facial expression, how passionately they kiss, etc.

You don't even have to say a word to let somebody know you want to be fucked. All you have to do is give a look--everybody knows that look. :naughty:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Crystal G] * 1
    #22022369 - 07/30/15 10:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

oh I know that look alright :meffz:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: moonrockmushy]
    #22022855 - 07/31/15 01:39 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I thought it was this one:

:africaface:

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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: GoldenEye]
    #22022865 - 07/31/15 01:47 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

OP have you seen Realm of the Senses? there your answer lies.

ie cut the dick off, then he's yours forever. just don't strangle him and yourself with silk bedding.


PS: i don't have a real answer for you. i'd honestly go and tickle his butthole with a dildo and insist that it's either him or you.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: GoldenEye]
    #22022871 - 07/31/15 01:53 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

:gameover:


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Soulidarity]
    #22023021 - 07/31/15 03:31 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Do mushrooms together. Or get drunk, whatever, as long as you're both too intoxicated to hide anything from eachother, you should be fine.

It sounds like a crazy plan, but it has always worked well for me in the past.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Turtletotem]
    #22023035 - 07/31/15 03:41 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Turtletotem said:
Do mushrooms together. Or get drunk, whatever, as long as you're both too intoxicated to hide anything from eachother, you should be fine.

It sounds like a crazy plan, but it has always worked well for me in the past.



Tis true.  A drunken man's words are a sober man's thoughts.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Chastity Psilocybe]
    #22023036 - 07/31/15 03:42 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Has anyone suggest her BF might be gay, and is just coming into his own?

Or, he is getting some on the side.

IDK why else you'd be in a monogamous relationship, without at the very least some casual and regular sex.


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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Turtletotem]
    #22023039 - 07/31/15 03:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Turtletotem said:
Do mushrooms together. Or get drunk, whatever, as long as you're both too intoxicated to hide anything from eachother, you should be fine.

It sounds like a crazy plan, but it has always worked well for me in the past.




:whathesaid:

mushrooms will make you realise how much you love or need each other...

or

the opposite- show you that you need to be far, far apart!:thumbup:

in the mushrooms we trust:laugh2:


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