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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson]
#22018659 - 07/30/15 07:49 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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yea I mean he's got to be getting some good on the side to be getting head and just not giving two fucks about it 
Sorry OP
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OhMrJohnson
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22018701 - 07/30/15 08:04 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Too bad I'm not up there I'd give her what she wants no questions asked
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Burke Dennings
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson] 2
#22018708 - 07/30/15 08:07 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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He isn't necessarily cheating or gay, that line of thinking is kinda absurd. Either of those things could be happening, but automatically jumping to that is silly.
He's possibly "lazy", in the sense that he's not in the mood. It happens to guys as well, just not feeling like having sex. I lurk at this parenting board & they have a forum about sex and relationships. It's mostly women who post there, and when I first started reading, I was shocked by the number of threads like this. There's an emotional component to the male side of sex too, and something could be going on in the relationship to make him not in the mood. Or maybe he's depressed/anxious about something not to do with the relationship.
Or he's cheating on OP with a dude, LOL. Anything is possible, but if I was her, I'd take posts saying that with a grain of salt.
OP, like most other people are saying, you need to open up the communication and just talk this through. Maybe he's able/willing to change, which would be great, but if not, you gotta figure out if this is a deal breaker for you.
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OhMrJohnson
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22018710 - 07/30/15 08:09 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well said Burke
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: OhMrJohnson] 1
#22018717 - 07/30/15 08:11 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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My world could be crashing down around me but when my girl wants to get it on, it's fucking on
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Burke Dennings
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22018730 - 07/30/15 08:17 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Awesome. But I'm sure you understand that it's not like that for everyone, right?
Also: holy crap, that post by chastity psilocybe?! I don't know that poster well enough to know if she's serious or trolling, but that was pretty hilarious. If serious, she's like the most hardcore dramatic I've ever heard of, but I kinda think its a joke post. She kinda trolled me with a story in the rave scene thread about her friend od'ing on transdermal meth (lol), but now I see "she" is over the top ridiculous.
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OhMrJohnson
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22018750 - 07/30/15 08:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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There are actually a lot of girls out there who would come to that sort of conclusion based on this situation
Sure just because some guys are always ready to get it on doesn't mean all guys are like that all the time
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22018752 - 07/30/15 08:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea. Packing up your entire life and leaving your significant other over a suspicion is just straight ridiculous. Not even bringing it up before you do that is just down right insane 
In that mindset I guess being home late from work actually means you were having mad orgys
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22018767 - 07/30/15 08:33 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I need me some of that mindset. I'm always late from work.
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nicechrisman
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
#22019175 - 07/30/15 10:17 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Has your boyfriend been taking mushrooms?
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TheGreenArrow
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: nicechrisman]
#22019185 - 07/30/15 10:19 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: TheGreenArrow]
#22019335 - 07/30/15 11:08 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Something's going in his life that she's not aware of. Since it's damaging the foundation of their relationship (the sexual aspect), it's at a point where it needs to be talked about. If he won't talk about it, or do anything about it in genuine concern for his partner, then something much bigger is at play, and the OP needs to decide for herself how much longer she is willing to continue putting X into the relationship while her partner puts in Y.
It's a team effort, and if her dude is going through some hard times, that's cool to work through it as a team to keep their relationship and life progressing in a positive direction. If he's just a dick who doesn't communicate, maybe move on to greener pastures that certainly exist, and let him find someone who is ok with non-communication and limited sexual contact, which there certainly is.
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: ManianFH] 1
#22019390 - 07/30/15 11:30 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I say ....ditch the benzos and get yourself some good coke. You'll be spanking him and yelling get the fuck up to his shrimp boat instead of slowly rolling over and sticking your finger under his wasteband while slurring your affections (not sexy)....kidding about the coke, but, you were slurring your texts so I assume you were pretty trashed.
My guess is he's addicted to porn like half the kids on this board.
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Thayendanegea] 1
#22019442 - 07/30/15 11:47 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Maybe he is tired of seeing his girl high on benzos?
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
#22019503 - 07/30/15 12:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I think alot of guys are like this. I remember once one of my dudebros came up to me and we were talking about women and he's like "she wants me to like, eat her out" and I just didn't know what to say he was just plain grossed out about it.
You could definitely get him to change, my friend did, but it might not be worth it. I mean if he isn't satisfying you, and he doesn't care that he is not satisfying you, that is a problem. If you are looking for a deeper connection and that is something he just can't provide, I feel like it might be better to just break it off as that is nobodies fault really and it will likely not go away.
This is kind of a trend in relationships, and it's not like you're married, so don't feel like it is something you should have to put up with if you don't want to.
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: burningstar06]
#22019637 - 07/30/15 12:35 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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burningstar06 said: Ok so the tiltle says most of. Ahead of ime Kim on k pins and weed exuse my prop a ably terrible writing
Anyways so yea how do I do that I feel like he doesn't really pay attention an is sort of selfish in bed most of the time. I'm reallllly shy and not the dominant type at all and he knows that bug even so I've troed few times to make him happy. But take for instance last night. We havent had sex in quite I while (I'm not sure why it's not that I'm not attracted to him I just don't think about it!
So we were laying in bed and he only had his boxers on and we were cuddling with me behind him so I went in for a move and started to play with his boxer waist line. And beg and to play with him so I continued this for about five minutes I wont go into all the detail but I was playing with him anyways we was just laying there with his eyes closed not even paying any attention auto me so I kissed him and we mp kissed a few times and I was still playing with him I had to lead him to play with me and when he did he barely even tried like lazily tried to pleasure me and the he just stopped and I was still playing with him.
I tried to take it up a notch and blow him and he still wouldn't look at me or touch me. It makes me feel unwanted I dont know . I feel like afterward I just did him a favor and got nothing from it when I wanted to f-*** and he always does this
WHYYYYY? How do I fix this? I'm very shy in bed I do like to get just a little kinky but only if I'm realllly into it but our sex just seems like it needs sone spicing up he's the only person I've ever slept with so its not like Ibe had practice or whatever with other people
Hellllp me please
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: zappaisgod] 1
#22019703 - 07/30/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Are you sure he's not playing for the other team?

If not, sounds like he's not giving you the respect you deserve. If this happens on a regular basis you may want to consider moving on or going to some form of counselling.
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Fluzzball]
#22019817 - 07/30/15 01:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If he is that uninterested I would honestly, first thing that comes to my mind is he's cheating.
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Patlal
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: BoomerMan420]
#22020208 - 07/30/15 02:53 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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OP, you have to take off your panties and sit on his face if you have too. Guide his head down there. If he still doesn't flinch you got a problem.
If he doesn't stay down there long enough, well you got to say something
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Re: How to get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me in bed? / romance [Re: Patlal]
#22020222 - 07/30/15 02:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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nah take it from me he's just not that into you,theres nothing you can do,its the beginning of the end
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