Anonymous said: is this site like, relationship helpline? Take your stupid issues elsewhere... cause this thread is seriously lame and pointless. and I agree with almost everyone else in here when i say you sound immature and a bit of a tool. Get over yourself hotshot. Instead of being a dick, just nicely explain to her your issues and concerns with her and just explain to her how it isn't working for you? Jeeze what a concept. Good thing you're catch is smart, she can make up for the both of you.
Look man, I told you already that I didn’t call her these things to her face. In fact I tipsy toe around her because she is so easily offended.
But to answer your question yes I have laid out everything in a very polite and concerning way. Many many times. The conversations follow this basic outline.
The weight issue: I told her I was worried about her health, I have a aunt that died at a young age due to diabetes and the fact that she isn’t taking care of her self scares me because I don’t want to have to go through that again.
Her reply: The only way I can lose weight is if I go on low carb diet and im not doing that, I’m just not ever going to be a skinny person again.
The weed issue: I really think that maybe if you lay off the weed and make it just a weekend thing, than it might give you some clarity, and help you handle your emotions with more perspective.
Her reply; I don’t smoke very often (She smokes all the fucking time) ill quit if I ever get pregnant or if we move in together...
The emotional issue. I just can’t understand why you are acting so manic lately, you’ve never been like this before. You've always been so laid back. Can’t you just try to think positive?
Her reply: Look, this happens to all of the women in my family, they all go through manic depression at my age, my grandmother did it, my mother did it, and im going to do it, it’s genetic.
My rebuttal: Your only going to go through this because you have already convinced yourself that its inevitable. Through positive thinking you have the power to change this.
Her reply:
Ok ill try 
Comparing herself to her mom is the worst thing she can do. I loathe the woman, after having the baby, she divorces her father, and starts shacking up with her fathers brother. Has a baby with him, then starts shacking up with some dude that beats her while she still married. She ends up going batshit crazy and disappears for years. Turns out she committed her self out west. Then she marries a guy that mysteriously dies at age 45, now she with someone else and just had a baby at damn near 50yrs old.
When she compares herself to her mother, I just want to walk out that door and never look back. There is no way in hell I would ever involve myself with someone as unstable as her mother.
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