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Any loners on here * 1
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Mycology has long been a hobby of mine, and I’ve always considered it forbidden or taboo. I’m from an area where women want a clean cut guy that works in the union and looks like Morgan wallen, mushrooms are considered degenerate and lesser than cowboy boots and Busch light.

I was a raver for years, I’ve had a few girlfriends that greatly appreciated the field of mycology…however, they had other vices that lead to the relationship not working out.

I’m old now, mid 30s. I’d like to settle down and have a family within the next few years, I need to meet a woman who loves mushrooms and understands my hobby. It feels very difficult and it’s hard for me to open up about. I feel like I can’t even have anyone at my house honestly


Anyone else go through this?

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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Very much so. Cut all ties with drug buddies to focus on health and haven't been able to make any new friends since, not to mention a girlfriend or relationship of any kind. It's peaceful in a way, but does get loney.

Only have one friend left that isn't totally gone on drugs, he's managed to maintain use of psychedelics and has a long time girlfriend. It can be done... let me know if you figure out the secret to it though :lol:

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Re: Any loners on here [Re: ZeeBow] * 4
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Have to be a loner to remain under the radar.  Never know who is rat so every relationship is a coin flip who you tell. Get into chicken raising as women love or hate that.  Usually the ones that stay with you on that won't have a problem with mushrooms.


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: vicepope] * 3
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I let most anyone know what I get up to, except for most colleagues.

I have embraced weirdness for a long time,. since high school at least. I find it weeds out some people.

I'm a woman, it probably changes the dynamic I guess. But in also problematic in a lot of ways with no defined career path, not much earning capacity, working part time. So I have plenty of other issues.

Idk. I have faith in you OP. Especially if you're into growing. Because it legit looks like a hobby. Whereas being a forager like me just doesn't really so obviously go down as a hobby because most people will never see me foraging. They'll just hear me talking about drugs haha


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Anonymous #1 said:
Mycology has long been a hobby of mine, and I’ve always considered it forbidden or taboo. I’m from an area where women want a clean cut guy that works in the union and looks like Morgan wallen, mushrooms are considered degenerate and lesser than cowboy boots and Busch light.

I was a raver for years, I’ve had a few girlfriends that greatly appreciated the field of mycology…however, they had other vices that lead to the relationship not working out.

I’m old now, mid 30s. I’d like to settle down and have a family within the next few years, I need to meet a woman who loves mushrooms and understands my hobby. It feels very difficult and it’s hard for me to open up about. I feel like I can’t even have anyone at my house honestly


Anyone else go through this?


Absolutely, yet where I live there are tons of kava bars where people use natural medicines such as kava and kratom so it's been easy to meet people who are into mushrooms - it makes no difference.

People are easily manipulated. Most of these people have only done small recreational doses for fun and remain judgemental, gossipy, manipulative, dishonest, shitty people.

The last time I met a beauty who was clearly interested in me AND consistently showed it, at the start of what would've been great conversation, as soon as that became apparent the nosy staring haters pulled her aside then proceeded to ban me from that location claiming that they've had complaints of me making girls uncomfortable - total bs excuse considering she was comfortable enough to tell me she's not into dating anyone her age or younger(she's 26 I'm 41) and we were really seeming to click. Considering the fact that I really went out of my way to be kind and friendly to everyone there this was devastating because it's happened COUNTLESS times.

Even now when I'm not attempting to find a connection anytime I end up conversing with a beauty people will stare and give me a dirty look.

A girl who recently gave me her number(she intrigued me but my interest was minimal) and mentioned getting together for coffee or something sometime (I said for sure) ignored my invitation to join me at the park for a BBQ. The less interested women seem the less I care to pursue.

People suck

You're not alone.

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Re: Any loners on here [Re: winzlo7] * 1
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I'm coming off one of my deepest trips ever right now

Everything makes soooo much sense now

Screw all those agent Smiths running around causing us problems lmmfao

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Re: Any loners on here [Re: winzlo7]
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Depends on what you're willing to sacrifice.

Personally, I consider myself to be a loner. I don't want kids, don't particularly care if I have a family. I'm not poly, though I've got friends in the local scene that tried to get me involved. Same thing. 30s.

I think the 'perfect' family life has to happen in your mid-late 20s. After that, people got their own lives. Dating scene is full of single moms, which you either accept short term or you accept kids. Women in their 30s without kids...well, chances are they don't want them or there's a good reason why they don't have them.

The biggest thing I've noticed is that I can't pull college chicks like I used to (which is wild cause I only really figured out how to consistently do it in my mid-20s) I don't really go out much anymore, but when I do it's chill dives. If I go to the clubs I'm approaching the weird old guy in the corner aged vibes.

Anyway. @OP. If you're trying to go start a family, your best bet is probably gonna be a single mom with 1-2 kids, recently divorced after spending most of her 20s married. If you're looking for the classic white picket fence and SUV boring suburban life.

I don't much care for that. I recently met a career lady in her late 20s who I'm having a lot of fun with. It won't last. I know, she...probably knows. She ain't stupid, idk. It's fun for now.

Also, this is very much a dude perspective, but as you hit your mid 30s...you gotta either drop your standards or get used to being alone. I chose not to drop my standards. I don't mind being alone.

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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Kryptos]
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Kryptos said:
Depends on what you're willing to sacrifice.

Personally, I consider myself to be a loner. I don't want kids, don't particularly care if I have a family. I'm not poly, though I've got friends in the local scene that tried to get me involved. Same thing. 30s.

I think the 'perfect' family life has to happen in your mid-late 20s. After that, people got their own lives. Dating scene is full of single moms, which you either accept short term or you accept kids. Women in their 30s without kids...well, chances are they don't want them or there's a good reason why they don't have them.

The biggest thing I've noticed is that I can't pull college chicks like I used to (which is wild cause I only really figured out how to consistently do it in my mid-20s) I don't really go out much anymore, but when I do it's chill dives. If I go to the clubs I'm approaching the weird old guy in the corner aged vibes.

Anyway. @OP. If you're trying to go start a family, your best bet is probably gonna be a single mom with 1-2 kids, recently divorced after spending most of her 20s married. If you're looking for the classic white picket fence and SUV boring suburban life.

I don't much care for that. I recently met a career lady in her late 20s who I'm having a lot of fun with. It won't last. I know, she...probably knows. She ain't stupid, idk. It's fun for now.

Also, this is very much a dude perspective, but as you hit your mid 30s...you gotta either drop your standards or get used to being alone. I chose not to drop my standards. I don't mind being alone.


Good perspective.

Haha I'll be scooping up all the singles 30s makes who suddenly think I'm a beauty coz they're standards gone out the window.


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: ellamush]
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Do you want to date someone who's with you because they dropped their standards, though?

I don't. Which is why I'm mostly okay being a loner.

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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Kryptos]
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No haha j was just joking.


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Kryptos] * 1
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Groucho Marx said:
I don't want to belong to any club that would have me as a member.



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Re: Any loners on here [Re: KevinDontWave] * 3
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There's a reality OP that growing shrooms and kids don't go together. The kids will figure it out, or figure out that there's a space there untalked about, and will talk about it. Maybe you might get some feedback that they're talking about it, or maybe you might get a sunrise knock on the door. Could go either way.

I was fortunate enough to have my oldest childs' year 1 teacher inform me that they'd been telling people their Dad grows poisonous mushrooms, and I closed shop before shit got real.

You gotta pick which one you value most. There's not going to be many women who want a family and will tolerate drug cultivation under the same roof, and the ones that do will generally have poor decision making skills.

Doesn't mean you have to stop using psychedelics, but if growing drugs is your primary hobby it's going to hamper you in many ways. If you really love mycology you can expand that. Grow gourmets and edibles and make it a real respectable thing, a few active grows among that won't raise any eyebrows for the normies. For me that was too much and I just decided to keep my psy stuff locked in a safe for when needed.


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Northerner]
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I was thinking the same thing right as I was reading Northerner's post. As someone who did enjoy the hobby, but is now married with a kiddo and way more to lose (legally speaking), psys are kinda off the table for the forseeable future. And really, with a focus on the family, I dont care to even do that stuff right now. That said, I do love tinkering with mycology, and was thinking about growing edibles WITH my kiddo! She is such a fan of science, and would really appreciate the methodology that goes with growing.

Funny OP that you mentioned cowboy boots, I went through a mushrooms and cowboy boots/hat phase lol - but also live in california where im pretty much the only person who wore that shit :lol:... I think what matters is finding someone you vibe with in maybe other ways at first. once youre in a relationship and the other parts are starting to click, usually those conversations that 'i actually like mushrooms and psychedelics' will naturally happen, and your partner will probably care much less than if you drop it way early in the relationship.

fwiw though - every adult girlfriend I've ever had knew about my past with hallucinogens and it was a nonfactor, if not a reason to partake. Not sure if its where you live, maybe try southern california because a girl around here who looks down on mushroom use is probably more uncommon.


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Northerner]
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Northerner said:
There's a reality OP that growing shrooms and kids don't go together. The kids will figure it out, or figure out that there's a space there untalked about, and will talk about it. Maybe you might get some feedback that they're talking about it, or maybe you might get a sunrise knock on the door. Could go either way.

I was fortunate enough to have my oldest childs' year 1 teacher inform me that they'd been telling people their Dad grows poisonous mushrooms, and I closed shop before shit got real.

You gotta pick which one you value most. There's not going to be many women who want a family and will tolerate drug cultivation under the same roof, and the ones that do will generally have poor decision making skills.

Doesn't mean you have to stop using psychedelics, but if growing drugs is your primary hobby it's going to hamper you in many ways. If you really love mycology you can expand that. Grow gourmets and edibles and make it a real respectable thing, a few active grows among that won't raise any eyebrows for the normies. For me that was too much and I just decided to keep my psy stuff locked in a safe for when needed.


Alternatively you could learn to forage and pick psychedelic mushrooms. This way the kids don't need to know about it. And you can grow edible culinary mushrooms to keep your cult hobby up? :smile:


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: ellamush] * 1
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And then yeah you can teach your kid to cult culinary mushrooms. And down the track you can teach them how to forage for edible mushrooms too (maybe hold off teaching them how to pick psychedelics lol).

I have great memories of picking field mushrooms with my dad, sister and brother


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: ellamush]
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Really, you all would go out and gather them together? that sounds so cool


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: Mickalopagus]
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Mickalopagus said:
Really, you all would go out and gather them together? that sounds so cool


Yep! I was talking to dad about it. I remember doing it near the old pool but he said it was a field. It was back before the yellow stainers took over lol


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: ellamush]
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ellamush said:
Mickalopagus said:
Really, you all would go out and gather them together? that sounds so cool


Yep! I was talking to dad about it. I remember doing it near the old pool but he said it was a field. It was back before the yellow stainers took over lol


Different cultures values,  in America we have a culture of abandoning first dates in the woods and thus only 3 women have ever agreed to go into the wilderness with me.


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: vicepope]
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Hahah. My dad wouldn't abandon his kids but he may abandon a date lol

Funny you say that. I took a date on a forage once. Had to keep him though because I took him home for sex lol 😂


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Re: Any loners on here [Re: ellamush]
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ellamush said:
Hahah. My dad wouldn't abandon his kids but he may abandon a date lol

Funny you say that. I took a date on a forage once. Had to keep him though because I took him home for sex lol 😂


So why didn't you keep him. He sounds fun?


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