EntheogenicSerpent said:
Damn, this is harsh, in my comfortable life I've never faced such real problems, but I'll try to help anyway.
Maybe it's an insensitive question, but what about your family? Is there no possibility/will for you to go back and live with them?
If you really need a shelter maybe it's easier to ask them.
If it's not possible for whatever reasons, have a serious, deciding talk with this girl, but try to wait for it and gain time as much as you can. That's what I'd do, see how it develops. In the meanwhile try to get a job asap and look for a new accommodation. There must be people willing to pay half the rent with you.
Depending on the country you are it may be more or less difficult...
If you hate that city, get out I it asap I guess.
As for the girl, try to really get at the bottom of this thing (easier said than done right?) And then you both make your own decisions.
Best of luck man, I hope I could help 
Maybe give us updates in the future 
I don't really have contact with my family, though previous to this, there is history I have there that in ways, I am terrified of. But of course, given a lack of other options, what can you do but resign to fate? The greatest difficulty there is finding contact.
theRealrollforever said:
Ditch the chick she doesn’t love u or she wouldn’t leave u homeless. That’s just cold heartless and I know heartless. You have to be leaving out some serious problematic abusive behavior on your behalf for me to give her the benefit of the doubt. Also u really have no way to make money? Have U ever thought this might be the root of your problems. What were u realistically offering her in the relationship. Because nobody is truly in one to selflessly love they are selfish and want to feel loved.
Not that I am any different. Sorry to be direct and harsh but it’s hard to keep a relationship going when one person is unemployed. I should know I work at home half the time and my gf is medically unable to work. We are working on getting her the disability and money isn’t an issue yet so that’s how we are still together.
Yea, I am now at the point where I am simply focused on getting out in the best possible manner. The girl I see now is not the girl I fell in love with, that is long gone. It's difficult to accept though I feel that it is best to be realistic. To be honest, I had thought that we were at a greater understanding than we are currently. Maybe I was foolish, I'll accept that, though it was the pursuit of an education that was the driving force for me and I had thought that we were on good terms as it concerned that. It was the thought that if I offered my loving appreciation, cleaned and helped at home, and showed that I was truly working towards something, that she would at the very least care. She drags herself down sometimes where it concerns what she can do and her potential, and I have only encouraged her when she is quick to deny herself her own potential. I just don't understand how so called 'love' can so quickly vanish because of money, and I do now resonate with you saying that there was never 'love' there although it's terribly hard to accept.....And yea, the money is something that I will from this point on take into my own hands. Truly, I feel that this is much easier than dependence on anyone, it leaves out the terrible unequal distribution of power that seems to corrupt so quickly and easily. I just cannot understand why she won't even offer me the chance to get on my feet myself before kicking me to the shelter, even when I have offered to cover myself in terms of costs this may entail. She simply doesn't want my presence, and I have no idea what has so dramatically changed to make this so.
Last night, she popped the dreaded question again, what are my plans? She knows I do not have many options open to me in terms of what I can do, though she seems to insist that I go to the young adults shelter wanting to do so. How is it that I can be expected to wish to go? I told her that she knows what I would like to do, what my wishes would be if choices were to be open (namely, gaining the resources I need to get the hell out of here for good), but when choices are so constrained, how can choice even be said to be present? She spoke on about how this will be of benefit for me, then told me that she was annoyed when I didn't resonate with her on this, with me responding, insisting that I could get what I need to get a job and go from there without the place, though now this seems to be depicted as a terribly complex process that I need help from the place to handle. To cut the story short, she kicked me out of what has of recent become her room. I have attempted to extend my stay, holding on to what seems to be a bucking horse, though she may have plans to take me today if I am to go off of her word.
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