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My heart has been shattered

#16672019 - 08/09/12 05:56 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

She said she loved me
I gave her my virginity and my heart
She still says she loves me
But that we must forever be apart
..
I can't make sense of it. She shattered my heart with the composition of one text message.
"The truth is I love you but it will never work because I am too positive and I can't be with someone waiting for something to go wrong. You taught me many wonderful things but I can't be with you anymore."
Me:
"I'm starting to take medication. It made you happy. Why can't you give me a chance to be more positive?"
K:
"I am way too busy and focused for you and I can't afford to lose focus."
Me:
"Don't tell someone you love them and then rip there fucking heart out of there chest. I'm not threatening your career at all. Well this is officially the shittiest day of my life."
K:
" I love you but I don't want to be with anyone right now."
.....
She gets offended because I say she is tired of life.
Last text.
Me:
"I am sorry for how I acted. Not but two weeks ago you said you wanted to spend the rest of your life with me. My heart is shattered and I cried like I have never before in my life. There will be a brighter day and I will be a happier person. If you ever wish to pursue a relationship again I will be a more positive man. Alas, our paths are not the same. Goodbye K and I love you."
....
...
Goddamn I've cried for like an hour straight. I just want to leave all this shit behind drop out of my shitty college and run away to a commune in hawaii :sad:

:sad:

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672059 - 08/09/12 06:05 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

IMO you handled that... In a bad way, for lack of better words. But when I was younger I was like that too, then it bit me in the ass enough until I finally realized I needed to change something.

It hurts OP, I know. But it'll get better. Be strong mate. *hug*

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lifeiswhatyoumake

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672061 - 08/09/12 06:06 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

I've been there man, it sucks donkey balls.

Just be happy that you two are over now instead of while being married or something, that would totally suck camel balls (which are way nastier than donkey balls).

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672065 - 08/09/12 06:06 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Bummer man. But these things happen, you'll get over it in time.
I think if you check closely you'll realize you're still in possession of your heart.

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lifeiswhatyoumake

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672067 - 08/09/12 06:07 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

2Cents said:

IMO you handled that... In a bad way, for lack of better words.

You handled your response in a bad way, for lack of better words.

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672073 - 08/09/12 06:09 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

You still have plenty of time to spread your seed. You've had one love, there are many more.

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i like cow poo
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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672084 - 08/09/12 06:12 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Thanks guys about an hour ago I felt like the world was ending. I feel slightly better now.
I woke up this morning with a bad feeling in my mind. I think I secretly knew that our relationship is failing. She works as a firefighter and EMT, she only had one free day and I want to move outta state. :frown:

:frown:

I don't know how I'll ever be able to trust another woman again. 2 weeks ago she said she saw us being together forever :sad:

:sad:

(We're both 20)

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#16672098 - 08/09/12 06:15 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

The psyche of men and women is a confusing thing my friend. Relationships come and go and your better off with out a tag along like her who flip flops so dramatically.

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dutchmasterr
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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672129 - 08/09/12 06:20 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

It's all good friend. In due time you will see the purpose. Hindsight is always 20/20.

Maybe it is best for you to be alone at the moment. Maybe you relied on your relationship too heavily. Although that may seem harsh now, check back later when you can fully integrate the experience without the emotional attachment.

Love.

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VivaLaMushie
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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16672142 - 08/09/12 06:23 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

*hugs OP*

You will find love again! Everything happens for a reason OP :smile:

:smile:

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#16672237 - 08/09/12 06:42 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Thanks guys. I guess I just really hate college and all the stress it brings, as well as the city its in.
Sure I had negative moments with her, but the only largely notable ones were when I was going off to college and leaving her. That day I cried a small amount and told her I loved her. We both realized that shit was in for a bumpy ride;
with her working two jobs and being only avaliable on Sundays for me to come visit. And once I graduate college moving outta state.
She said she always wanted to live close to her family in state.
Deep down we both knew something had to give. :strokebeard:

:strokebeard:

It still feels like a lost one of the best parts of my life. :sad:

:sad:

Girls like her have are not easy to find in my experience

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ButteredToast
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#16672596 - 08/09/12 08:10 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

Cow poo, it seems you and I have a lot in common. Recently heartbroken, college, work, stress, anxiety, and we're the same age.

I was in a funk for a couple months after my girl broke it off with me. The best thing to do is to just get out there and meet some new girls. Easier said than done right after a breakup, but the sooner the better, trust me!

Good luck bud, there's plenty of beautiful girls out there.

:hugitout:

:hugitout:

Edited by ButteredToast (08/09/12 08:11 PM)

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16673076 - 08/09/12 09:39 PM (14 years, 2 months ago)

College = tons of sluts to fuck. It literally translates to that.

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16674389 - 08/10/12 01:46 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

If I could back and go do it over again, I would tell myself that the vast majority of relationships between 18-26 +/-3 years do not work out so don't expect things to work out necessarily (but it's great if they do) and if things start to get rocky it's sometimes better to cut your losses and go after the other fish in the sea.

Count yourself lucky. I bet you in a year or two you will look back and laugh.

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fbi365
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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16674541 - 08/10/12 02:28 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

I would have said the exact same thing. Maybe that's the wrong way to handle it. But who gives a fuck if you can't say how you feel.

I relate with you dude. My heart has been shattered and my chest has been stomped in. Not much that you can do from here on to make it better. If you can patch things up great. But you have a tough road ahead. I am traveling it with you and yet I am completely alone.

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koraks

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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16674680 - 08/10/12 03:16 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

fbi365 said:

I would have said the exact same thing. Maybe that's the wrong way to handle it. But who gives a fuck if you can't say how you feel.

I agree.

Having said that, OP: be careful not to actually believe in things you say, like "feels like the world ends" and "heart shattered" - sure, it feels like that for a moment, but try not to stretch the moment into a month, and then a year. This loss is not what defines you as a person - it is something that you ran into, and it's something that you'll walk away from too when you're done with it.

Mourn for the loss (because that's what it is, and the feeling is very similar to mourning someone's demise), but allow yourself to crawl out of the gutter some day soon. Don't identify with the grief - identify with the profundity of emotions, and know that there will be positive (exuberant, loving) ones again, one day.

In short: yeah, sucks, but you'll pick yourself up.

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#16674694 - 08/10/12 03:21 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

You're a low life, that's how we met right?

Listen, this is not the first thread from you like this so I'll be brief since you didn't hear me last time.

Women want men who can deliver the goods and not be needy, you sound needy and suspect in bed.

You also have a porn filled sig, I noticed.

There are many women who will fuck you later. Your virginity aint shit.
Stop feeling bad and feel good.

Your first assignment is to hit a slow fast one down the middle:
1) go to your local taco bell
2) hit on the girl working there
3) lay that pipe no matter what

4) report back.

Do as I say young one.

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Cyclohexylamine
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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16675277 - 08/10/12 09:21 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

koraks said:

fbi365 said:

I would have said the exact same thing. Maybe that's the wrong way to handle it. But who gives a fuck if you can't say how you feel.

I agree.

Having said that, OP: be careful not to actually believe in things you say, like "feels like the world ends" and "heart shattered" - sure, it feels like that for a moment, but try not to stretch the moment into a month, and then a year. This loss is not what defines you as a person - it is something that you ran into, and it's something that you'll walk away from too when you're done with it.

Mourn for the loss (because that's what it is, and the feeling is very similar to mourning someone's demise), but allow yourself to crawl out of the gutter some day soon. Don't identify with the grief - identify with the profundity of emotions, and know that there will be positive (exuberant, loving) ones again, one day.

In short: yeah, sucks, but you'll pick yourself up.

Koraks as usual has amazing advice.
Take this time to grow as a person yourself, and to figure out who you want to be.

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i like cow poo
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Re: My heart has been shattered

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#16675319 - 08/10/12 09:41 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

CRAZY FUCKING UPDATE
She called me at 10 oclock last night and said she wanted to give our relationship another chance. She said the real problem is that she cannot stop thinking about me and that she has to have a clear mind when working on her EMT/Firefighter job.
She said she was scared because shes never felt like this before and feels like it is going so fast.
...
Idk this shit is pretty unstable at the moment. I told her that with mental practice she could stay 100% focused on the job. I have a feeling this relationship has a high probability of death so I'm not getting my hopes up.
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Is there anyway I can ease her mind?
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I have a feeling most of you are going to say fuck it, leave her. I can't make myself do that, I can't give up without a fight. :eek:

:eek:

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#16675338 - 08/10/12 09:51 AM (14 years, 2 months ago)

> Is there anyway I can ease her mind?
That's up to her.

I would suggest that you try and take some emotional distance from this whole thing. Not from her, mind you - but from these crazy antics. She obviously isn't in a very stable mindset right now, and it's not going to help you any to try and keep up with her fluctuations and changes of mind.

Of course, you cannot simply emotionally detach like that, but there's always ways to deal with this. For example, you can tell her that she should take a couple of days or a week to work things out, and then get together and discuss where you stand.

> I can't give up without a fight
That's nonsense. You're 20. You can walk away from this and you'll be fine within a couple of weeks or months, depending on quickly you heal emotionally. But you'll be fine nonetheless.

Look, I know that it feels like this is the importance of the whole wide world wrapped up into one pretty lady, but it isn't. She's just one woman out of millions, and you're just another 20-year old guy with next to no experience with romantic relationships.

One of the most valuable things that you'll have to learn sooner or later is to shrug.

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