I already knew this, but you put it in such perfect prose that it definitely heightened my understanding. I am forever indebted.

alternatereality said:

Girls love to play games. They want you to want them. When you want them, they won't want you (at least initially) unless you're exceptionally attractive or have something else to offer. You can win this game one of two ways. You can either try to win them over with your charming personality (this option is more destined for failure) or, you can intermittently show signs that you want them and display total indifference towards the matter. Want them, but not too much. You have to make them surrender first. They have to want you before you can fully show that you want them. This isn't with all girls. I'd rather skip the mind games personally. But if ignoring them is sparking their interest, they're the sort that like the idea of being wanted and when you stop wanting them, it makes them want you to want them all the more.

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