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BTW - in greeting people, including those I'm speaking to for the first time, I've made a huge change. I no longer ask, "How are you?". I've come to realize I don't want people to give me an qualitative evaluation of "how they are". And I don't want others to ask me to provide a qualitative evaluation of how "I am". (We all know when someone replies "OK" they are unhappy) Eliminating the habitual "How are you?" has made huge changes to my confidence and ability to interact with people and have meaningful conversations. I now ask, "What's been going on with you?" This opens the door to an honest reply, such as sharing about feeling sad that a parent passed away recently or being stressed about an upcoming job interview. It's been a great method to significantly reduce the stress of social interaction, as many people want to share "what is going on" in their life. The whole "How are you?" thing is nuts, I'm so happy I've given it up. When I ask, "What's going on with you?" many people go on and on about their life, and I just relax and enjoy listening . . . that's intimacy
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