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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: MOTH]
#9476167 - 12/22/08 01:16 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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MOTH said: I try to keep things simple these days
Yup. Life is always easier and more worth it when you're true to yourself instead of somebody else's label. That's just slavery.
-------------------- Enlil said: You really are the worst kind of person.
Edited by Tchan909 (12/22/08 01:17 AM)
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: Mycoangler]
#9476467 - 12/22/08 02:54 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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Mycoangler said: It's funny how you posted a day after I was in deep thought about this myself.
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Do females ever get in touch with their "masculine" side?
To answer your question, no they don't, which is exactly what my problem is!
My girlfriend is certainly in touch with her masculine side, and I love it. When we first started seeing each other she said to me, that I allow her to be more herself. And that is one of the most beautiful things anyone has ever said to me.
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MOTH said: I try to keep things simple these days
Yup. Life is always easier and more worth it when you're true to yourself instead of somebody else's label. That's just slavery.
AAAAWWWW what if I enjoy being a "lesbian"....mmm lesbos, where the exotic and beautiful sapphist creatures frolick...
*shakes self out of reverie* anyway...um...
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MisterMuscaria said: Ive felt asexual before. Perhaps you are pansexual? That pretty much means you arent attracted to a gender set or preference set but to particular people.
This is an interesting idea.
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: Poid]
#9479048 - 12/22/08 04:10 PM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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I would love to have a tomboy companion, I feel it would suit my equilibrium perfectly....
 
Unlike a true tomboy, I hate football too!
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#9512867 - 12/29/08 03:22 PM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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labels are for jars, not for people. 
i believe that we are all everything and everyone. there is no genuine need to separate any one being from another.
i feel that the more we place labels and utilize forms of separation, we begin to lose sight of our similarities.
when oftentimes, a judgment is based solely upon the fact that we, ourselves, are internalizing external judgments that have been learned from society as unacceptable, and we begin to feel as if something may be "wrong" with us.
a self-hatred begins to grow and thrive.
we begin to identify with this, and instead of knowing the truth, that we are exactly as we need to be, we decide to rationalize that it may be easier to go with the most "popular" idea, at the time.
we, then, spew this self-loathing upon the entirety of creation because we cannot be bothered to take the time to sort through and get to the actual root of what is truly taking place.
self-acceptance equates to acceptance of all of existence.
love for every being, every creature, every object.
and i believe that it must truly begin with love and acceptance of oneself.
love for all and all for love.
-------------------- all i know is love, and i find my heart infinite and everywhere! -hafiz
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: fruitymel13]
#9513563 - 12/29/08 05:39 PM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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touching
-------------------- Anxiety is what you make it.
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: Poid]
#9518250 - 12/30/08 01:38 PM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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LMAO ok not so black and white I'm just stating what I've observed -- maybe if people would like a different perception of "transgendered" practices more straight folk should go out in drag instead of being so damned embarassed by it they end up being more closeted than a guy that just happens to like guys. Clothes and gender roles are just bullshit. People aren't born with clothes and whoever thinks seeing a penis or a vagina is offensive they are fucked; our ancestors saw plenty of them and didn't complain as much, and if you go far back in history enough, nobody complained about it.
As for gender roles, girls stuff is always so expensive and impractical. Dresses are awkward to get around in. Try hopping a fence with one on. So are high heels. And the prospect of chopping off my bits in place for a vagina is just so fucking disturbing, because I like sex and I love my penis. I don't even think high heels put you in a healthy posture either they aren't healthy dude. And men don't need bras they have no breast tissue to worry about degrading and sagging, it is impractical for a dude to need one, even if they are on estrogen pills because their tits will be so small they won't need it. Or their tits are huge from being fat and their breast tissue has likely structurally lost it's integrity and they sag anyways.
If you like lookin good and spending time on yourself, get your hair done. Dye it. Get a good stylish cut. Heck use skin creams and lufas. Get your hair laser removed or just deal with the bitch of ingrown hairs and constant shaving and trimming. Toss on some practical threads -- good quality, not necessarily brand-whorish but sharp appearance, good materials, good design. I'd take a volcom hoodie with a metal zipper over a skirt any day of the week, and I'm sure there's a lot of chicks out there that would too. Just because you're a guy doesn't mean you have to dress in either a suit or jeans all the time, and just because you're a girl doesn't mean you always have to wear dresses and skirts. Heck you don't even have to spend a lot of time looking good (provided that you look good to begin with, there are some people out there that only a knife could fix lol) but in my case I spend maybe 30 minutes and I'm all set to go. What kinda person thinks it's practical spending more time than that? It simply isn't, there's more to life than wasting all your time trying to uphold an illusion of perfection, as this perverted society defines it.
Hell I feel sorry for girls. Society almost expects them to waste more of their time on this sorta stuff, and it expects them to do the same jobs as us guys and not get rated on ability, they simply get paid less for the same damned work. This society is sick and gender roles were the perversion in the first place.
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: xtofury]
#9521693 - 12/31/08 12:57 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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Excellent thread. I have gone through various stages of gender identity in my life, and found I was never happy until I accepted the fluidity of sexuality and gender. I have had to coach a lot of friends through confusion due to their attempts to push their sexuality into a box. If a gay man is attracted to very masculine women, is he still gay? If someone is bisexual, but is attracted to men in the vast majority of cases, is he/she a true bisexual? If someone masturbates regularly but has no desire to form sexual relationships, is he/she asexual? And that's leaving out genderqueers, transsexuals, the intersexed...
I am female, but my whole life I have identified more with boys. Women always seemed so superficial, wasting their lives worrying about silly things like makeup and clothes. At first I believed that I was very normal, just one of the few enlightened enough to see through social norms. I definitely do believe that society twists gender differences to an extreme, leaving many people feeling they don't belong where biology has placed them. However I never wanted to be a man, and when other people told me I was trying to act like one, I just felt like I was being myself.
People have been accusing me of being a lesbian since middle school, even before I began actively seeking an androgynous look. Funny, I'm attracted exclusively to men and have a much higher sex drive than most women, so in a way I feel I like men more than the girly-girls. My masculine side in no way detracts from my feminine side. I am very masculine and very feminine.
Nowadays I just call myself a liquid female genderfuck I suppose. I enjoy fucking with people's heads and making them challenge their ideals. I will wear a suit and tie one day and a skirt and high heels the next. Mixing the two is the best, people don't know what to think anymore.
Oh, and I don't think one's tendency towards male or female inherently has something to do with dominance or submission. People assume I am in charge of my relationships because of how I act and dress, but I like an equal power balance in a relationship and am a heavy switch when it comes to sex. Also, I am attracted to both masculine and feminine men, although someone more in-between is ideal.
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: option_paralysis]
#9521920 - 12/31/08 02:02 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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hmmm a good mixture of the two side always seems best. Why not take the best of both worlds. Guess you're right masculine and feminine are just stupid labels, because nobody is totally either. All just verying shades in between.
But I gotta tell you I would totally agree with the waste of time and money on makeup and clothes. Ok buying nice clothes is one thing. Getting a nice pair of shades is one thing. But spending outlandish fortunes so you can wear something different every day of the month is rediculous and definitely one thing I don't enjoy out of women. Things don't make you truely happy, nor does money. oh things do help, but ultimately it is you and the people you are with that makes you happy (or not depending on what it is you want from the people that you are with, or depending if the people you are with always ends up being two-faced trash or not). I mean if you need polyfill for your face then maybe it's time to accept your age or get some treatments from a plastic surgeon or something, if it makes you that worried about how you look. I'm 30 I still don't have any worries. I don't spend hours making myself look nice, I just look nice and occasionally dye my hair. Sometimes I cut it myself but I'm too lazy to cut it all so I go to a cheap barber because I'm tired of going just about anywhere only to find they had shitty co-ordination and no vision when they were cutting my hair, so I just plan on tidying it up a little afterwards anyways. I spend maybe 30 minutes a day on myself, maybe not even that. Do gay guys like that exist? LMFAO. Plus I get good enough results that the other day some professional hairdresser I was chatting with thinks I spend alot of money on my hair. LMFAO I spend $12 on the barber, $10 on the hair dye, and a little time fixing it myself. The cost in money and time is minimal and worth it.
LMAO I must be gay I'm giving fashion tips...but I'm a weird gay cuz I don't spend 3 hours in the bathroom in the morning trying to get ready for life.
Interesting read.... doesn't androgenous look more masculine than effeminate? LMFAO.
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Re: Getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side... [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#9537964 - 01/03/09 02:06 PM (15 years, 1 month ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Ive felt asexual before. Perhaps you are pansexual? That pretty much means you arent attracted to a gender set or preference set but to particular people.
Sounds like me....
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