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Jufin



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fantasylndvictm said: Alot of people have told me that when people do you wrong no matter how bad it is you should forgive them or you'll never be able to "recover" for it or something of that sort.
I didn't believe this but everytime I come back to my hometown this girl that did wrong by me always ends up on my mind and bothers me all over again. I thought beating her up would make me feel better but obviously it didn't. So do you really think that forgiving someone who doesnt even care or feel bad about how fukked up what they did to u was would help?
You beat her up? You gutless fuck
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fantasylndvictm
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Re: People say you should forgive.... [Re: Jufin]
#9325262 - 11/28/08 12:22 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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Jufin said:
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fantasylndvictm said: Alot of people have told me that when people do you wrong no matter how bad it is you should forgive them or you'll never be able to "recover" for it or something of that sort.
I didn't believe this but everytime I come back to my hometown this girl that did wrong by me always ends up on my mind and bothers me all over again. I thought beating her up would make me feel better but obviously it didn't. So do you really think that forgiving someone who doesnt even care or feel bad about how fukked up what they did to u was would help?
You beat her up? You gutless fuck
Please explain ur accusation?
-------------------- "How do we know whether the life of any creature has fulfilled its destiny? I have known the very old to die in bitterness and despair. I have seen young children die before their time but leave behind such a legacy of love and joy that grief for their passing was tempered by the knowledge that their brief lives had given much to others." "You have answered your own question,Tanis Half-Elven, far better than I could," the Forestmaster said gravely. "Say that that our lives are measured not by gain but by giving." -Dragonlance "Dragons of Autumn Twilight" If we lived in luxury we would grow soft. No human being truely knows their full capacity to love until they become a parent.
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norml840
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i bet he doesn't know your a female.
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wrestler_az
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forgiving her is the first step. the second is moving on... you dont need people like that in your life.
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HappyTrippin
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Re: People say you should forgive.... [Re: wrestler_az]
#9325312 - 11/28/08 12:34 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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I was thinking that too. I bet he'd change the answer if he knew the OP is female. haha
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Jufin



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Re: People say you should forgive.... [Re: norml840]
#9325334 - 11/28/08 12:40 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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norml840 said: i bet he doesn't know your a female.
Yep, sorry for that OP, thought you were male.
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filthee
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forgive means to not kill or hurt them or not avenge yourself,it doesnt mean you have to like them again and give them another chance at fucking you over
depends what they did
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Fearn
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Re: People say you should forgive.... [Re: deCypher]
#9325630 - 11/28/08 03:09 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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forgive eventually. you dont have to do it immediatly, i forgave someone i had hated for two years. sometimes it just takes that long for what they did to pass and get to a point that you can deal with it.
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fantasylndvictm
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Re: People say you should forgive.... [Re: Jufin]
#9325949 - 11/28/08 07:20 AM (15 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's cool.
F- I didn't give her another chance to screw me over after I beat her up and I never planned on trying to forgive her I figured the beating would have worked but it still plagues my thoughts when I come back to visit my home town thats the only time it crosses my mind tho.
-------------------- "How do we know whether the life of any creature has fulfilled its destiny? I have known the very old to die in bitterness and despair. I have seen young children die before their time but leave behind such a legacy of love and joy that grief for their passing was tempered by the knowledge that their brief lives had given much to others." "You have answered your own question,Tanis Half-Elven, far better than I could," the Forestmaster said gravely. "Say that that our lives are measured not by gain but by giving." -Dragonlance "Dragons of Autumn Twilight" If we lived in luxury we would grow soft. No human being truely knows their full capacity to love until they become a parent.
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Bridgeburner
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forgive and regret.
forgive but always remember.
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Don't even give that bitch the time of day. She's obviously a worthless human being. You showed her love and she screwed you. So what? Learn to love in a hateful manner and don't let other people control your own emotions.
You obviously care too much about her as if she has some sort of power over your life. Seriously, fuck her. Just remember she's worthless and ugly inside and you're not. Then you can just move on. And that's forgiveness.
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fantasylndvictm said: Alot of people have told me that when people do you wrong no matter how bad it is you should forgive them or you'll never be able to "recover" for it or something of that sort.
I didn't believe this but everytime I come back to my hometown this girl that did wrong by me always ends up on my mind and bothers me all over again. I thought beating her up would make me feel better but obviously it didn't. So do you really think that forgiving someone who doesnt even care or feel bad about how fukked up what they did to u was would help?
LOL wtf? Well if you kicked her ass already and you still feel just as bad, or worse, I'd say that is about normal.
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I've found forgiveness to be a super powerful habit. It frees you. It's not something you do because "it's the right thing to do", it's something you do to give yourself a break from being pissed off.
When you stay mad at someone for something they did, you are making sure that what they did continues to have the power to upset you... forever. Forgiveness is just deciding to be done with that part of the past. Fine, they did something bad. People do things like that sometimes. Even if it is something you'd never do to somebody else, it makes no sense to stay mad.
It has nothing to do with who 'deserves' forgiveness. It doesn't even need to involve them at all. It's something you do in your head. When you forgive, as a habit, you are free from the burden of all that shit that has happened in the past, and you can focus on your life.
Everyone does shitty things to people. Nobody reading this post has never done anything nasty or selfish to somebody else. People are just people; we have to accept that people are fallible -- and so are we -- or else we get bitter. I know people that still bitch about what people did to them years ago. Holy shit, how much of their life are they going to waste being mad about something they can't change? The faster you can accept what happened and forgive them for their faults, the less it hurts you.
If people constantly cause problems for you, keep them out of your life, but don't stay resentful.
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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