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Cyric said:
I wish, however, that more people would have the same goal. It would be much easier that way.

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You can only tackle this one from your own end.  And maybe you can never get there, but you can get a lot closer.

Start here:

http://www.amazon.com/Handbook-Higher-Consciousness-Ken-Keyes/dp/0960068880

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demius said:
yes, that day will be possible...when you no longer breathe and your brain no longer functions

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Middleman said:
Glowsticks are the way to peace.

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BURNING MAN BABY, BURNING MAN The glow stick capital of the world.

About the only place I have seen peace in human community. And while it wasn't perfect it will certainly do until perfection arrives.

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Diaboleros said:
Ants live in peace! Someday humans will do so too.

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Yeah they just attack everything else. The Borg also live in peace.

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The Cypher said:
A world without conflict would be boring.  Sometimes you just need a little dissonance to keep things entertaining.

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It would be if there was also no challenge. If everyone had constructive challenges to face and meet everyday, there would be no need for conflict and life wouldn't be boring.

You also said a mouthful in that, I bet most all conflict stems from boredom frustration.

I think conflict really stems from people not having enough healthy challenges in their life. Without constructive places to channel our energy that make us feel "accomplished" , it's easy to seek out conflict as a means for discharging excess energy and feeling 'accomplished" if you can dominate/win the conflict.

Constructive challenges could replace conflicts and no one would get bored.

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Constructive challenges still just sound like the lame, PC cousin of conflict.

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The Cypher said:
A world without conflict would be boring.  Sometimes you just need a little dissonance to keep things entertaining.

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It would be if there was also no challenge. If everyone had constructive challenges to face and meet everyday, there would be no need for conflict and life wouldn't be boring.

You also said a mouthful in that, I bet most all conflict stems from boredom frustration.

I think conflict really stems from people not having enough healthy challenges in their life. Without constructive places to channel our energy that make us feel "accomplished" , it's easy to seek out conflict as a means for discharging excess energy and feeling 'accomplished" if you can dominate/win the conflict.

Constructive challenges could replace conflicts and no one would get bored.

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Constructive challenges still just sound like the lame, PC cousin of conflict.

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Cyric said:
Every day I dream of the day when I live with no conflict in my life. I know one day it will be possible.

I wish, however, that more people would have the same goal. It would be much easier that way.

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To lose conflict lose your sense of autonomy, take the division out of your vision

Most conflict is just thought, "i think this, you think that" to go beyond conflict go beyond thinking. Without thought what conflict is there? (remebering any answer you give is just another thought)

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I think the conflict begins, when neither party steps to the side.

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Well, that would fall under the other definition of conflict.   

Basically, when a conflict is not easily resolved, it is likely due to the "incompatible" goals being translated into immovable positions.  (I'm right, you're wrong.  You step to the side, no YOU step to the side!)  In my example, the conflict could be resolved through identification of the underlying interests (both of us want to walk on the sidewalk, both of us want to pass without physical contact, both of us wish to progress towards our destinations).  Since all of our interests can be satisfied, and are not mutually-exclusive, resolution of that particular conflict was swift and painless.

Now imagine my second example, wherein the scarce resource (tightrope) does not allow both of our interests to be satisfied.  Additionally, the fact that the tightrope is suspended 500 feet in the air eliminates our other options.  Assuming that we have a common interest of progressing towards our destinations, as well as a lack of interest in harming or being harmed in the process, it will be necessary to negotiate a compromise. 

When we get locked into our immovable positions, conflict becomes a battle.  If we can recognize our interests, and work together to satisfy as many non-exclusive interests as possible, there is no need for a battle.

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When we get locked into our immovable positions, conflict becomes a battle.  If we can recognize our interests, and work together to satisfy as many non-exclusive interests as possible, there is no need for a battle.

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That's what the OP needs to examine (his immovable positions in life)

Unless, he was referring to being surrounded by people who are always in a state of conflict. Even still, his immovable position is the problem. He needs to move away from them.

if not, he should start reading up on the arts of compromise.

I think some people who live with a lot of inner conflict, are usually the types who are good at standing in their own way because of indecision.

" I want to do this, but I don't want that, which comes with it."

"I want to do this and that at the same time"

"I don't know what I want to do but I want to do something"

That sort of inner dialogue, can create a lot of boredom and frustration, that then leads one to creating battle conflicts with others around them, as a way to release the pressure they put on themselves.

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I was drinking yagermeister last night, and the ants were drinking my spills.  first time Ive ever been really at peace with ants.

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i think its important people find conflict in life that they atleast enjoy.

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You must also be describing the artistic ones lego is defending who like to paint their walls clashing red and orange in the same space.

Some people definetely choose to put conflict into their own lives in many ways. Probably their need for a lot of exciting action to be taking place. Maybe that is what someone said about life seeming lame to them without conflict. They need the high excitement.

When I feel like I need high excitment action, I'll do stuff like ride rollar coasters, or water sports etc. Engaging or watching conflict isn't the only option for experiencing action excitement.

Here is my favorite local fix-

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The Cypher said:
A world without conflict would be boring.  Sometimes you just need a little dissonance to keep things entertaining.

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It would be if there was also no challenge. If everyone had constructive challenges to face and meet everyday, there would be no need for conflict and life wouldn't be boring.

You also said a mouthful in that, I bet most all conflict stems from boredom frustration.

I think conflict really stems from people not having enough healthy challenges in their life. Without constructive places to channel our energy that make us feel "accomplished" , it's easy to seek out conflict as a means for discharging excess energy and feeling 'accomplished" if you can dominate/win the conflict.

Constructive challenges could replace conflicts and no one would get bored.

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Constructive challenges still just sound like the lame, PC cousin of conflict.

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Of course it is a cousin to conflict. There is an objective to be met in both conflicts and challenges alike.

I disagree that meeting constructive challenges is lamer then engaging in conflicts.

Ambitious people who set goals who are busy achieving them, really don't live lame lives at all. Would you call Micheal Jordans life lame?

Lame describes what doesn't move, a state where boredom can set in. Boredom turns to frustration and frustration can turn to creating conflict, as it looks for a release.

It can just as easily turn to something like a 6 mile uphill hike in the woods.

Like with the ants, who do not attack each other. They all have constructive jobs to do, they know what their job is and they naturally do it well. They are to busy  taking care of their colony to bother with picking fights with each other.

Like Ice said, if something else comes along to bust their grove or threaten the colony, then they will attack it in defence.

Humans don't come born with a job to do and a natural ability to do it well. When they don't develop skills and create challenging work/play for themselves, they tend to turn to causing conflict looking for an easy challenge to meet.

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OrgoneConclusion said:
What about Sunni pheremones?

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