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#8474426 - 06/02/08 10:53 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a month and a half now. A few weeks ago she gave me one of the most amazing blowjobs I've ever had in my entire life. The past few times we've become intimate, for some strange reason, I haven't been able to get a "full" erection; which totally fucking sucks. Not only is it somewhat embarrassing, but it is keeping us from having some amazing and intense tantric love making. Thankfully, she completely understands. I, however, let this upset me.. because I want to have some amazing and intense tantric love making. I am a very healthy and young person. and I've never really had a problem with this before.
Has anyone else went through something like this? What did you do? Did it get better with time?
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jenns_hot
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just relax. when i was just starting my last relationship, the first couple times i couldnt get it up because i was nervous. I said i had taken xanax earlier, but i was really just too tense. later on, i told her that there wasnt xanax, i was just nervous because i liked her so much, and she was flattered.
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just me
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bro, dont feel bad.
get some viagra if you have to.
i get used to my girlfriends fairly quickly and it seems like im not getting a FULL erection...
i dont know what causes this...
even when i take a break from a relationship and go one night standing, its hard for me to get fully aroused cuz im just really not into it. its more in the chase that i get excited...
the best thing is to have a girl who REALLY loves your cock, and get REALLY excited over it. in a relation ship where you just go thru the motions, the sex becomes lame and the drive dies...
maybe you and her can do some "sexual activities" that are out of the ordinary. not so much to make the sex better(which it probably will) but to make you and her more comfortable in your sex and learning more what turns eachother on.
if you cant get a girl hot, shes not gonna get you hot. i dont know if this is hormones/pharamones that we put off, or just that we can sense it. but the key is to get her extra hot, and youll look down and be like WOW its bigger than its ever been...
just my $0.02
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Anonymous #1
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I think that is most likely the problem; although, I don't feel really "nervous". I'm so glad she understands, otherwise relaxing in that situation afterwards would've become increasingly difficult.
thanks for sharing. that helps.
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Newport101
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yea i have had this problem before, and funny enough, thru xanax actually. But not just that. With My current girlfriend the first couple sex encounters almost blew the whole thing, first i couldnt get it up, then i couldnt last more than like 5 min...thank god she gave me a couple chances lol i was just nervous because she was beautiful and things worked out. Also from time to time i will have a week or so period where im a quick draw haha. I think men are just super sensitive about it and girls( if there good) dont really care too too much. I mean i have had to stop early for her every once in a while cause it was hurting her ya know? haha maybe try eating some rolls or something im sure youd perk right up. dont sweat it :-)
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Thanks everyone for sharing. It's good to know I'm not alone out there.
This girl is absolutely fucking amazing. Whenever my mind and body learn to relax in that situation again, we WILL have the most amazing and intense tantric love making ever, I'm sure of it. I'm just thankful she understands.
And thankful for all of you people. You've really helped me, like always.
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ChiefGreenLeaf
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Some herbs might help. I'll list a few: Maca, Siberian ginsing, panex ginsing, horny goat weed, garlic, fo-ti. Then there is the stronger stuff: tongkat ali and yohimbe. The tongkat ali makes your body produce its own testosterone. Its tricky to buy for and has to be cycled, so that might be a little hardcore for your case. Yohimbe with 2 or 3 of the others I mentioned would do some serious work. Its best to take a couple of herbs when treating a particular symptom because they are almost always synergistic. Just do a little research. If your healthy then I would reccomend horny goat weed, maca, siberian ginsing, and some yohimbe. You should start with small doses of yohimbe and work your way up. Hope this helps
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ManianFH
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yah just take some time and it will come back.. purely mental, obviously, and a barrier easily overcome once you 'miraculously' do, and will
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Thanks for the tips on the herbs. I love herbs. Any tips on dosing the horny goat weed, maca, siberian ginseng, and yohimbe? Or where to purchase these? Should they be taken as teas or in capsules or what?
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just me
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Thanks for the tips on the herbs. I love herbs. Any tips on dosing the horny goat weed, maca, siberian ginseng, and yohimbe? Or where to purchase these? Should they be taken as teas or in capsules or what?
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MorphMan
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Anonymous said: I am a very healthy and young person. and I've never really had a problem with this before.
If you are truthful then I really believe the culprit would have to be nervousness. There is no other good explanation for a healthy, young person to have this problem. You'll be perfectly fine, you may just need to get comfortable with her first. Don't worry so much, man. I know it's WAYYY easier said than done but you gotta start somewhere. I've been really nervous with women before and shot off too early, shit happens. Nervousness can cause all sorts of sexual dysfunction.
You don't really have a "problem", it's perfectly natural to be nervous around someone you care about, especially the first few times around. Hell, be glad that you care for her enough that it makes you nervous... at least you know that it's fucking real and not some fuck buddy. Hang in there and keep going at it.
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