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Anonymous #1
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Why do I get so emotional around girls?
#8433994 - 05/22/08 06:04 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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When I get involved with a girl I tend to get very emotional about really little things involving said girl. I'll analyze situations and details that really probably have little significance, and then put myself in a position where I am the one that was wronged...the one that was not considered fully... and deserve sympathy.
I can logically conclude that I shouldn't be this upset over something that happened tonight, but I still feel just as frustrated and upset.
If someone else came to me with this problem, I would tell them they were probably insecure. Except...I feel like I'm a relatively secure person.
fucking lame.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8434044 - 05/22/08 06:20 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Maybe hormones are airborne.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8434054 - 05/22/08 06:21 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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If someone else came to me with this problem, I would tell them they were probably insecure. Except...I feel like I'm a relatively secure person.
Me too man
I spent a lot of today upset about a girl I am seeing just because she doesn't seem to be in a rush to see me, like I am to see her
Stupid really, I'm a pretty peaceful guy and this hot girl walks into my life and now I'm stressed. I know it has something to do with self-esteem. I feel like I need her and she doesn't need me, even though she obviously likes spending time with me. I'm not in love, but I am attached in a way she doesn't seem to be
Just relax and know there are a lot of us in the same boat. Women probably even moreso.
In fact, I'm glad you posted this, it reflects my feelings today pretty much exactly
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8434056 - 05/22/08 06:22 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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What happened?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#8434166 - 05/22/08 06:57 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Maybe hormones are airborne.
Oh I'm sure the hormones are in the air. We've been friends for years, but I just recently moved in with her and a mutual guy friend of ours. And we've been cuddling up next to each other in bed every night.
If it wasn't for the fact that I would rather not get into any sort of relationship with this girl...I guess we'd be doing more than just cuddling.
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What happened?
I guess I'll go ahead and spell out what happened.
We made plans today to go out of state this weekend. We were basically just browsing through potential destinations, and she really wanted to go to a place that would have cost a little more than I was wanting to spend. I said I would go, but I was obviously doing it kind of reluctantly.
Shortly after we decided on that place, I got a call from my employer saying I would have to work over the weekend...so no trip.
I was bummed as hell as I was really looking forward to getting away for the weekend. Seeing that I was bummed out, she did absolutely nothing to console me or show any sympathy for the fact that something I was very excited about just went to shit.
So, she goes and makes plans to go to a different place where she will be able to meet a girl friend of hers, and tells me how excited she is to go. Which is fine and dandy.
She continues to be completely oblivious to the fact that I'm not going to be able to go on the trip with her, and tells me at one point "To be completely honest…. I was a little pissed when you weren't wanting to go because of the fifty bucks extra but since it's work it's not your fault so it's good..."
That's pretty much it. Pretty insignificant, but I feel very...unnoticed, and kind of pissed right now.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #4]
#8435475 - 05/23/08 01:07 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Maybe she saw your reluctance, misread it as not wanting to go with her instead of the money thing, then she thought that you made up the work excuse to get out of it. That may explain why she's acting 'oblivious' to your disappointment and gloating, she thinks you don't want to go with her?
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8436048 - 05/23/08 07:03 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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A week from now this situation won't matter. Just focus on your day-to-day shit and see where you are in a week. When I have relationship troubles (and I'm having a minor one right now, like you) I just think about all the people in the city around me with worse troubles. There are marriages ending and worse, every day.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#8437221 - 05/23/08 03:02 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
Me too man
I spent a lot of today upset about a girl I am seeing just because she doesn't seem to be in a rush to see me, like I am to see her
Stupid really, I'm a pretty peaceful guy and this hot girl walks into my life and now I'm stressed. I know it has something to do with self-esteem. I feel like I need her and she doesn't need me, even though she obviously likes spending time with me. I'm not in love, but I am attached in a way she doesn't seem to be
And now I just talked to her and she's excited to see me tomorrow and I'm all 
I'm such a tool sometimes
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8439513 - 05/24/08 07:22 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Sup.
You get emotional because you're attached, and it hurts when she doesn't reciprocate your dependency. Every time you feel yourself getting butt-hurt about anything relating to her, remind yourself that you're not in a relationship with her and therefore have no right to cling to her in this way or to expect reciprocation of said clinginess.
In other words, it's obvious you want her, so make your move or move on and stop torturing yourself with a proximity infatuation.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#8439848 - 05/24/08 11:11 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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If a girl that I wasn't even dating yet told me she was "pissed off because I wouldnt spend 50$ more of my hard earned money on her because the other places I could afford werent good enough" she'd be kicked the fuck out never to return. Who cares how hot she is your not even her BF and look how she acted when she didnt get her own way.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8440522 - 05/24/08 02:22 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Maybe hormones are airborne.
Oh I'm sure the hormones are in the air. We've been friends for years, but I just recently moved in with her and a mutual guy friend of ours. And we've been cuddling up next to each other in bed every night.
I'm pretty sure the "Maybe hormones are airborne." comment meant that you where infected with a womens hormones and are acting like a pmsing girl who isn't getting attention from a boy she likes.
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Anonymous said:If it wasn't for the fact that I would rather not get into any sort of relationship with this girl...I guess we'd be doing more than just cuddling.
ok if you don't want to be in a relationship with this girl then why is this stuff getting at you. if any of my friends made plans with me and had to cancle because of work they probably wouldn't get any other kind of consolement than "well that sucks there's always more weekends to make plans though".
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #6]
#8440543 - 05/24/08 02:28 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: If a girl that I wasn't even dating yet told me she was "pissed off because I wouldnt spend 50$ more of my hard earned money on her because the other places I could afford werent good enough" she'd be kicked the fuck out never to return. Who cares how hot she is your not even her BF and look how she acted when she didnt get her own way.
no one ever said anything about him paying for her trip.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8470316 - 06/01/08 09:09 AM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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You're inadequate. Deal with it.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8471592 - 06/01/08 04:08 PM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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Listen to more Snoop.
"A bitch ain't nothin but a bitch, and bitches ain't shit to me."
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Anonymous #10
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8472164 - 06/01/08 07:27 PM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: When I get involved with a girl I tend to get very emotional about really little things involving said girl. I'll analyze situations and details that really probably have little significance, and then put myself in a position where I am the one that was wronged...the one that was not considered fully... and deserve sympathy.
I can logically conclude that I shouldn't be this upset over something that happened tonight, but I still feel just as frustrated and upset.
If someone else came to me with this problem, I would tell them they were probably insecure. Except...I feel like I'm a relatively secure person.
fucking lame.
D-O-U-C-H-E B-A-G
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8472615 - 06/01/08 09:32 PM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hey OP, in the future you may want to post threads like this in the Physical and Mental Health forum. You can do it anonymously there if you like.
You won't have to wade through all the obnoxious bullshit to find useful responses.
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Anonymous #11
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#8473783 - 06/02/08 04:36 AM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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yeah dude, just post it in a non anonymous forum, im going throught exactly the same thing... it sucks.
my last relationship was great, both madly in love etc, but this one is a bit up and downy, so half the time i feel like shit for virtually no reason. sucks. just try and chill with your mates more, she'll start to miss you and see where it goes from there.
if you wanna chat man... pm Haymaker
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Anonymous #12
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8473810 - 06/02/08 05:04 AM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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OP, are you a virgo?
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Anonymous #13
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #4]
#8473818 - 06/02/08 05:06 AM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: she's gonna suck someone elses cock
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #12]
#8474932 - 06/02/08 01:11 PM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: OP, are you a virgo?
Yes I am. What tipped you off?
I say this not really believing astrology, but I'm still curious.
-Op
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Why do I get so emotional around girls? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#8474943 - 06/02/08 01:15 PM (15 years, 7 months ago) |
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And yeah, I don't give a shit about the situation I made this post about anymore. I was being irrational...which is something I do from time to time, despite my typically rational mindset.
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