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Drewwyann
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Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8(
#8214907 - 03/30/08 02:34 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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So my ex-girlfriend's friend, is trying to hook up my ex girlfriend, and my ex best friend (he is still a friend, just not my best friend anymore). I tripped with him just a week ago, and I would still consider him my friend.
I have a very long history with both of these people, and if they were to date (they won't, I know my ex girlfriend too well for me to even suspect something was going on), I would be crushed. So I'm not mad at either of them, just the dumb bitch that is trying to set them up .
I found out that he likes my ex just this morning, and I don't really mind it anymore, just as long as it doesn't flower into anything (which I am confident it wont as stated before).
I still talk to my ex, and I still talk to my friend and my ex said she has no interest whatsoever in having any sort of relationship whatsoever, especially with a friend of mine. But her friend insists on setting the two up.
So i told her to stop while she is ahead, to stop giving my friend hope, and to stop pestering my ex girlfriend, because I know them both well, and even if they were to be in a relationship other than a friendly one, it would last about a month tops, and then inevitable go down the drain.
At first she denied doing anything of the sort, to which I replied something along the lines of "I'm not retarded". (clever I know...) So basically I've just been owning her via text messages today, and making her feel like a retard, because of the seemingly one sided argument, with no conceivable counterpoints to the ones I have been making.
What do you all make of this? Obviously my friend can't control how he feels about my ex, which is fine with me, I've thought about it. I wish he didn't, but what am I gonna do about it? So I've accepted that.
1) setting people up is stupid 2) setting up two people that have been friends for a long time is stupid 3) setting two people up, that have been best friends with the same person not too long ago, and having one of them been romantically involved for 3 years with that same person they were best friends with, is stupid.
So what do you think of this?
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8214936 - 03/30/08 02:39 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Ummm kick her ass?
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8214938 - 03/30/08 02:39 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I'd have to agree with you on all points... setting up people is dumb. If they have chemistry then it shouldn't need any setting up, aside from a simple introduction. And its infuriating when one of your ex's friends is trying to set your ex up with one of your friends- I've been in this same situation. It's like, "how fucking insensitive can you be, you stupid bitch?". It really makes me angry when people fail to take other peoples feelings into consideration like this. If she were trying to set her up with some guy you had no connection with, that would be different, but to your ex best friend? I mean, wtf? Sounds like she has too much time on her hands and is just trying to do this because she is one of those stupid girls who enjoys creating and meddling in the relationships of other people. She needs to get a life.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8214945 - 03/30/08 02:40 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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what are you still talking to your ex for thats your first mistake
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8214958 - 03/30/08 02:45 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Wait, haha, no, tell your friend this... Be like "Ah, I mean thats cool that you like her and everything but... ah, I mean you know she has HPV right?"
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8214963 - 03/30/08 02:46 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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ummmm, she's your ex...
he's your friend...
whatever happens happens, it doesnt have much to do with you. you need to let go and let life take its course. nothing to be mad about.
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Drewwyann
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: AJ4U]
#8214970 - 03/30/08 02:48 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I spent three years with the girl, I'm not going to flat out stop talking to her.
And the girl I'm talking about just texted me, and it turns out she's at a funeral. (who brings cell phones to funerals?) and she tried to use that as leverage. I decided to be a dick, and still make her feel retarded.
So, now she told me to fuck off. =P. Too bad I have no value in keeping her as a friend (she sucks!) or I might care.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( *DELETED* [Re: DragonChaser]
#8214971 - 03/30/08 02:48 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: nightkrawler]
#8214985 - 03/30/08 02:51 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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nightkrawler, I wouldn't be doing this, if my ex hadn't called me this morning, telling me how annoying and aggrivating it is when her friend does this. She can't stand up for herself, so I'm sort of helping her out in ways.
I know I sound like I'm being an asshole, but I'm not.
I know these two individuals very well, possibly better than I know myself, and the only thing that will come of my ex's friend trying to set them up will be... 1) my ex will be annoyed (and already is) 2) it will give my friend hope, that is not there
Edit: I honestly would not care if they were to go out, but my ex is adamant that she does not want a relationship right now, and that if she did, she would not want to date my friend. And from what I've heard, it is my ex's friend that is pushing my friend into things.
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Edited by Drewwyann (03/30/08 02:53 PM)
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8215003 - 03/30/08 02:55 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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it doesn't sound like you're being an asshole at all. it just sounds like you're caring too much about something that you shouldn't.
i know it's tough, i just think that none of it is in your hands, you should just let it be. easier said than done tho.
try not to stress over other people's relationships.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: nightkrawler]
#8215096 - 03/30/08 03:14 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I suppose you're right. This is the only conflict I've been in with anyone in as long as I can remember. and I started it. Very out of character for me, though I don't value this person. But I suppose you're right.
PS, did I tell you that I got a 6 foot didgeridoo? It's pretty bomb.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8215129 - 03/30/08 03:20 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
Drewwyann said:
PS, did I tell you that I got a 6 foot didgeridoo? It's pretty bomb.
no, that's awesome, have any pics of it?
i haven't picked mine up in a little while, i'm always going back and forth between all my instruments. been banging on my djembe and playing guitar lately.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: nightkrawler]
#8215184 - 03/30/08 03:35 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I completely agree with your feelings on the subject but i don't think your meddling is going to do much good, maybe even harm.
You may be coming off as desperate to all of your friends. Now if your ex ever wants to fuck you over or piss you off she knows exactly how to do it.
Your words to your ex's friend are falling on def ears. Quit bugging her.
What im saying is you have no effect on the outcome, if the two of them are truly attracted to each-other than the relationship is inevitable, even if it has to be behind your back. Likewise, if she truly isn't interested in him than your meddling isn't going to somehow make her even less interested, it will just make you look desperate.
I agree that it's an annoying situation, i find it is usually best just to hang back and let whatever happens happen.
Think about it like this, the sooner your ex's friend sets them up, the sooner your friend is going to hear with his own ears that she isn't interested in him, straight from the source. Until he's getting feedback directly from your ex, this could be a long grueling process and your just prolonging your misery.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Mojo]
#8216037 - 03/30/08 07:32 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Honestly (as a girl) I'm pretty sure your ex is telling you this not because she's actually annoyed but probably because she still wants you and wants you to know she's being seen as available to set up. Obviously you still have some sort of thing for her too if her hooking up with your friend would bother you. I don't know how recent the break-up was but maybe its a good idea to distance yourself from her and not make this your problem.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Lndrydusting]
#8216467 - 03/30/08 08:48 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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monkey wrench the idiots plot see whats up
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Konyap]
#8216596 - 03/30/08 09:10 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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So why isn't your ex telling the dumb girl to STFU and leave her alone. Seems like that should work. I'm pretty straight forward though... If I were her if tell the girl to fuckin stop and then tell the guy that she just isn't into the relationship thing right now. No fucking 3rd party interference. That shit is just drama waiting to happen.
Or your guy friend should send her a note... "do you like me Yes No Please circle one"
Lame
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: danksistah]
#8216753 - 03/30/08 09:36 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I am confused as to why you're mad that people are getting together. She's not cheating on you so whats the problem?
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Chemy]
#8218540 - 03/31/08 08:54 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Haha Chemy, that made me laugh. What is CBT though? I googled it, I already knew it stood for cognitive brain therapy, and I found Chicago Board of Trade...
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: Drewwyann]
#8218784 - 03/31/08 10:36 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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what you need to realize is that.. a) your EX is no longer your current. her pussy does not belong to you and what she does with it is frankly up to her b) your friends penis you have no control over, therefore.....
you need to quit stressin about this shit. if they hook up so be it, thats life.
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Re: Idiot trying to set my ex up, with my ex best friend >8( [Re: zSDMF]
#8219014 - 03/31/08 11:35 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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But his friend seems to be ignoring one of the primary rules of manlaw: "bros before hos". This other chick is clearly an accomplice in this crime against manlaw by trying to encourage the breaking of manlaw. Time and again throughout history we see society breaking down because of violations of manlaw. We cannot let manlaw violations go ignored because of this simple fact. If we let one manlaw infraction slide, men and women everywhere will begin to doubt the necessity of manlaw, and chaos will reign supreme. Imagine it; men everywhere will be fucking their best friends wives, dudes will be checking your weiner out at urinals, and your last beer in the fridge will never be safe when people are over. Is this the world you want? Surely not. Stop criticizing this poor victim of man law infraction and step up to help a brother.
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